13 Signs He Wants To Get To Know You(+ Steps)

This article will point out the most obvious reasons that a guy might be interested in you and wants to get to know you more. It will list and explain 13 reasons why you should take notice about a guy because it is likely he is thinking about you.

Signs He Wants To Get To Know You – 13 Reasons Why

There are many signs that a guy is interested in you and wants to get to know you more such as:

  • He Asks Too Many Questions
  • Ends Up Coming To Every Party You Go To
  • Gets Awkward When You Ask Why He Is Single
  • Inside Jokes 
  • Comes Up With Excuses To Talk To You
  • He Tries To Be Mature 
  • He Is Nicer To You
  • Talks Less, Listens More
  • He Remembers The Details About You
  • Talks About The Future
  • Nervous When Alone With You
  • Does Not Ask You Out

We will now explain each of the reasons above!

He Asks Too Many Questions

He might make a complete fool out of himself but he asks you too many questions. If you look close enough you will see he actually makes an effort to think about what to ask you so that the conversation doesn’t go to a standstill or you get bored enough to leave! He may ask you questions that are totally random or ones that concern the situation you guys are in or some may even concern where the both of you work or study together.

In any case, he wants to get to know you more and the best way to do that is by asking questions. He might get awkward in between and quiet up because he may feel he is bombarding you with too many questions however, help him out and throw a few questions at him to keep him encouraged. It’s better to help people in communicating with you if they have all the right reasons rather than to show such an attitude that may put them off. Its not always a good idea to play hard!

Ends Up Coming To Every Party You Go To

The first few times you may not even notice – your friends definitely do – but you might start to find it weird that this particular guy ends up coming to every party or social event you planned to attend. You may even find out that more than half the times he wasn’t even invited or had no relevance coming to this particular event. For example, it could be an open mic night on poetry and you know for a very good reason he does not like doing poetry but he still ends up there – most probably because he knew you would be there.

The most probable cause of him ending up at every event you go to is him keeping an eye on where you go or what you do in your free time and of course him wanting to get to know you better. Don’t freak out! If he maintains a safe distance and does not intrude in your space but minds his own business and only looks for a few but sufficient instances to talk to you then it’s all fine – he is not a stalker. He is just a guy trying to get to know you.

Gets Awkward When You Ask Why He Is Single

The question most girls have when they meet a nice looking guy who is either smart, sporty or career oriented – all 3 is a keeper – is that of why are they single! It not only surprises women because they have grown up with the image that men never let an opportunity go and women keep their eyes open for such types of guys. It’s about time we change our views about both the genders.

Nonetheless, if this guy is interested in getting to know you more he will of course be single and minding his own business. However, when you do ask him why he is single then he will get awkward because the reason that he has in his mind is likely because of you and his interest in you. However, he won’t be able to say that to your face and you will see him coming up with weird examples all the while struggling to keep his composure.

Inside Jokes

Men want to be with someone who has their sense of humor or understands the jokes they crack about. If this guy is somewhat interested in you it is possible he might try to see if the both of you get along. He will crack some inside jokes not only to understand your sense of humor but to see how much interest you take in his conversations and if you pick up those funny things he likes to talk or joke about.

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Comes Up With Excuses To Talk To You

This is one thing women find quite adorable about men that are trying to get closer and closer to the woman they are interested in. it is quite common that the man who is interested in getting to know you will find ways to talk to you more. However, it is likely that he will face some sort of hurdles hence he will come up with many and  often weird ways to get a few minutes to talk to you.

He might bring up the excuse of work or a group project both of you have in common – once he knows he has your attention you will see how the conversation shifts from purpose to random stuff focused more on you or the both of you. It is obvious so keep your eyes peeled for this one! Don’t give him such a hard time and reward him for his efforts! 

He Tries To Be Mature

Men feel they need to be more mature for women and this is one of the reasons why they will oftentimes lie or hide what they do. It’s possible they are freak gamers who for the sake of impressing a woman will say they don’t play video games just to show her they are ‘mature’. You will see they are trying to be the ‘perfect’ version of a man. However, try and give them some breathing space by engaging in conversations that may not be so mature or serious all the time so they know they can relax around you. They might be surprised to learn you love playing video games yourself!

He Is Nicer To You

One of the best ways a guy can make you feel special is by giving you that special attention or being way nicer to you than all the other people – especially the other girls! He will find ways to show that he is ready to go out of the way for you to make sure you are comfortable. He might even offer to help get your work done when you know very well he is strict about people being responsible for their own work. If you see this behavior in him, know that he is interested in you and wants to get to know you more!

He Remembers The Details About You

Although we all know how good men are with special dates, these guys will put in special effort to keep in mind any details they learn about you. You will be surprised how they remember the small things you casually mentioned in a conversation. They will purposefully bring it up to show you that they are listening.

Talks Less, Listens More

Yes if he talks less and listens more then this is definitely a sign that he likes you and wants to get to know you more!

Talks About The Future

Men get excited when they like a woman! They will want to learn more about her and at the same time keep her close. Hence, many times men will talk about the future in their conversations. This is to give a slight hint to the woman they are interested in that they want them around.

Nervous When Alone With You

Although being alone with you to share an intimate and interesting conversation would be like a dream for him, he will get nervous being alone with you. You will see him struggling to come up with ways to keep the conversation going so that this special time does not come to an end!

Does Not Ask You Out

This one may seem contradictory but it is not! He does not ask you out because he is too scared of rejection. After all, he may have seen many instances where women lead men on only to reject them and this may scare him. He may also consider himself not as good as you are and may hesitate from asking you out because you may reject him. Furthermore he might think you are interested in someone else and hence again not pose the question. So don’t freak out or get upset if he does not ask you out. He is just being careful or is scared you might say no. Why not help the guy out and leave some cues for him? It will make life a lot easier for him and only result in him being and feeling more comfortable with you.


This article looked at 13 reasons why a guy might be interested in you and hence want to know you more. The article not only listed these reasons but also explained them in detail to help the audience develop a better understanding of the topic.

If you’ve enjoyed the ”13 Signs He Wants To Get To Know You” mentioned above, I would recommend you to take a look at ”15 Signs He Wants To Get Rid Of You(+tips)” and ”13 Signs He Wants To Get Closer To You” too.



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