Words of encouragement for being sober (71+)

Words of encouragement for being sober

  • “It’s a great advantage not to drink among hard drinking people.”― F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby
  • “Better to sleep with a sober cannibal than a drunk Christian.”― Herman Melville, Moby-Dick or, the Whale
  • “Humanity has advanced, when it has advanced, not because it has been sober, responsible, and cautious, but because it has been playful, rebellious, and immature.”― tom robbins
  • “And now I’m right back where I started. Sober and miserable.”― Alyson Noel, Evermore
  • “Of course, it is very important to be sober when you take an exam. Many worthwhile careers in the street-cleansing, fruit-picking and subway-guitar-playing industries have been founded on a lack of understanding of this simple fact.”― Terry Pratchett, Moving Pictures
  • “I once heard a sober alcoholic say that drinking never made him happy, but it made him feel like he was going to be happy in about fifteen minutes. That was exactly it, and I couldn’t understand why the happiness never came, couldn’t see the flaw in my thinking, couldn’t see that alcohol kept me trapped in a world of illusion, procrastination, paralysis. I lived always in the future, never in the present. Next time, next time! Next time I drank it would be different, next time it would make me feel good again. And all my efforts were doomed, because already drinking hadn’t made me feel good in years.”― Heather King, Parched
  • “Your best days are ahead of you. The movie starts when the guy gets sober and puts his life back together; it doesn’t end there.”― Bucky Sinister, Get Up: A 12-Step Guide to Recovery for Misfits, Freaks, and Weirdos
  • “When you quit drinking you stop waiting.”― Caroline Knapp, Drinking: A Love Story
  • “Blind, broke, jobless, and frustrated, Kevin found it difficult to get through the following few months.But he had one big thing going for him.He was sober.It was a new beginning.”― Traci Medford-Rosow, Unblinded: One Man’s Courageous Journey through Darkness to Sight
  • “I’ve always believed clear-eyed sobriety was for the harder hearted.”― Gillian Flynn, Sharp Objects
  • “There is no better high than discovery.”― E. O. Wilson
  • “Which is recorded of Socrates, that he was able both to abstain from, and to enjoy, those things which many are too weak to abstain from, and cannot enjoy without excess. But to be strong enough both to bear the one and to be sober in the other is the mark of a man who has a perfect and invincible soul.”― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
  • “I personally believe this: We have only today; yesterday’s gone and tomorrow is uncertain. That’s why they call it the present. And sobriety really is a gift… for those who are willing to receive it.”― Ace Frehley, No Regrets: A Rock ‘n’ Roll Memoir
  • “We have learned that the satisfaction of instincts cannot be the sole aim of our lives.”― Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
  • “There are hours for rest, and hours for wakefulness; nights for sobriety and nights for drunkenness—(if only so that possession of the former allows us to discern the latter when we have it; for sad as it is, no human body can be happily drunk all the time).”― Roman Payne, Rooftop Soliloquy
  • “My mind may be sober, but my confidence is high!”― Habeeb Akande
  • “To sober up seems to many like making life “so serious,” as if seriousness precluded joy, warmth, spontaneity and fun. But there can be a delusional, blind quality to non-sober festivities. To have our eyes open soberly with all our senses and memory intact allows some of the most rewarding, soul-nourishing, and long-lasting pleasures possible.”― Alexandra Katehakis, Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence
  • “I kept waiting for something bigger, something more profound, something that I could hitch myself to and be carried away once and for all to the heaven-on-earth that I deserved. I kept struggling for control, which was really a demand for everything I wanted–peace, happiness, love, perfection–all at once, right now, and for all time. I wanted life to be perfect, always. And when it wasn’t, which was most of the time, I got really anxious, and when I got anxious, I started thinking about how good it would feel to get high again. ”― William Cope Moyers
  • “We want ecstasy as a way of life, not a liver-poisoning alcoholiday from it.”― Crimethinc, Anarchy and Alcohol
  • “Sex parties, alcohol and drugs lost their appeal to Sven after a while. Music never did, in his continual search for that sober connection–intimacy with one person over a long period of time, as opposed to periods of intimacy with a bunch of random faces.”― Jess C. Scott, Sven
  • “I had no idea what time I’d left, how I’d gotten home, who’d been up here, and how long he, she, or they had stayed. Another night, added to the hundreds that had gone before, shrouded in mystery. Really, when you thought about it, it was creepy. My own life was a secret to me.”― Heather King, Parched
  • “Just as others pray daily, you should think to yourself daily about what you can do to be closer to this Ideal Image. Think: “What can I do today to make my life better?” “What can I do to become more like my Ideal Image?”― Bucky Sinister, Get Up: A 12-Step Guide to Recovery for Misfits, Freaks, and Weirdos
  • “Was I being groomed for some special mission? What possible purpose could an existence like mine serve? When I wasn’t drinking in crappy bars, I was home by myself reading: a life that was achingly lonely, and yet perversely designed to prevent anybody from ever getting close enough to really know me.”― Heather King, Parched
  • “And I’d started thinking about my mother’s last weeks–the way she’d drifted listlessly about the house in her dressing gown, cigarettes in one hand, glass of something strong-smelling in the other. ”― Anna Davis, Cheet
  • “…being sober delivered almost everything drinking promised.”― Anne Lamott, Hallelujah Anyway: Rediscovering Mercy
  • “It is the tendency of deep feeling to subdue the manner rather than to render it too energetic.”― Charles Haddon Spurgeon, Lectures to My Students
  • “If no sober day was wasted, then nobody could take one from her. Even if today brought a slip, the total would stay the same. All that would happen wag that she would not be adding to it. It was like money in the bank. If you missed a deposit, that didn’t mean the sum grew smaller.”― Mick Herron, Real Tigers
  • “Addiction doesn’t hurt you nearly as much as it hurts the ones who love you because you numb your pain, they don’t.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “My story may be rooted in trauma but it is not my only story.”― Elaine Alec, Calling My Spirit Back
  • “Only when an addict learns to love himself will he feel he’s worth changing.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “A needle, a pill, a shot glass…they’ll never fill the void that only love can.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Think of recovery as Double D’s: deciding and doing. Deciding to recover is only a mindset. Doing the recovery is the real miracle.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Addiction is a family disease because one person uses but the whole family gets sick.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Drunkards have a problem, not with sobriety, but with reality.”― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
  • “When we think of addicts, we seldom associate the word discrimination.”― Asa Don Brown
  • “Breakthroughs don’t get planned, they are prepared for.”― Goitsemang Mvula
  • “No drug can give your life purpose, only you can do that.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Relapse doesn’t have to be part of recovery any more than return has to be part of cancer.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Alcohol left me an orphan and because of that, I left alcohol alone.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Your addiction is not your identity, but you won’t know that until you’re in recovery; that’s when the two separate.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “We don’t choose to become addicts but we do let addition choose us.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “They say getting sober in AA is simple, but not easy. Just like winning the lottery, I guess.”― Dmitry Dyatlov
  • “my higher power never told me to get a shitty job in addition to being a miracle (sober alcoholic)”― Dmitry Dyatlov
  • “When you enable the addict, you nourish the disease.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Courage is what makes us do the right thing even when nobody else is doing it.”― Bill Pittman, Drop The Rock: Removing Character Defects – Steps Six and Seven
  • “Threatening an addict is like threatening the wind. Your words get blown away.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Every drunk who gets wasted to minimize his problems wakes up with more and bigger problems.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Addiction shrinks your brain.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “We can fall out of love at second sight.”― Mokokoma Mokhonoana
  • “I hate having feelings. Why does sobriety have to come with feelings? One minute I feel excited, the next I feel terrified. One minute I feel free and the next I feel doomed. I think about lobotomies. Are they like nose jobs, can you just go and have one? Or do you need a doctor’s recommendation? 181”― Augusten Burroughssten Burroughs
  • “Addiction puts you in a prison where the locks are on the inside. Only you hold the keys to set yourself free.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “Sometimes he knew it was best to believe the stories you told yourself in order to get through a day. After all, didn’t the cornerstone of sober living preach getting through life one day at a time?”― Jenny Lee, Anna K: A Love Story
  • “A man is only ever himself when he has let go of the follies of being a man, and sobriety is that steel door separating man from his true conception.”― Grace Curley, The Light that Binds Us
  • “Disillusioned, people simply carried out their work as intended, drinking away sobriety at the end of each hard shift and repeating the process until death.”― Christopher Byford, Den of Shadows
  • “For all the alcoholics and addicts out there, you are loved, stopped being so stubborn and come in from the cold. Wherever you are, there is a brighter light in your sight. Move towards it every day, and keep moving towards it. Even the worst and strongest addiction is a choice—a choice not to fight, to give up, to indulge the impulse, or instead to accept the hands offered you to help, even from strangers, even from the state. Don’t hate those who gave up on you, it wasn’t their fault, you just wore them down. Show them they were wrong about you. Your troubles are meant to mold you into something better, not destroy you, so FIGHT! Another day comes for the better if you’re standing in the right spot for it to hit you. Find the right spot and stay there until it does.”― Dave Pryor
  • “I appreciated her bluntness. Maybe it came with her sudden sobriety. Here she was back in the brightly lit world she had been avoiding for twenty years, and it was exactly as awful as she remembered it.”― Robert Charles Wilson
  • “Because I just don’t really care about what the liquid in my glass says about me anymore. I’d like to tell you it’s because sobriety cured my need for specialness. I’d like to tell you I invented the stapler and can start fires with my mind. But no.”― Kristi Coulter, Nothing Good Can Come from This
  • “I don’t have to live that way anymore”― Kn
  • “If I could open a vein. Not to inject any shit, I will never weaken like that again, but just to feel the kick of it, the old memory. So this numbness lifts. So I could get back there easier.”― Joyce Carol Oates, Man Crazy
  • “Someone who is trying to be sober is often trying to work out deeper emotional issues and is attempting to undo years of habitual behavior. When you reduce recovery to just abstinence, it simplifies what is really a much more complex issue.”― Sasha Bronner
  • “He starts to tell Isaac about his sobriety, but something stops him. Like if he speaks the words aloud he’ll jinx it. Like he’ll piss his demons off and they’ll come lurking about, reenergized, and give him another beating.”― Daniel Abbott, The Concrete
  • “When one looks at the world directly, the eyes fixate the assemblage point, and no more movement is possible. Under such conditions there can be no fluidity or sobriety. Therefore one should not look at the world directly; that is, one should not stare, but glance around casually and at ease. This is true even if one is using the inner vision to look at one’s own inner world.”― Théun Mares, Cry of the Eagle: The Toltec Teachings Volume 2
  • “Is it that we pretend to a reformation? Truly, no: but it may be we are more addicted to Venus than our fathers were. They are two exercises that thwart and hinder one another in their vigor. Lechery weakens our stomach on the one side; and on the other sobriety renders us more spruce and amorous for the exercise of love.”― Michel de Montaigne, The Complete Essays
  • “What weighs us down is not gravity! A little force of kindness can decelerate depravity.”― Igbinovia Ixrael Lee
  • “You’re not addicted to a drink or a drug; you’re addicted to the chemical cocktail your brain serves up when you feed your addiction.”― Toni Sorenson
  • “It is never easy to achieve sobriety, and yet once achieved, it cannot be allowed free rein. Instead it must be brought into its proper perspective. If the apprentice makes the mistake of indulging in sobriety, he will never learn to discriminate with wisdom, but will assume that in the light of his sobriety his decisions are infallible. Becoming enmeshed in self-importance, and believing that everything now stands revealed to him, the apprentice unconsciously begins to twist the truth into what he feels it should be, rather than seeing it for what it really is. Such an apprentice therefore becomes the victim of his own sense of infallibility.”― Théun Mares, Cry of the Eagle: The Toltec Teachings Volume 2
  • “The ninety degree shift does not cancel the effects of old age upon the physical body, but it does enable warriors to retain control of all their faculties, their knowledge, sobriety, and power, right up to and even beyond the moment of physical death. This is every warrior’s reward for having been willing to fight impeccably right up until the final breath.”― Théun Mares, Cry of the Eagle: The Toltec Teachings Volume 2
  • “Sobriety is wealth.”― Petra Hermans
  • “I’m here to tell you that if you get broken, it’s possible to put yourself back together. I’m here to tell you that if you get lost, it’s possible that a light will come, dancing, on the horizon, to lead you home.”Nick Lake
  • “Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”August Wilson
  • “Courage isn’t having the strength to go on – it is going on when you don’t have strength.”Napoléon Bonaparte
  • “This is what I think. Addiction is just a way of trying to get at something else. Something bigger. Call it transcendence if you want, but it’s a fucked-up way, like a rat in a maze. We all want the same thing. We all have this hole. The thing you want offers relief, but it’s a trap.”Tess Callahan
  • “Change must start from the individual. And the individual must want and feel ready to make such change.”Efrat Cybulkiewicz
  • “The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places.”Ernest Hemingway
  • “Real hope combined with real action has always pulled me through difficult times. Real hope combined with doing nothing has never pulled me through.”Jenni Schaefer
  • “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”Friedrich Nietzsche
  • “Whether I or anyone else accepted the concept of alcoholism as a disease didn’t matter; what mattered was that when treated as a disease, those who suffered from it were most likely to recover.”Craig Ferguson
  • “[The] little-mentioned paradox of substance addiction is: once you are sufficiently enslaved by a substance to need to quit the substance in order to save your life, the enslaving substance has become so deeply important to you that you will all but lose your mind when it is taken away from you.”David Foster Wallace
  • “It is important to our healing that we sort out the belief systems we adopt; belief systems that were taught to us and because they are so full of lies, they lead to all kinds of depressions, addictions and other struggles while we try to cope with the manifestations of the problems instead of the roots of the problems.”Darlene Ouimet
  • “God made you for His pleasure. And He made you intrinsically needy and dependent on His unspeakable joy. If you are struggling with sin our addiction, don’t try to kill your appetite for pleasure. It is impossible. Just direct it to the source of all pleasure. You will be amazed to find that He has perfectly and supernaturally designed you to have all your deepest needs met in Him”John Crowder
  • “Recovery is hard. Regret is harder.”Brittany Burgunder
  • “Compassion is the most powerful tool you can have when it comes to healing addictions of any kind. Put simply, what your partner needs most from you is compassion.”Christopher Kennedy Lawford
  • “My identity shifted when I got into recovery. That’s who I am now, and it actually gives me greater pleasure to have that identity than to be a musician or anything else, because it keeps me in a manageable size.”Eric Clapton
  • “Getting sober was one of the three pivotal events in my life, along with becoming an actor and having a child. Of the three, finding my sobriety was the hardest thing.”Robert Downey, Jr.
  • “Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.”Mahatma Gandhi
  • “One who will not accept solitude, stillness and quiet recurring moments… is caught up in the wilderness of addictions; far removed from an original state of being and awareness. This is ‘dis-ease.”T.F. Hodge
  • “There is a saying in Tibetan, ‘Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.’ No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster.”Dalai Lama XIV
  • “Rising from the ashes, I am born again, powerful, exultant, majestic through all the pain.”Shannon Perry
  • “No one consciously chooses addiction to a substance or behavior over his partner. There are always reasons – powerful ones – why a person retreats into addiction.”Christopher Kennedy Lawford
  • “I found the prospect daunting, but somehow comforting, too, because the counselors insisted it could be done, and, after all, many of them were recovering alcoholics themselves.”Craig Ferguson
  • From the ashes a fire shall be woken, a light from the shadows shall spring; renewed shall be blade that was broken, the crownless again shall be king.”J.R.R. Tolkien
  • “Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable.”R.D. Laing
  • “Your best days are ahead of you. The movie starts when the guy gets sober and puts his life back together; it doesn’t end there.”Bucky Sinister
  • “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.”Theodore Roosevelt
  • “From an outsider’s perspective, it would seem like I had it all. It was actually a very lonely time for me because I was suffering from alcoholism… I’ve been the lead in movies, on television shows and nominated for Emmy. But the best thing I can say about me is that people who can’t stop drinking come up to me and say, ‘Can you help me?’ And I can say, ‘Yes.’”Matthew Perry
  • “Listen to God with a broken heart. He is not only the doctor who mends it but also the father who wipes away the tears.”Criss Jami
  • “It takes strength and courage to admit the truth.”Rick Riordan
  • “Anything that inspires addiction or obsession – substances, entertainment, beauty, secrecy – is dangerous in that it can lead to isolation, self-absorption, and disconnection, to paralyzed stasis: an immobility that gathers like a force.”Greg Carlisle
  • “One of the hardest things was learning that I was worth recovery.”Demi Lovato
  • “Human beings have a deep need to bond and form connections. If we can’t connect with each other, we will connect with whatever we can find … It is disconnection that drives addiction.”Christopher Kennedy Lawford
  • “Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway.”John Wayne
  • “Even when I took the drugs I realized that this just wasn’t fun anymore. The drugs had become a part of my routine. Something to wake me up. Something to help me sleep. Something to calm my nerves. There was a time when I was able to wake up, go to sleep, and have fun without a pill or a line to help me function. These days it felt like I might have a nervous breakdown if I didn’t have them.”Cherie Currie
  • “They tell you how it’ll all get better and better as you abstain and recover: they somehow omit to mention that the way it gets better and you get better is through pain. Not around pain, or in spite of it.”David Foster Wallace
  • “Recovery can take place only within the context of relationships. It cannot occur in isolation.”Judith Herman
  • “Courage is found in unlikely places.”J.R.R. Tolkien
  • “The priority of any addict is to anaesthetise the pain of living to ease the passage of day with some purchased relief.”Russell Brand
  • “In a way, we’re all addicts by nature.”Shannon Mullen
  • “Shame was an emotion he had abandoned years earlier. Addicts know no shame. You disgrace yourself so many times you become immune to it.”John Grisham
  • “You are not an alcoholic or an addict. You are not incurably diseased. You have merely become dependent on substances or addictive behavior to cope with underlying conditions that you are now going to heal, at which time your dependency will cease completely and forever.”Chris Prentiss
  • “I believe in recovery, and as a role model I have the responsibility to let young people know that you can make a mistake and come back from it.”Ann Richards

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