Why is your partner abusing weed? 

If your partner abuses weed it can be pretty upsetting for you. If you have a family together, with kids living in the same house, this can cause more problems. We can debate about whether or not weed is good for your partner’s health or not but the bottom line is , you get to have boundaries and if something isn’t setting well with you, then you can speak up about it. 

In this article we will be learning about the following things :

  • Why is your partner abusing weed? 
  • What can we do about this? 
  • How do we fix this situation? 

Why is your partner abusing weed? 

Your partner might be abusing weed for the following reasons:

  • They are stressed 
  • Due to peer group
  • There is something bothering them 
  • It’s a recreational activity 

They are stressed

Your partner could be stressed for a number of reasons. However it has been seen that certain things such as marijuana have proven to be effective when it comes to release of stress. 

Now it is debatable if this can be accepted or not. But the important point here is, as long as a particular substance is giving your partner pleasure or it helps them feel a sense of release, they are not going to see how out of control it’s going. 

This is true in most situations, not just when it comes to weed. The bottom line is that smoking weed does give them a positive benefit. It’s a human tendency to follow a habit that makes you feel good and also gives you a sense of happiness, which is what marijuana does. 

That being said, we cannot accept abuse for this reason. Any habit when abused can become unhealthy. Take for example working out, dieting and so on. There has to be a balance when you do this as well. We’ve all seen many cases where people have either starved themselves, or worked out without resting their bodies. 

In such situations it takes a toll on your health, and especially the health of your heart. That’s why balance is key throughout life no matter what you do and how you go about it. 

Marijuana might relieve your partner of stress but is it the best solution? If your partner is stressed due to a job, family issues or financial issues, then it’s obviously going to take a lot more to resolve these issues than by just smoking marijuana. 

Due to peer group

We’ve all heard of peer pressure when we were young. Especially in our teenage years this is how most of us got a bit adventurous and tried out things we weren’t allowed to. 

Do you remember why we did so?  The main reason was probably to fit in the group. To feel like you’re part of something, to feel like you have people you can count as friends. And maybe even to feel cool. 

This kind of thinking doesn’t have to end once your teenage years are done. This can seep into your adulthood as well. People might get into a habit of marijuana because of the group they’re hanging out with. After a point it gets difficult to say no, and miss out on “hanging out” just because you don’t want to smoke weed. 

This can be a reason why your partner has begun to get a habit out of this. It can also prove to be extremely difficult in this case, because most often it would mean that your partner has to break away from the group itself. Even if your partner decides to do this, they might be met with a negative attitude, a lot of guilt tripping from their peers. 

There is something bothering them 

Your partner might have occasionally smoked marijuana but now you notice that they are doing it constantly and it’s becoming an addiction. 

Has something changed offlate? Has there been an issue or tensions going around ? You would definitely have to think about all of this before approaching your partner. 

There might be something serious that’s bothering them. To help them relax and take their mind off this issue they could be turning to marijuana.  If this is the case what you’d need to focus on is lending them the support to open up to you. 

Making them know that you are here to be a part of their lives and help them out with anything that they might be facing. 

It’s a recreational activity

Other than all of this your partner could be smoking weed just because it’s fun and acts as a recreational activity. They probably don’t see any harm in it and even believe that it is good for them. 

In such a case there isn’t much you can do. If this is who your partner is, you can’t really change them at present. The thing with addiction is that you can’t change a person, you can’t get them to quit, unless they decide to do so. 

You will have to draw the line and understand if this is a person you can live with. If this is something you can accept or not. If you feel like it’s too much for you and this is not something you can live with, then inform your partner about this. Don’t try to emotionally manipulate them into quitting, they will probably do it but they might also resent you for it. 

The best thing to do is explain your boundary and then leave. Let them decide on their own what they’d like to do. Make it clear that this isn’t blackmail, and you’d have to be clear about this in your mind as well. 

What can we do about this?

This depends on the relationship you have with your partner. Are you married? Are you living-in? Do you both have children together? Are you living with children in the same house? 

You’d then have to make a decision as to whether this behaviour and abuse is affecting your children. Or if it might affect them. If your partner is smoking around your children, then that’s a big red signal. 

Another thing to do is confront it head on. Don’t try to make it subtle, and also don’t get families involved. If your partner has been living and you as well have been then it’s time to address the issue. 

Don’t be the enabler by giving your partner the munchies, or money or anything of that sort. You need to let them feel the weight of what they’re doing to themselves. 

Join a support group for your own mental health. This will keep you going and make you feel like you’re not alone in your struggles. And lastly always remember your boundaries, make sure you speak when a boundary has been crossed by your partner. 

How do we fix this situation?

It’s important to keep in mind that you can’t fix this on your own. There is a chance that your partner wants to be this way, this is the lifestyle that they have chosen for themselves and you’d have to accept this and move on. 

The problem arises when you believe that you can change them. That means you’re not happy with them and neither is the relationship, but you’re carrying on with the hope that it will change in the future. 

There’s a difference between being supportive and hoping for something that might not happen. This only means they have different priorities and they’ve made a choice. You’d have to make your own choice and lead the life that you want. Instead of focusing on getting the life you want from your partner. 

You can encourage them to find a support group, you can educate them about addiction in all its forms, not just marijuana. And allow them to make their own decisions.


If your partner has been abusing weed it can really destroy the relationship. Especially if it hasn’t been this way before and it has suddenly turned this way, it can affect your trust and compatibility as well. The best thing to do in this situation is confront your partner. There is no easy way to do this, there is no right time. But you have to do it for the sake of your relationship and especially yourself. And always remember to keep in mind the boundaries you have , and the life you want to lead. 

If you have any questions or queries please drop them in the comment section below. 


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