15 Signs He Wants To Get Rid Of You(+tips)
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This article will cover 15 signs your partner no longer wants to be with you in a relationship and is thus trying to pull away from you. The article will also explain why your partner adopts such behavior instead of clearly telling you they are no longer interested.
Signs He Wants To Get Rid Of You – The Top 15
Here are 15 signs he wants to get rid of you:
- No Longer Says ‘I Love You’
- He Gives You The Silent Treatment
- Does Not Give You Attention
- Makes You Feel Alone Even In His Presence
- His Friends Avoid You
- He No Longer Talks About The Future
- The Difficulties Of Relationships
- Pushes You In Places Where He Wouldn’t Be
- One Way Communication
- Spends Money Without Telling You
- He Is Starting To Get Friendly With Other Women
- He Tells You That You Deserve Better
- Does Not Commit To Anything Or Drops Previous Plans Suddenly
- No More Photos Of You Together
- He Seems Irritated Most Of The Time
Let us take a look at each reason in detail! But before that we will explain why men give off these signs instead of being a man and saying they don’t want the relationship to carry on.
He Doesn’t Want You Anymore – Too Afraid To Tell You
One of the most heartbreaking things is going through a breakup especially when you have invested so much time and effort in it and have many dreams and aspirations attached to it. However, everyone goes through such experiences in their life and there is no stopping them because the heart wants what it wants right – and if he wants out he will find a way.
But what is worse for a woman than her partner telling her he wants out of the relationship? Many men don’t want to be the bad guy in the picture so they prefer not to take the blame when it comes to ending a relationship especially when they know the woman they are with has put all her faith in him. What they do is sabotage the relationship and make it so toxic that the woman is forced to leave it herself; not only does she experience heartbreak but she lives with the guilt of not being good enough to make things work.
In this article, we will look at the signs a man shows you when he wants out of the relationship and he is just waiting for the right time to get rid of you! In most circumstances, he will have hopes that his newfound behaviour will do the trick and you will leave yourself.
What Are The 15 Signs He Wants To Leave You?
In this section of the article we will look at the 15 signs that tell you he wants to get rid of you!
No Longer Says ‘I Love You’
Don’t be surprised when your partner stops saying ‘I Love You’. this is one of the major signs he wants to get rid of you and he believes that if he stops expressing his love for you then you will want to leave yourself or understand his true intentions.
He Gives You The Silent Treatment
Another way to determine if he wants to get rid of you is by observing how he behaves around you. If he tends to give you the silent treatment and only speak when addressed then you should not take this lightly. Many men will turn off in the case they no longer want to be with a woman they are in a relationship with. It is the best way to not only avoid conversations with her but give her the silent message of ending the relationship.
Does Not Give You Attention
Remember how he used to shower you with all that attention. Those ‘good morning’ messages and smiley faces as well as the flowers he would bring along while coming over to see you. If he wants to get rid of you all that flowery business is going to stop. He doesn’t want to spend anymore on you especially he has eyes somewhere else now. So keep a note and observe whether or not he gives you that attention you always loved getting.
Makes You Feel Alone Even In His Presence
One of the worst things a man can do is make you feel alone even though he is sitting right next to you. You will feel as if he is absorbed in his work, that football match he can’t stop watching or texting on his phone. Nevertheless, he will make you feel all alone even if you stare at him continuously he won’t take any heed and will continue to ignore you.
His Friends Avoid You
His friends will start avoiding you because they already know what is going on in their friend’s mind. Hence, they might not want to see you or avoid going to places where they regularly saw you. Your partner’s friends – if they get caught up with you – will act nervous, awkward and quiet around you not because they don’t like you but because they know what fate has in store for you – and of course your partner too!
He No Longer Talks About The Future
He might have loved talking to you about all the places you and him would go to and what plans he had in the future that he would share with you. However, now it seems as if he has no future because he never brings it up. He just focuses on the present and really doesn’t talk about what to do next in life with you. It’s because he doesn’t want you with him so keep an eye out for this.
The Difficulties Of Relationships
Another way your partner will make you feel he wants to get rid of you is by mentioning repeatedly the difficulties of monogamy or settling down. Don’t get surprised when you hear him talking about this because it means one thing; he wants to get rid of you!
Pushes You In Places Where He Wouldn’t Be
He will be very encouraging when it comes to you applying for higher education or a job abroad even when he knows he won’t be able to come along with you. He won’t even mention what he knows but you realize it.
One Way Communication
Once your partner has figured out that he wants to end things with you, you will feel as if you are stuck in a world of one way communication. You keep on asking him interesting questions which you hope would turn into long conversations but he only gives you one or two word replies.
Spends Money Without Telling You
Another red flag is that your partner starts spending large sums of money without telling you. This is because he wants to give you the message that he no longer wants you to be involved in the decisions he takes.
He Is Starting To Get Friendly With Other Women
Another hurtful thing he will engage in is getting to know other women or acting too friendly around them. If things get out of hand, you will hear this from other people! You will learn he spends his free time with a particular girl, has been asking other women for their personal phone numbers to get to know them better or he has been complimenting women a lot. He clearly has his interests elsewhere.
He Tells You That You Deserve Better
Another tactic men use to not become the bad guy in the story is to keep telling you that you deserve better. This will earn them your sympathy and hence when you both finally break up you wont term him the ‘bad guy’!
Does Not Commit To Anything Or Drops Previous Plans Suddenly
You will be shocked how he suddenly drops plans you both had been planning for for a long time with the simplest of excuses without even discussing things with you. This is a sign that he no longer wants to be with you in the future and that is why he changes or cancels plans without consulting you.
No More Photos Of You Together
If your partner wants to get rid of you he will no longer enjoy taking pictures of you two together.
He Seems Irritated Most Of The Time
It’s not work or the stress but you. Yes, he is irritated because he does not want to be around you or hear your voice or see your face. Before, he loved to and couldn’t imagine being without you. However, now it’s all different and he would rather be in someone else’s company than yours.
Conclusion
The article highlighted and explained 15 signs that a man no longer wants to be in a relationship with you but wants to get rid of you. The article also explained why men engage in such behaviour instead of confronting their partner that they want to end the relationship.
References
https://markmanson.net/toxic-relationship-signs