Remember this when Life feels too Painful (11 points)
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In this guide, we will mention 11 points one must remember when life feels too painful and becomes too much to bear.
There are a lot of times in our lives when it gets so painful that we no longer believe that the pain will ever end. We give up on life and lose all hope of things getting better for us. We are surrounded by feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. Nothing seems to be working in our favor or how we would want it to be. Life seems out of control and only getting worse day by day. It is on days like these that we need to remind ourselves certain things like there is a happier future that is waiting for us. These hardships that you are facing right now will bear happy fruits that you will get to reap.
We are brave individually who made it this far and are strong enough to hold on longer. We are not alone in this world and someone will be able to help us out soon and this suffering will end. Like the sun rises and sets again the pain and sufferings in life will also end and we will be happy.
Remember this when Life feels too Painful
Points to remember when life feels too painful:
- Things will be okay
- You are an extremely brave person
- You can never be too much
- Things do turn for the better
- The impossible can happen
- Pain changes you
- You are allowed to cry
- Help is just around the corner
- You are allowed to share your pain
- Your reason for pain is justified
- Life will stop being painful
Things will be okay
When life feels too painful, we need to remember and continuously remind ourselves that life will get better and that things will be okay. We need to remember to not lose hope and stay positive about our life. It may sound very easy, but doing it is very hard. You can’t just tell yourself to be positive when life feels too painful to live. At times like these, we need to stay positive by trying to make it through one day at a time.
In case you feel that making it through one day at a time is too hard, try and make it to just the next hour or next minute. Live your life fully till the next hour and be hopeful that the next day things will get better and the pain that life is causing us will stop.
You are an extremely brave person
Another point to remember when life feels too painful is that you are an extremely brave person. It is not easy to deal with and survive the hardships, struggles, and pain that you have gone through without being this strong. You may feel weak at times, remind yourself then that a weak person would not have been able to go through so much as you have.
It takes courage and strength to fight the battles of life. It takes a lot of mental strength to survive through life and hold on to it for as long as you have. Give yourself credit for surviving for so long and treat yourself at the end of the week for making it past one more week.
You can never be too much
When life feels too painful, remember that you are not too much and neither are your problems for yourself or others. We sometimes distance ourselves from our loved ones cause we think we are causing them pain or being a burden on them. But this is not true, you are not a burden on anyone. Go out and be with your friends and family members, they are there to support you and be by your side always.
Your problems and struggles in life are also not too much for your loved ones to be a part of. Include them in your life and let them help you. If you feel they are too much for you to hanf=dle alone and that you are dying beneath their weight, ask for help. Ask someone to help you carry on and to lessen your burden.
Things do turn for the better
Do not give right now as things will turn for the better and the pain that you are feeling right now will ease its way out of your life. The suffering and the struggles that you are encountering right now are going to end and you will be able to live a life that is free from these struggles.
You just need to hold on when life feels too painful and wait for that day which is just around the corner and realize that things are becoming better and that you no longer feel the pain you once did. Give yourself time to heal and for situations to change.
Things changed and once they got changed for the worse, they will again change, and this time for the better. Like the sun sets and rises, citations go from good to bad and from bad to good again. It is the circle of life.
The impossible can happen
Do not give up hope when life feels too painful as even things that once seemed impossible can happen. You never would have thought that life would be so unbearably painful, yet it is today. Similarly soon the impossible hope of everything becoming okay and the pain going away forever will happen.
Your pain will ease out and life will be worth living again and that is something we can be sure of. However impossible the thought may seem, it will always be possible. We just need to hold on tight for that much while longer and all this pain and suffering will end. Leaving us with a happy and peaceful life that is all ours.
Pain changes you
Pain and hardship teach us things about ourselves that we would have never thought of before. We are not the same person we were at the beginning of this hardship. We have grown and become more resilient than ever. In case you feel like the old you can not handle it when life feels too painful, remember that this new is and can handle it on for longer times too.
Pain changes us and makes us stronger and teaches us how to survive, you are not getting weaker day by day but strong. You can achieve and fight battles better now than before cause you have seen pain first hand and survived it. You are a wiser and smarter person who has it within them to fight this through.
You are allowed to cry
You are allowed to cry over the pain you feel inside. Letting out the frustration and emotion that is build up inside is very important. Life is painful and we have the right to be sad about it. We are not happy with how our life is going and therefore we are allowed to grieve over it. The amount of hardships and troubles we are going through is something only we know and no one else.
Experiencing and letting emotions out is a healthy way to cope with the emotions we experience. We should not feel ashamed or feel weak because we cry. It takes courage to accept how and when life feels too painful and to be able to express your feelings physically.
Help is just around the corner
In times when life feels too painful, we feel all hope and help has abandoned us and left us to suffer alone. But it is not true, help is just around the corner, all we need to do is ask for it. There is no shame in asking for help when things get too painful. To avoid things getting worse we must ask for help immediately.
We can seek help from our family members, friends, or loved ones. We can tell them and share with them our problems and difficulties. Sometimes sharing and having someone just be there for us is enough and is all we need. But in case you feel like you need more help than that, you can always contact mental health professionals.
You are allowed to share your pain
Bottling up all the pain you experience is not a healthy coping mechanism and can cause you to feel worse. If you feel all your pain and suffering to yourself you will be overburdened by it and it might get too much for you to handle on your own. We are social beings here to help each other out in times of need and difficulties. We need to stop feeling like we need to keep it all in.
You should go and share what you are feeling with others and let them in. Let them be there for you and share your load. You are allowed and permitted to let your family members, friends, and loved ones inside your life and then let them decide how they can help. Remember when life feels too painful, we can share our pain with others and let them help us by picking up the load that was getting too much for us. There is no shame of weakness in asking for help.
Your reason for pain is justified
Sometimes we feel like the pain we feel in life is just a manifestation of something that we are overthinking. We do not have as much pain as much as we are claiming to. But this is not true. The reason for you to experience this pain is completely justified and valid. You do not need to feel like you are overthinking it. No matter how small or big, if you are in pain because of it, you are in pain.
Sometimes we might feel that our reasons for the pain are not justified because there are people out there with bigger problems than us. But that does not mean that there is only one person in the entire world who is allowed to feel pain and be sad about it. Your sufferings and hardships are as valid as anybody’s in the world.
Life will stop being painful
Though it might not seem possible or true right now, remember that when life feels too painful, it will stop being painful. There will be a day in the future maybe next week, month, or year, but there will be a day when you no longer carry the [pain with you. You will be free from this pain and be able to lead a happy life.
In this guide, we mentioned 11 points one must remember when life feels too painful and becomes too much to bear.
References
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/making-change/201309/what-do-when-life-hurts
