Why am I always mad? (+How to cope with it)

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This article will discuss what are the main reasons why you are always mad. It will show the symptoms it can bring, and what are the best ways to cope with it.

Why am I always mad? 

There are many reasons why you are always mad. Here they are.

Dealing with stress 

Dealing with a stressful situation, be it at home, at work, or even in a relationship is something that will often make you mad. You may feel like you are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, and this perpetual state of awareness can make you feel mad all the time.

Feeling disrespected 

When people step over you and act disrespectfully it can easily make you mad. You can feel like you weren’t considered in the situation, and if this is something that often happens you may not only be mad at the person but also yourself for letting things happen like this. 

The more you feel disrespected, the madder you can become until you put a stop to it.

Going through conflict 

Dealing with conflict is never easy, it can raise a lot of stress, and have a huge impact on your mood. Having to listen to people, stand up for yourself, and try to find a good way to reach an understanding can take so much of you that it can make you feel mad all the time.

Feeling powerless over a situation

In life, there are the things we can control, and the things we can’t. When you are dealing with things that are beyond your control, and you have trouble with them, it can affect you in many ways.

It can impact your self-esteem and your sense of self-worth, and it can even make you feel mad all the time. You may feel like you just wanted that situation to be over, or under your control, and dealing with the frustration of it can be too much for you.

Life experiences or upbringing 

Some people may be always mad because that’s how they learned to express themselves. If you had more aggressive parents and were always angry, you may have learned that it is only through being mad that you can make people understand how you feel.

It can also happen that you grew up in a house in which people weren’t allowed to talk about their emotions, and because of that they would often suppress it. When that is the case, you can feel that now you have reached a breaking point, and in letting all your feelings out, you are always mad.

Mental health conditions

Many mental health conditions can have a symptom causing people to always be mad. For example, Intermittent Explosive Disorder can make people have outbursts of anger. 

Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a condition that can make people more impulsive, and in that they can become more irritable, leading to aggressive expressions.

Along with those, Bipolar disorder can also lead, through mood swings, people to be mad. When someone is depressed they can also become more irritable, or even picky, causing them to be mad all the time. 

Finally, the obsessive-compulsive disorder can lead the person to have obsessive thoughts, which can lead the person to become stressed, and mad.

Substance abuse

When a person abuses substances, they will likely be more irritable and become mad. That is because those substances will affect the person’s brain, making them act more impulsively.

What are the symptoms of being mad? 

When you are mad, you can feel it not only as it affects your mood. Being mad can also alter your heartbeat, and make your muscles tense. It can lead you to be more irritable, and even impatient with others, to a point it can negatively affect your relationship.

In some extreme cases, being mad can lead you to yell at people, or even to become physically violent, especially when the person feels like they are unable to control their anger. In other cases, it can lead to the person going into reckless behaviors, but some may often repress how they feel.

When you are constantly mad, you can try to avoid situations that would trigger it, as you may also experience a lot of negative thoughts. 

You should also know that always being mad can lead to some health hazards, it can cause you to develop anxiety, or depression, along with heart problems, high blood pressure, diabetes, gastrointestinal problems, and even impair your sleep.

How can I cope with being mad all the time? 

If you feel you are always mad, there are some ways for you to cope with it. Here they are.

Understand the root of it 

If you feel you are always mad, it may be important to understand the root of it all. Learning if it is something that is caused by a mental health condition, by the way, you grew up, or even by the situation you are in at the moment can help you begin to learn more about yourself, and the triggers it.

To do that, you may want to write down how you are feeling, and when you are feeling mad. In time you may begin to notice the patterns and create the best strategies to cope with feeling mad.

Move your body 

Exercising can be a good way to channel how you feel and let all that energy flow. Aside from the immediate release, exercising can be a great way for you to work on reducing your stress levels, and even caring for your mental health. 

Learn some relaxation techniques 

Knowing some relaxation techniques to help you regroup whenever you feel that being mad is taking control over you can be important. For that you can do meditation, breathing exercises, or even yoga. They will surely help you focus more on yourself than whatever it is that is making you mad.

Work on cognitive reframing

Cognitive reframing means trying to look at things from a different perspective. So if you feel you are always mad, it can mean that you are always focusing on the negative in each situation. 

Cognitive reframing is an exercise that will allow you to look at things differently, and consider what other possibilities there are to the matter at hand, which allows you to react differently to it.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ): Why am I always mad? 

What is silent anger?

Silent anger is an internal way people can experience anger. It is something that will never be said, being a non-verbal type of anger. And even though people with silent anger won’t express their anger, people around them may understand that they are angry.

Why do people lash out?

There may be some reasons why people lash out. Sometimes it is something that can be connected to a type of protection. So whenever the person feels like they will be abused, or even rejected, they can lash out and already take themselves out of this situation. 

It may also happen as a reaction to a past traumatic situation. For example, having PTSD and being confronted with something that triggers it, can lead the person to lash out. Some people may lash out because the people around them are focused on pushing their buttons.

When that is the case, the person may provoke you to get you to lash out to see your reaction, or get some sort of validation. Some people may not feel bad for lashing out, and they may do it as a way to devalue others, and regain control of the situation.

And finally, some people may lash out because they have been dealing with a huge amount of stress that has been causing them to feel completely drained.

What are common signs of having an anger issue?  

You may begin to notice that you have anger issues if you have started to hurt others, be it physically, or even emotionally. It may also be that you have noticed that you are always angry and that even the littlest thing will trigger it.

In most cases, when a person has anger issues, their anger will be out of control, and once you calm yourself down, you often begin to regret what you said or done. 

What are the types of anger issues? 

There are some types of anger issues, and understanding which one you have can help you cope with it. You should know that there is inward anger that is often directed inside. It is the type of anger that will lead the person to have negative thoughts, and can often lead to depression.

Inward anger will also cause the person to punish themselves, and remove from life things that would bring them joy. Outward anger is when you externalize your anger, it can be verbally or even physically, and it is directed at other people and things.

There is also passive anger, which often leads to passive-aggressive behavior. In that, the person will often be sarcastic, or mean to others, but without letting out the reality of their anger.

How can I cope with anger issues?

If you are dealing with anger issues, there are a few things you can do to work on it. The first thing you should do is to think before you speak whenever you are feeling angry. So maybe, when you communicate to people what you are feeling, you can do it more positively, without being harmful to yourself, and others.

To deal with the matters that are making you angry you should try to identify what are possible solutions for the matters, and as you talk to people about what is happening prefer to use “I” statements, showing them how you feel about the situation, and not putting the blame on others.

Dealing with anger issues will often imply that you should work on letting go of grudges, and if it is possible, it may be a good idea for you to use humor to deal with difficult situations. 

But when you can’t handle an issue like that, whenever you see anger coming, it may be a good thing to take some time off, breathe, and try to calm yourself down.

Exercising can also be a great tool to help you cope with anger issues. It will not only lower your stress levels but also improve your mood. And if you feel like it is too difficult to manage on your own, you may want to look for professional help.

Conclusion 

This article explained what are the main reasons why you are always mad. It also showed how being mad can make you feel, and what are the best ways to cope with it.

If you have any questions or comments about this article, feel free to write them in the section below.

References

https://www.verywellmind.com/why-am-i-always-angry-5184554

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