What are 10 signs that your wife just slept with someone else? (+3 Helpful Solutions)
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In this post, we will be listing out the 10 different signs that you wife just slept with someone else. We will also be discussing what you can do if you have found that your wife is cheating on you. Cheating happens in marriages for a plethora of reasons, but is always hurtful and wrong.
What are 10 signs that your wife just slept with someone else?
The top 10 signs that your wife just slept with someone else are discussed as follows:
Your wife is often distracted
This is often the first tell-tale sign that something is wrong in the relationship. When your wife has slept with someone else or is having an affair on the side, she may start becoming more and more distracted.
She may also start wandering off in her thoughts when she is at home with you, even if you are speaking with her directly. Furthermore, she may also act very distant from you emotionally. This is mainly because she feels guilty about her affair.
She becomes secretive about her phone
Another important sign that you need to look out for is the secrecy of her phone. She may suddenly become very secretive about her phone and may even have another phone with her without your knowledge.
However, in this case, it is also important to know how secretive she was about her phone before. Sometimes people are naturally secretive about their phones. Here, the rule of thumb is to keep an eye out for any sudden changes in behavior regarding her phone.
She may lie a lot
In case your wife has slept with someone else or is simply having an affair with someone else, she may start to lie a lot, or at least more than usual. The lies may be simple white lies about where she has been or even why she was held up at work.
If you try to catch her at her lies, you can also expect a lot of explaining and unusual details to defend her actions. You may also see her overreacting to your comments and may find her even dismissing your accusations.
She may change her physical appearance
Some women also tend to change many aspects of their physical appearance when they are having an affair outside their marriage. In case your wife is seeing someone else, she may start wearing clothes that may be too revealing in nature or simply considered too sexy for work.
In addition to this, she may also stop wearing things that you find attractive. This includes clothes, perfume and even hairstyles. She may even start spending more time in front of the mirror in dressing herself, especially if she’s out to some place alone without you.
She does not talk to you properly anymore
As many relationship experts often keep repeating, communication is the key for any healthy relationship. If your wife is indeed sleeping with someone else, she may reduce her communication with you.
You will find that you have not had a decent conversation with her in days or even months. In case a serious topic comes up, it may be brushed aside with a callous attitude, or simply swept under the rug.
You will also find that the conversations with her no longer include endearments and flirting. You may also feel that there are no conversations about the future in a bright way. Some men also say that their cheating wives spoke to them as they would to a roommate than a husband.
She may change her schedule all of a sudden
You will also find that your wife’s schedule has changed all of a sudden with no valid reason. For example, she may start coming home much later due to a delay at work. She may start taking a class all of a sudden or start a new hobby which she may not have attempted before.
While schedules can change in spouses due to definitely valid reasons, the thing to look for here is if your wife is changing her schedule all the time in a random manner. She may also start to miss family functions and other such events at the very last minute.
She may not have sex with you anymore
The tenth sign that you wife is sleeping with someone else is that she stops having sex with you or considerably reduces the frequency of sex. On the other hand, some women may also exhibit a sudden increase in sex drive once they start cheating on their spouses.
You may also find unusual requests for role play or may even find that she wants to have sex more and more in the dark where she cannot see your face. Some studies have also shown that cheating spouses may avoid passionate moments like kissing while making love.
Apart from these top 10 signs, here are a few other signs that your wife is cheating on you,
- You often find that your phone calls to her are redirected to voicemail and even texts to her go unanswered. If you confront her, she may give a reason that her phone was on silent or that her phone was not on her person at that moment.
- You may also find that you increasingly spend more and more time alone at home rather than with your wife. Your wife may have a very busy schedule at work and also with other groups and will be avoiding staying alone with you at home.
- Some cheating spouses may also talk about ending the marriage. While she may not give a solid and valid reason while she is bringing up the topic, this is still a red-hot sign that your relationship or marriage may be in trouble.
- If you find your wife constantly showering and changing her clothes as soon as she gets home, this can be another sign that she has slept with someone else or is having an affair. Some cheating spouses also change their entire laundry schedule to keep up their lies.
What to do if your wife is cheating on you?
If your wife is cheating on you, or if you simply suspect that your wife is cheating on you, it can be a traumatizing time in your life. In this section, we have mentioned a few coping strategies and solutions that you can use in such a situation.
- Assess your ‘Red Flags’ correctly. In case you doubt that your wife has cheated on you, you may have some red flags in mind. However, before bringing it up in conversation, it may be wise to sit and properly assess your red flags to see if they are valid reasons for suspicion.
While it is always great to talk things out, things spoken once cannot be taken back. If your wife is actually not sleeping around, having your suspicions thrown at her may actually cause permanent damage. As a result, it is good to go through your list with someone knowledgeable.
- Another important thing to do here is to gather a good support system of friends. If your wife is having an affair, the following days and months are not going to be particularly easy on both of you. During tough times, it is friends who will give you direction.
- Have the ‘talk’. It is good to come out clean and talk about these things with your wife. If you don’t want to do it alone, you can always get the company of your friends. In any case, do it as soon as possible so that you both can make a decision and move on.
Conclusion
In this post, we have listed out the 10 different signs that you wife just slept with someone else. We have also discussed different points about what you can do if you have found that your wife is cheating on you.
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Citations
30 Physical Signs Your Wife Is Cheating on You
https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/relationships-love/a25804434/signs-of-cheating/
https://www.healthtestingcenters.com/research-guides/admitting-cheating/
https://www.insider.com/confronting-someone-who-cheated-2018-8
https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/infidelity
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