Signs your ex is pretending to be over you (9)
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In this guide, we will discuss Signs your ex is pretending to be over you and some things to consider when interpreting these signs.
Signs your ex is pretending to be over you
If you are wondering about the signs your ex is pretending to be over you, here are some of them:
- They try to make you jealous.
- They become ultra-considerate.
- They act way beyond happy now you are not together.
- They left things at your place deliberately.
- They act angry towards you.
- They won’t let you go get your things from their place.
- They have erased you and blocked you from everywhere.
- Mutual friends become spies.
- Constant communication
You may have ended the relationship a week ago or even a bit more than that, and you thought the relationship was definitely over but you feel how your ex keeps sending you mixed signals or you see some signs that he/she is pretending to be over you but it is not true.
However, be careful because you may have the high hopes of getting back together but even if you see some of the signs it doesn’t mean they are necessarily pretending to be over you. Let’s analyze the signs we have mentioned.
They try to make you jealous
You may have seen how happy he is on social media where he makes sure you see his latest fling.
They may have done this immediately after the breakup and you may have found this very suspicious and you get the feeling that all of it is just for show.
You believe clearly they are doing this to make you jealous, especially if you were the one that ended it.
They may be bitter or just want to get back at you for ending things by showing how happy they are with someone else.
They become ultra-considerate
If you have bumped into your ex a few times and they can’t stop asking about you, how are things, how are you doing, how is your family, etc., it is likely they are feeling miserable and want to know if you are doing ok when they were never this considerate.
However, it could be that they want to know if you miss them, in the case you were the one that ended things or if they ended things, they just want to know if you have fallen apart.
Depending on your answer, they are able to see if you are feeling the same way they are or just remove the guilt out of the way.
Acting extremely happy
You may have noticed recently they have become more active in social media, posting a lot of quotes and memes about how happy they are, how they are moving on with their lives, etc. however, consider how we all know how easy it is to hide behind a screen.
They may have been doing this because they know for sure you will see their posts and believe they are feeling extremely happy now that you are not together.
They have left things
You may notice how after the breakup they still haven’t picked stuff that is valuable to them such as jewelry or their iPad.
They may be waiting for you to call them and ask them when they will go and pick up their stuff, this will give them the chance not only to see you but to spend some time together.
However, if they have left a shirt or a pair of jeans for quite some time now and they haven’t said anything about them, unless it has sentimental value or is their favorite items then they may still try to get them back but if you remind them of their stuff and they say “keep them” then that means they don’t have the minimum intention to see you.
They act angry towards you
Some exes can put on their ‘I am so happy without you’ mask and just pretend everything is ok.
Although, others may get angry at you for no apparent reason, for instance, you may have noticed how they are pretending not to like you at all or as if you never existed.
You could notice this type of behavior if you two work together when you feel getting the silent treatment or the cold shoulder.
If you do not exactly work colleagues, you may notice how their social media is full of posts with angry lyrics or you may have heard from a mutual friend about negative things they have said or complained about you.
Won’t give your things back
You may have left your favorite cardigan or earrings at their place and you have tried several times to get them but there is always an excuse on how busy they are or you just keep texting and you get ghosted.
This could mean your ex is still trying to hold on to the hope of you two getting back together but depending on how things ended, it might mean that they just don’t want to see you again.
Erasing and blocking
These are probably two of the most common behaviors an ex can have when they are still in pain and haven’t been able to get over you.
Most people will attempt to do a digital detox of all the pictures in their social media or any signs of you two being together.
Moreover, they could have attempted to erase you from their social media but they have left one picture in their profile of that camping trip you did with a few friends or may have attempted to block you to unblock you again.
Moreover, secretly they may have been saving a few pictures of the two of you in their cell phone or computer but you may not easily find this one out.
Mutual friends become spies
You may have noticed how some of the friends you have in common seem to be pretty interested in your love life or if you still miss your ex.
This usually comes from friends that you don’t have much contact with, or you don’t really speak to.
However, it could also happen that they have found out about the breakup and they would like to try to pursue you now that you are single.
Try not to give too much away and keep your answers short, because they can use this against you.
Constant communication
This is one of the most obvious signs that your ex is not over you.
If they are still talking to you or texting you just with the same frequency you did before, it is clear they still care and want to be part of your life.
This also shows how they may still have strong feelings for you and are not ready yet to let you go.
If you still love your ex but your ex is not ready for mediation, people worry what should be done then.
Why is this blog about Signs your ex is pretending to be over you important?
Here we have discussed some of the signs your ex is pretending to be over you but it is not a complete list of all the signs so make sure to analyze and interpret the situation accordingly.
Moreover, because you know all there is to be known about the relationship and your ex’s behavior that can give you hints about the possibility of him/her not being over you just yet and maybe they still hope you will get together again.
However, consider how you may also interpret some of the signals as true when there is actually no intention to get back together or they are just genuinely displaying some interest and affection respecting what you once had.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) about Signs your ex is pretending to be over you
How do you tell if your ex is pretending to be over you?
Here are 5 signs that can help you tell if your ex is pretending to be over you:
– Your ex refuses to pick up their stuff from your place or pick them up but leave some behind to have a reason to see you again.
– They are consistently hot and cold. If your ex goes hot one moment and cold the next, it could be a clear sign they are pretending to be over you.
– Your ex removes all the photos together except ONE.
– Your ex continues to have their old routines.
– You hear from your ex’s friends randomly.
How do you tell if an ex still loves you?
An ex may still love you if they try to make you jealous all the time, reaches out to you even when you have established the ‘no contact’ rule, they may call you when they are drunk to make confessions on how much they miss you and love you.
Moreover, they show you strong emotions and may behave hot one minute and then cold the next because they haven’t decided yet whether they should go back to you or move on.
How do you know if your ex is thinking about you?
You may know that your ex is thinking about you if there are signs such as:
– They react to your posts or comments on social media.
– They ask your friends for information about you.
– They keep logging into shared accounts.
– They change their social media behavior completely.
– They try to reach out to you at weird times or when less expect it with any excuse.
How do you know if your ex secretly misses you?
You may know if your ex secretly misses you if they find random excuses to contact you or they joke about missing you, you may see them more often after the breakup, they act jealous when they see you with other people, they get nostalgic, call you when they are drunk or just try to make you jealous.
How do I know if my ex has moved on?
If your ex has finally moved on they will avoid you at all costs, they will encourage you to date other people and try not to bump into you.
Also, if they are in a new relationship, avoid having contact with you by blocking you from everywhere or if they move away, those are clear signs they have moved on.
References
Howtogetoversomeoneyoulove.com: “Top 10 Signs Your Ex is Pretending to Be Over You”
Magnetofsuccess.com: “11 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You”
