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In this article we talk about the basics of self-esteem: what it is, and how you can increase your general sense of self-worth.

We also collected the most inspiring self-esteem quotes. 

What is self-esteem?

The term of  “self-esteem” is used to describe a person’s general sense of self-worth. In other words, how much we value and enjoy ourselves.

We all know that self-esteem can be an important part of personal success. Low self-esteem can cause people to feel overwhelmed or sad.

It may also cause them to make inappropriate choices, enter into toxic relationships, or fail to reach their full potential.

Too much self-esteem, can be a sign of  narcissistic personality disorder, and can be detrimental to personal relationships.

The level of self-esteem at the high or low end of the spectrum can be unhealthy, so ideally, it is best to strike a balance somewhere in the middle. A realistic and positive vision of ourselves is considered ideal.

What is low self-esteem?

Low self-esteem comes from a bad image of oneself.

Do you think you are a good, adaptable, hardworking, honest or friendly person?

Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror or do you think others look better and dress better than you?

The low level of self-esteem also depends on other factors such as your work.

For example, do you appreciate the work you do?

Does the job or function you hold help you feel good about your skin?

Do co-workers respect you?

Low self-esteem feeds negative thinking and leads you to believe all the negative appreciation that some people make toward you.

Signs of low self-esteem

  • you hate or despise yourself
  • you feel worthless or think you are not good enough
  • you are unable to make decisions or affirm yourself
  • you think nobody likes you
  • you judge frequently
  • you blame yourself when you spend time with you or when you spend money for yourself
  • you are unable to recognize your strengths and to express your needs
  • you feel uneasy in your own strengths
  • you are afraid of failure.

A few recommendations of how to increase your self-esteem

Have a positive dialogue with yourself

If you notice that you often get involved in a negative internal dialogue, check the negative statements and scenarios and discover some ways in which you can challenge your negative thinking and increase your confidence.

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Don’t compare yourself to others

And what if your friend is wonderful at tennis?

You just have to figure out what your niche is. Everyone is wonderful at something.

What are your skills?

Don’t fight to reach perfection

It’s great that you want to do better, but remember that standards of perfection are not tangible and realistic.

Don’t give in when you make a mistake

Everyone makes mistakes – it’s in human nature. Why should you be different?

When you’re wrong, don’t argue, learn from experience and move on.

Celebrate the little things

You woke up earlier in the morning, celebrate. Your dinner came out great, celebrate.

Celebrating small achievements is an excellent and completely legitimate way to feel better about yourself.

Surround yourself with supportive people

Don’t stand around people who discourage you.

Find people who make you feel good in your skin and avoid people who tend to turn your thinking negative.

Self-esteem can play an important role in a person’s motivation and success throughout life.

Decreasing self-esteem can prevent you from succeeding at school or working because you do not think you are capable of success.

By contrast, having a healthy self-esteem can help you succeed because you travel through life with a positive, assertive attitude and the belief that you can achieve your goals.

5 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing.” ― August Wilson
  2. “I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.” ― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre
  3. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” ― Sharon Salzberg
  4. “Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” ― Harvey Fierstein
  5. “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” ― Marilyn Monroe

15 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.” ― Mark Twain
  2. “It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” ― Warsan Shire
  3. “In youth, it was a way I had,

To do my best to please.

And change, with every passing lad

To suit his theories.

But now I know the things I know

And do the things I do,

And if you do not like me so,

To hell, my love, with you.” ― Dorothy Parker, The Complete Poems of Dorothy Parker

  1. “When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” ― Jodi Picoult, Change of Heart
  2. “That’s what real love amounts to – letting a person be what he really is. Most people love you for who you pretend to be. To keep their love, you keep pretending – performing. You get to love your pretence. It’s true, we’re locked in an image, an act – and the sad thing is, people get so used to their image, they grow attached to their masks. They love their chains. They forget all about who they really are. And if you try to remind them, they hate you for it, they feel like you’re trying to steal their most precious possession.” ― Jim Morrison
  3. “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ― Sharon Salzberg
  4. “The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” ― Michel de Montaigne, The Complete Essays
  5. “There is no magic cure, no making it all go away forever. There are only small steps upward; an easier day, an unexpected laugh, a mirror that doesn’t matter anymore.” ― Laurie Halse Anderson, Wintergirls
  6. “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” ― John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love
  7. “One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” ― Michael J. Fox
  8. “The man who does not value himself, cannot value anything or anyone.” ― Ayn Rand, The Virtue of Selfishness: A New Concept of Egoism
  9. “The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” ― C.G. Jung
  10. “I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.” ― Frederick Douglass
  11. “Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  12. “Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn’t change the heart of others– it only changes yours.” ― Shannon Alder, 300 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It’s Too Late

20 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “I’m Dylan. I’m so cool. I want to date myself, but I don’t know how! You want to date me instead? You’re so lucky!” ― Rick Riordan, The Lost Hero
  2. “Dare to love yourself

as if you were a rainbow

with gold at both ends.” ― Author-Poet Aberjhani, Journey through the Power of the Rainbow: Quotations from a Life Made Out of Poetry

  1. “I am beginning to measure myself in strength, not pounds. Sometimes I smile.” ― Laurie Halse Anderson, Wintergirls
  2. “Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, “What else could this mean?” ― Shannon L. Alder
  3. “How would your life be different if…You stopped allowing other people to dilute or poison your day with their words or opinions? Let today be the day…You stand strong in the truth of your beauty and journey through your day without attachment to the validation of others” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
  4. “Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.” ― Iyanla Vanzant
  5. “One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  6. “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” ― M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth
  7. “I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.” ― Edward Everett Hale
  8. “As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.” ― Nic Sheff
  9. “If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality.” ― Dr Roopleen
  10. “Women who love themselves are threatening; but men who love real women, more so.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  11. “There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone.” ― Shannon Alder
  12. “for once, you believed in yourself. you believed you were beautiful and so did the rest of the world.” ― Sarah Dessen, Keeping the Moon
  13. “Rejection is an opportunity for your selection.” ― Bernard Branson
  14. “Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” ― Norman Vincent Peale
  15. “My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.” ― Henry Ford
  16. “I don’t want everyone to like me; I should think less of myself if some people did.” ― Henry James
  17. “Be faithful to that which exists within yourself.” ― Andre Gide
  18. “Staying silent is like a slow growing cancer to the soul and a trait of a true coward. There is nothing intelligent about not standing up for yourself. You may not win every battle. However, everyone will at least know what you stood for—YOU.” ― Shannon L. Alder

25 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “I used to be self conscious about my height, but then I thought, fuck that, I’m Harry Potter.” ― Daniel Radcliffe
  2. “Self pity becomes your oxygen. But you learned to breathe it without a gasp. So, nobody even notices you’re hurting.” ― Paul Monette
  3. “I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to the top of mountains. A confident person enjoys the journey, the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition. They reach the summit last because they know God isn’t at the top waiting for them. He is down below helping his followers to understand that the view is glorious where ever you stand.”― Shannon Alder
  4. “Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” ― Brigham Young
  5. “The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.” ― Robert Hand
  6. “Be an Encourager: When you encourage others, you boost their self-esteem, enhance their self-confidence, make them work harder, lift their spirits and make them successful in their endeavors. Encouragement goes straight to the heart and is always available. Be an encouragement. Always.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
  7. “Sadly, the signals that allow men and women to find the partners who most please them are scrambled by the sexual insecurity initiated by beauty thinking. A woman who is self-conscious can’t relax to let her sensuality come into play. If she is hungry she will be tense. If she is “done up” she will be on the alert for her reflection in his eyes. If she is ashamed of her body, its movement will be stilled. If she does not feel entitled to claim attention, she will not demand that airspace to shine in. If his field of vision has been boxed in by “beauty”–a box continually shrinking–he simply will not see her, his real love, standing right before him.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  8. “The greater the artist, the greater the doubt. Perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a consolation prize.” [Modernism’s Patriarch (Time Magazine, June 10, 1996)]” ― Robert Hughes
  9. “People may flatter themselves just as much by thinking that their faults are always present to other people’s minds, as if they believe that the world is always contemplating their individual charms and virtues.” ― Elizabeth Gaskell
  10. “People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.” ― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing
  11. “Self-talk reflects your innermost feelings.” ― Dr. Asa Don Brown
  12. “Don’t waste your energy trying to change opinions … Do your thing, and don’t care if they like it.” ― Tina Fey, Bossypants
  13. “Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.” ― Dr Roopleen, Words to inspire the winner in YOU
  14. “Beauty provokes harassment, the law says, but it looks through men’s eyes when deciding what provokes it.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  15. “Men are visually aroused by women’s bodies and less sensitive to their arousal by women’s personalities because they are trained early into that response, while women are less visually aroused and more emotionally aroused because that is their training. This asymmetry in sexual education maintains men’s power in the myth: They look at women’s bodies, evaluate, move on; their own bodies are not looked at, evaluated, and taken or passed over. But there is no “rock called gender” responsible for that; it can change so that real mutuality–an equal gaze, equal vulnerability, equal desire–brings heterosexual men and women together.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  16. “Each star is a mirror reflecting the truth inside you.” ― Aberjhani, Journey through the Power of the Rainbow: Quotations from a Life Made Out of Poetry
  17. “I believe with all my heart that the cliches are true, that we are our own best friends and best company, and that if you’re not right for yourself, it’s impossible to be right for anyone.” ― Rachel Machacek, The Science of Single: One Woman’s Grand Experiment in Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding Love
  18. “You may be the only person left who believes in you, but it’s enough. It takes just one star to pierce a universe of darkness. Never give up.” ― Richelle E. Goodrich, Smile Anyway
  19. “We do not get to choose how we start out in life. We do not get to choose the day we are born or the family we are born into, what we are named at birth, what country we are born in, and we do not get to choose our ancestry. All these things are predetermined by a higher power. By the time you are old enough to start making decisions for yourself, a lot of things in your life are already in place. It’s important, therefore, that you focus on the future, the only thing that you can change.” ― Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability
  20. “Whenever I am in a difficult situation where there seems to be no way out, I think about all the times I have been in such situations and say to myself, “I did it before, so I can do it again.” ― Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability 
  21. “If you celebrate your differentness, the world will, too. It believes exactly what you tell it—through the words you use to describe yourself, the actions you take to care for yourself, and the choices you make to express yourself. Tell the world you are a one-of-a-kind creation who came here to experience wonder and spread joy. Expect to be accommodated.” ― Victoria Moran, Lit From Within: Tending Your Soul For Lifelong Beauty
  22. “Life is like a game of chess.

To win you have to make a move.

Knowing which move to make comes with IN-SIGHT

and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are

accumulated along the way.

We become each and every piece within the game called life!” ― Allan Rufus, The Master’s Sacred Knowledge

  1. “The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  2. “For there are two kinds of forgiveness in the world: the one you practice because everything really is all right, and what went before is mended. The other kind of forgiveness you practice because someone needs desperately to be forgiven, or because you need just as badly to forgive them, for a heart can grab hold of old wounds and go sour as milk over them.” ― Catherynne M. Valente, The Girl Who Fell Beneath Fairyland and Led the Revels There
  3. “Maybe your country is only a place you make up in your own mind. Something you dream about and sing about. Maybe it’s not a place on the map at all, but just a story full of people you meet and places you visit, full of books and films you’ve been to. I’m not afraid of being homesick and having no language to live in. I don’t have to be like anyone else. I’m walking on the wall and nobody can stop me.” ― Hugo Hamilton, The Speckled People: A Memoir of a Half-Irish Childhood

30 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “A consequence of female self-love is that the woman grows convinced of social worth. Her love for her body will be unqualified, which is the basis of female identification. If a woman loves her own body, she doesn’t grudge what other women do with theirs; if she loves femaleness, she champions its rights. It’s true what they say about women: Women are insatiable. We are greedy. Our appetites do need to be controlled if things are to stay in place. If the world were ours too, if we believed we could get away with it, we would ask for more love, more sex, more money, more commitment to children, more food, more care. These sexual, emotional, and physical demands would begin to extend to social demands: payment for care of the elderly, parental leave, childcare, etc. The force of female desire would be so great that society would truly have to reckon with what women want, in bed and in the world.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  2. “You almost have to step outside yourself and look at you as if you were someone else you really care about and really want to protect. Would you let someone take advantage of that person? Would you let someone use that person you really care about? Or would you speak up for them? If it was someone else you care about, you’d say something. I know you would. Okay, now put yourself back in that body. That person is you. Stand up and tell ’em, “Enough!” ― Queen Latifah, Put on Your Crown: Life-Changing Moments on the Path to Queendom
  3. “Do the things that interest you and do them with all your heart. Don’t be concerned about whether people are watching you or criticizing you. The chances are that they aren’t paying any attention to you. It’s your attention to yourself that is so stultifying. But you have to disregard yourself as completely as possible. If you fail the first time then you’ll just have to try harder the second time. After all, there’s no real reason why you should fail. Just stop thinking about yourself.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn by Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life
  4. “My dear Watson,” said [Sherlock Holmes], “I cannot agree with those who rank modesty among the virtues. To the logician all things should be seen exactly as they are, and to underestimate one’s self is as much a departure from truth as to exaggerate one’s own powers.” ― Arthur Conan Doyle, The Adventure of the Greek Interpreter
  5. “You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” ― Diane Von Furstenberg
  6. “You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power.” ― Louise L. Hay
  7. “You have a unique gift to offer this world. Be true to yourself, be kind to yourself, read and learn about everything that interests you and keep away from people who bring you down. When you treat yourself kindly and respect the uniqueness of those around you, you will be giving this world an amazing gift… YOU!” ― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
  8. “You just have to say to yourself, “I am not willing to accept anything less than what I deserve! I am smart! I am Beautiful! I am a good woman and I deserve to be happy!” It all starts with you.” ― Amari Soul, Reflections Of A Man
  9. “…and that’s when I got to wondering, what would happen if I told her something good, everyday?” ― Kathryn Stockett, The Help
  10. “But if you forgive someone for something they did to you, it doesn’t mean you agree with what they did or believe it was right. Forgiving that person means you have chosen not to dwell on the matter anymore; you have moved on with your life.” ― Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability
  11. “I believe that love–not imitation–is the sincerest form of flattery. Your imitator thinks that you can be duplicated; your lover knows you can’t.” ― Marilyn Vos Savant
  12. “When you work on something that only has the capacity to make you 5 dollars, it does not matter how much harder you work – the most you will make is 5 dollars.” ― idowu koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability
  13. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” ― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”
  14. “Piper had a new entry in her top-ten list of Times Piper Felt Useless.

Fighting Shrimpzilla with a dagger and a pretty voice? Not so effective.” ― Rick Riordan, The Mark of Athena

  1. “The world’s greatest achievers have been those who have always stayed focussed on their goals and have been consistent in their efforts.” ― Dr Roopleen, Words to inspire the winner in YOU
  2. “The best lightning rod for your protection is your own spine.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
  3. “There are so many more important things to worry about than how you’re perceived by strangers.” ― Dennis Lehane
  4. “Dear Child,

Sometimes on your trip through hell, you meet people that think they are in heaven because of their cleverness and ability to get away with things. Travel past them because they don’t understand who they have become and never will. These types of people feel justified in revenge and will never learn mercy or forgiveness because they live by comparison. They are the people that don’t care about anyone, other than who is making them feel confident. They don’t understand that their deity is not rejoicing with them because of their actions, rather he is trying to free them from their insecurities, by softening their heart. They rather put out your light than find their own. They don’t have the ability to see beyond the false sense of happiness they get from destroying others. You know what happiness is and it isn’t this. Don’t see their success as their deliverance. It is a mask of vindication which has no audience, other than their own kind. They have joined countless others that call themselves “survivors”. They believe that they are entitled to win because life didn’t go as planned for them. You are not like them. You were not meant to stay in hell and follow their belief system. You were bound for greatness. You were born to help them by leading. Rise up and be the light home. You were given the gift to see the truth. They will have an army of people that are like them and you are going to feel alone. However, your family in heaven stands beside you now. They are your strength and as countless as the stars. It is time to let go!

Love,

Your Guardian Angel”

― Shannon L. Alder

  1. “Though the funny thing about never being asked for anything is that after a while you start to feel like maybe you don’t have anything worth giving.” ― Lev Grossman, The Magician King
  2. “Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of reality is not your reality.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  3. “Even the models we see in magazines wish they could look like their own images.” ― Cheri K. Erdman
  4. “Whatever is deeply, essentially female–the life in a woman’s expression, the feel of her flesh, the shape of her breasts, the transformations after childbirth of her skin–is being reclassified as ugly, and ugliness as disease. These qualities are about an intensification of female power, which explains why they are being recast as a diminution of power. At least a third of a woman’s life is marked with aging; about a third of her body is made of fat. Both symbols are being transformed into operable conditions–so that women will only feel healthy if we are two thirds of the women we could be. How can an “ideal” be about women if it is defined as how much of a female sexual characteristic does not exist on the woman’s body, and how much of a female life does not show on her face?” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  5. “To lose confidence in one’s body is to lose confidence in oneself.” ― Simone de Beauvoir
  6. “I never loved another person the way I loved myself.” ― Mae West
  7. “I… There was a time when I stopped talking. Just like you. My reasons were a little bit different, but I think the feelings of being ashamed of myself and hating myself are the same. Here, it says to “like yourself.” What does that mean? Good things- how are you supposed to find them? I only know things that I hate about myself. Because that’s all I know, I hate myself. But even if you force yourself to find good things, it feels so empty. It doesn’t work that way. People like your teacher just don’t get it. I think when you hear someone say they like you, for the first time, then you can begin to like yourself. I think when someone accepts you, for the first time, you feel like you can forgive yourself a little. You can begin to face your fears with courage.” ― Natsuki Takaya
  8. “You are not what others think you are. You are what God knows you are.” ― Shannon Alder
  9. “What becomes of a man who acquires a beautiful woman, with her “beauty” his sole target? He sabotages himself. He has gained no friend, no ally, no mutual trust: She knows quite well why she has been chosen. He has succeeded in buying something: the esteem of other men who find such an acquisition impressive.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  10. “Don’t try to fix me, I’m not broken…” ― Evanescence
  11. “I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.” ― Madonna
  12. “I feel keeping a promise to yourself is a direct reflection of the love you have for yourself. I used to make promises to myself and find them easy to break. Today, I love myself enough to not only make a promise to myself, but I love myself enough to keep that promise” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

35 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “I often stood in front of the mirror alone, wondering how ugly a person could get.” ― Charles Bukowski, Ham on Rye
  2. “Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ― LOUISE L. HAY, You Can Heal Your Life
  3. “A diamond doesn’t start out polished and shining. It once was nothing special, but with enough pressure and time, becomes spectacular. I’m that diamond.” ― Solange nicole
  4. “A monster that refused, sometimes, to behave like a monster. When a monster stopped behaving like a monster, did it stop being a monster? Did it become something else?” ― Kristin Cashore, Graceling
  5. “If you don’t know what you want, you’ll never find it.

If you don’t know what you deserve, you’ll always settle for less.

You will wander aimlessly, uncomfortably numb in your comfort zone, wondering how life has ended up here.

Life starts now, live, love, laugh and let your light shine!” ― Rob Liano

  1. “We’re miserable because we think that we are mere individuals, alone with our fears and flaws and resentment and mortality.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
  2. “The beauty myth is always actually prescribing behaviour and not appearance.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  3. “In your own life it’s important to know how spectacular you are.” ― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
  4. “Your self esteem is like a notch below Kafka’s.” ― Woody Allen, Manhattan
  5. “Whenever you are going through life’s challenges, remember that for iron to be cast into its desired form, it must first go through intense heat.” ― idowu koyenikan, All You Need Is a Ball: What Soccer Teaches Us about Success in Life and Business
  6. “I don’t understand women that call themselves a “bitch”. It doesn’t empower a woman. Rather, it reveals to everyone that you were deeply hurt at one time. Because of the pain you’re still carrying, you will continue to hurt anyone that reminds you of those moments when you let your guard down and were fooled. Sadly, it sends a clear message to the observant that you are still hurt. If only women would realize that “we all” have moments of stupidity then they would stop comparing themselves to the masses.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  7. “With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism, and accusations slowly eat away at the victim’s self-esteem until he or she is incapable of judging a situation realistically. He or she may begin to believe that there is something wrong with them or even fear they are losing their mind. They have become so beaten down emotionally that they blame themselves for the abuse.” ― Beverly Engel, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing
  8. “The way you think about yourself determines your reality. You are not being hurt by the way people think about you. Many of those people are a reflection of how you think about yourself.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  9. “I am sure it is everyone’s experience, as it has been mine, that any discovery we make about ourselves or the meaning of life is never, like a scientific discovery, a coming upon something entirely new and unsuspected; it is rather, the coming to conscious recognition of something, which we really knew all the time but, because we were unwilling to formulate it correctly, we did not hitherto know we knew.” ― W.H. Auden, Markings
  10. “Believe in yourself up here and it will make you stronger than you could ever imagine.” ― Sarah Dessen, Keeping the Moon
  11. “Every woman knows that, regardless of all her other achievements, she is a failure if she is not beautiful.” ― Germaine Greer, The Whole Woman
  12. “At the core of your heart, you are perfect and pure. No one and nothing can alter that.” ― Amit Ray, Meditation: Insights and Inspirations
  13. “This book probably makes it seem like I hate myself and everything I do. But that’s not totally true. I mostly just hate every person I’ve ever been. I’m actually fine with myself right now.” ― Jesse Andrews, Me and Earl and the Dying Girl
  14. “Men were created before women. … But that doesn’t prove their superiority – rather, it proves ours, for they were born out of the lifeless earth in order that we could be born out of living flesh. And what’s so important about this priority in creation, anyway? When we are building, we lay foundations on the ground first, things of no intrinsic merit or beauty, before subsequently raising up sumptuous buildings and ornate palaces. Lowly seeds are nourished in the earth, and then later the ravishing blooms appear; lovely roses blossom forth and scented narcissi.” ― Moderata Fonte, The Worth of Women: Wherein Is Clearly Revealed Their Nobility and Their Superiority to Men
  15. “You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life!” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
  16. “The greater a child’s terror, and the earlier it is experienced, the harder it becomes to develop a strong and healthy sense of self.” ― Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
  17. “A person is wise if he listens to millions of advice and doesn’t implement any of it.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson
  18. “Love me or hate me, I swear it won’t make or break me.” ― Lil Wayne
  19. “No man ever got very high by pulling other people down. The intelligent merchant does not knock his competitors. The sensible worker does not work with those who work with him. Don’t knock your friends. Don’t knock your enemies. Don’t knock yourself.” ― Alfred Lord Tennyson
  20. “I don’t entirely approve of some of the things I have done, or am, or have been. But I’m me. God knows, I’m me.” ― Elizabeth Taylor
  21. “Let me ask you something, in all the years that you have…undressed in front of a gentleman has he ever asked you to leave? Has he ever walked out and left? No? It’s because he doesn’t care! He’s in a room with a naked girl, he just won the lottery. I am so tired of saying no, waking up in the morning and recalling every single thing I ate the day before, counting every calorie I consumed so I know just how much self loathing to take into the shower. I’m going for it. I have no interest in being obese, I’m just through with the guilt. So this is what I’m going to do, I’m going to finish this pizza, and then we are going to go watch the soccer game, and tomorrow we are going to go on a little date and buy ourselves some bigger jeans.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert
  22. “I see at intervals the glance of a curious sort of bird through the close set bars of a cage: a vivid, restless, resolute captive is there; were it but free, it would soar cloud-high.” ― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre
  23. “even

in the loneliest moments

i have been there

for myself.” ― Sanober Khan

  1. “[T]thou canst not think worse of me than I do of myself.” ― Robert Burton, The Anatomy of Melancholy
  2. “If you want to find the real competition, just look in the mirror. After a while you’ll see your rivals scrambling for second place.” ― Criss Jami, Killosophy
  3. “I’ve wasted a lot of time in my life. I’ve thought too much about what people will say or what they’re gonna think. And sometimes it’s over silly things like going to the grocery store or going to the post office. But there have been times when I really stopped myself from doing something special. All because I was scared someone might look at me and decide I wasn’t good enough. But you don’t have to bother with that nonsense. I wasted all that time so you don’t have to.” ― Julie Murphy, Dumplin’
  4. “People who repeatedly attack your confidence and self-esteem are quite aware of your potential, even if you are not.” ― Wayne Gerard Trotman
  5. “The Victorian woman became her ovaries, as today’s woman has become her “beauty.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  6. “Don’t belittle yourself. Be BIG yourself.” ― Corita Kent
  7. “Never underestimate yourself” ― Carolyn Mackler, The Earth, My Butt, and Other Big Round Things

40 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “I’m not a wannabe. I’m who I wanna be.” ― Hawk Nelson
  2. “It’s hard to feel desire when you don’t feel desirable” ― Christine Feehan, Safe Harbor
  3. “Write it in your heart you are the most beautiful soul of the Universe. Realize it, honor it and celebrate the life.”― Amit Ray, Nonviolence: The Transforming Power
  4. “Forget about self-image and self-judgment. It’s about self-love, and no one teaches you that at school. No one teaches you that if you accept and love yourself, nothing and no one can touch you. This is the only face and body you’re ever going to get, so be comfortable and happy in it. Own it. Own every aspect of who you are and present it to the world with the utmost pride.” ― Connor Franta, A Work in Progress
  5. “I’ve always been told my presence brightened up any room. One might think that went doubly for a dank underground cell.” (Jace)” ― Cassandra Clare, City of Glass
  6. “You’ve been criticising yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ― Louise Hay
  7. “Be patient. Your skin took a while to deteriorate. Give it some time to reflect a calmer inner state. As one of my friends states on his Facebook profile: “The true Losers in Life, are not those who Try and Fail, but those who Fail to Try.” ― Jess C. Scott, Clear: A Guide to Treating Acne Naturally
  8. “If a guy can’t even handle my words, I don’t think he can handle me as a person.” ― Anna Bayes, Snug Fit
  9. “There’s always this one girl. She’s desperate and she’s weird and she’s jealous, and you’re stuck with her, no matter how hard you try to get her off your back. Just throw some really fucked-up self-esteem issues into the mix and you have Kara.” ― Courtney Summers, Some Girls Are
  10. “Fat-bashing in all its varied forms–criticism, exclusion, shaming, fat talk, self-deprecation, jokes, gossip, bullying–is one of the last acceptable forms of prejudice. From a very young age, before they can walk away or defend themselves, women are taught that they are how they look, not what they do or what they know. ” ― Robyn Silverman, Good Girls Don’t Get Fat: How Weight Obsession Is Messing Up Our Girls and How We Can Help Them Thrive Despite It
  11. “You will act like the sort of person you conceive yourself to be.” ― Maxwell Maltz, Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life
  12. “When the river of emotions bursts its banks and expectations go over the edges of reality, the brain creates hallucinations. Ringxiety-stricken people feel illusive vibrating alerts and hear phantom phone rings, since absence of ringing generates scaring emptiness and destroys their self-esteem. (“Kein Schwein ruft mich an” )” ― Erik Pevernagie
  13. “When we start being too impressed by the results of our work, we slowly come to the erroneous conviction that life is one large scoreboard where someone is listing the points to measure our worth. And before we are fully aware of it, we have sold our soul to the many grade-givers. That means we are not only in the world, but also of the world. Then we become what the world makes us. We are intelligent because someone gives us a high grade. We are helpful because someone says thanks. We are likable because someone likes us. And we are important because someone considers us indispensable. In short, we are worthwhile because we have successes. And the more we allow our accomplishments — the results of our actions — to become the criteria of our self-esteem, the more we are going to walk on our mental and spiritual toes, never sure if we will be able to live up to the expectations which we created by our last successes. In many people’s lives, there is a nearly diabolic chain in which their anxieties grow according to their successes. This dark power has driven many of the greatest artists into self-destruction.” ― Henri J.M. Nouwen, Out of Solitude: Three Meditations on the Christian Life
  14. “If you don’t like yourself, you can’t like other people. — Lazarus Long.” ― Robert A. Heinlein
  15. “I’d learned to avoid mirrors. They never seemed to show me what I wanted to see.” ― Leigh Bardugo, Shadow and Bone
  16. “I have to admit it humbly, mon cher compatriote, I was always bursting with vanity. I, I, I is the refrain of my whole life, which could be heard in everything I said. I could never talk without boasting, especially if I did so with that shattering discretion that was my specialty. It is quite true that I always lived free and powerful. I simply felt released in regard to all the for the excellent reason that I recognized no equals. I always considered myself more intelligent than everyone else, as I’ve told you, but also more sensitive and more skillful, a crack shot, an incomparable driver, a better lover. Even in the fields in which it was easy for me to verify my inferiority–like tennis, for instance, in which I was but a passable partner–it was hard for me not to think that, with a little time and practice, I would surpass the best players. I admitted only superiorities in me and this explained my good will and serenity. When I was concerned with others, I was so out of pure condescension, in utter freedom, and all the credit went to me: my self-esteem would go up a degree.” ― Albert Camus, The Fall
  17. “Nobody holds a good opinion of a man who holds a low opinion of himself.” ― Anthony Trollope, Orley Farm
  18. “At every given moment we are absolutely perfect for what is required for our journey.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
  19. “Women could probably be trained quite easily to see men first as sexual things. If girls never experienced sexual violence; if a girl’s only window on male sexuality were a stream of easily available, well-lit, cheap images of boys slightly older than herself, in their late teens, smiling encouragingly and revealing cuddly erect penises the color of roses or mocha, she might well look at, masturbate to, and, as an adult, “need” beauty pornography based on the bodies of men. And if those initiating penises were represented to the girl as pneumatically erectible, swerving neither left nor right, tasting of cinnamon or forest berries, innocent of random hairs, and ever ready; if they were presented alongside their measurements, length, and circumference to the quarter inch; if they seemed to be available to her with no troublesome personality attached; if her sweet pleasure seemed to be the only reason for them to exist–then a real young man would probably approach the young woman’s bed with, to say the least, a failing heart.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  20. “I have known friendship love, parental love, romantic love, family love and unrequited love in my life time, but the only love that made a difference was self love. You don’t need confirmation from the world or another person that you matter. You simply do matter. When you finally believe that truth and live it then you can do amazing things with your life!”-  Shannon Alder
  21. “She might be without country, without nation, but inside her there was still a being that could exist and be free, that could simply say I am without adding a this, or a that, without saying I am Indian, Guyanese, English, or anything else in the world.” ― Sharon Maas, Of Marriageable Age
  22. “Low self-esteem causes me to believe that I have so little worth that my response does not matter. With repentance, however, I understand that being worth so much to God is why my response is so important. Repentance is remedial work to mend our minds and hearts, which get bent by sin.” ― John Ortberg, The Me I Want to Be: Becoming God’s Best Version of You
  23. “Often people that settle in life are those that only do what they can with what they have and where they are. Never settle for someone that didn’t know your worth from the beginning, or build a life without God in it. Live beyond your low expectations.” ― Shannon l. Alder
  24. “The French girls would tell you, to believe that you were pretty would make you so.” ― Elizabeth Gaskell, Wives and Daughters
  25. “If you want me, you’ll have to earn me. And, mister, I don’t come cheap.” ― Susan Elizabeth Phillips, Fancy Pants
  26. “You don’t have to be part of a couple to be happy, you know.” ― Phyllis Reynolds Naylor, Alice Alone
  27. “Last time I talked to her she didn’t sound like herself. She’s depressed. It’s awful what happens when people run out of money. They start thinking they’re no good.” ― Barbara Kingsolver, Pigs in Heaven
  28. “Is the beauty myth good to men? It hurts them by teaching them how to avoid loving women. It prevents men from actually seeing women. It does not, contrary to its own professed ideology, stimulate and gratify sexual longing. In suggesting a vision in place of a woman, it has a numbing effect, reducing all senses but the visual, and impairing even that.” ― Naomi Wolf
  29. “Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.” ― Lucille Ball
  30. “What are other women really thinking, feeling, experiencing, when they slip away from the gaze and culture of men?” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  31. “When people speak of great men, they think of men like Napoleon – men of violence. Rarely do they think of peaceful men. But contrast the reception they will receive when they return home from their battles. Napoleon will arrive in pomp and in power, a man who’s achieved the very summit of earthly ambition. And yet his dreams will be haunted by the oppressions of war. William Wilberforce, however, will return to his family, lay his head on his pillow and remember: the slave trade is no more.” ― Charles Fox
  32. “Our society does reward beauty on the outside over health on the inside. Women must not be blamed for choosing short-term beauty “fixes” that harm our long-term health, since our life spans are inverted under the beauty myth, and there is no great social or economic incentive for women to live a long time. A thin young woman with precancerous lungs [who smokes to stay thin] is more highly rewarded socially that a hearty old crone. Spokespeople sell women the Iron Maiden [an intrinsically unattainable standard of beauty used to punish women for their failure to achieve and conform to it]and name her “Health”: if public discourse were really concerned with women’s health, it would turn angrily upon this aspect of the beauty myth.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  33. “No matter how valuable you are and your ideas, fools will certainly play both of you down, so exclude yourselves from the inflammatory environs of fools.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson
  34. “What is it that would make a creature as fierce, majestic and powerful as a lion is, subject itself to the intimidation of a man, a whip and a chair? The lion has been taught to forget what it is.” ― Iyanla Vanzant, Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You’re Going Through
  35. “In essence, you are neither inferior or superior to anyone. True self-esteem and true humility arise out of that realization. In the eyes of the ego, self-esteem and humility are contradictory. In truth, they are one and the same.” ― Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose
  36. “As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.” ― Hans Selye
  37. “Healthy emotions come in all sizes. Healthy minds come in all sizes. And healthy bodies come in all sizes.” ― Cheri K. Erdman
  38. “The moment you have to recruit people to put another person down, in order to convince someone of your value is the day you dishonor your children, your parents and your God. If someone doesn’t see your worth the problem is them, not people outside your relationship.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  39. “If the map doesn’t agree with the ground the map is wrong” ― Gordon Livingston, Too Soon Old, Too Late Smart: Thirty True Things You Need to Know Now
  40. “The beauty myth sets it up this way: A high rating as an art object is the most valuable tribute a woman can exact from her lover. If he appreciates her face and body because it is hers, that is next to worthless. It is very neat: The myth contrives to make women offend men by scrutinizing honest appreciation when they give it; it can make men offend women merely by giving them honest appreciation. It can manage to contaminate the sentence “You’re beautiful,” which is next to “I love you” in expressing a bond of regard between a woman and a man. A man cannot tell a woman that he loves to look at her without risking making her unhappy. If he never tells her, she is destined to be unhappy. And the “luckiest” woman of all, told she is loved because she’s “beautiful,” is often tormented because she lacks the security of being desired because she looks like who she lovably is.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth

45 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “Only those few who are able to surpass their fear of death completely can fully experience the highest forms of life; not the mundane life of the mortal, but the godly life of the resurrected.” ― Zeena Schreck
  2. “When you think this pain is all you deserve, you are right. You are the only one that can decide how long you will walk in hell.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  3. “Self-esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves.” ― Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
  4. “Some people stand and move as if they have no right to the space they occupy. They wonder why others often fail to treat them with respect–not realizing that they have signalled others that it is not necessary to treat them with respect.” ― Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
  5. “A fine glass vase goes from treasure to trash, the moment it is broken. Fortunately, something else happens to you and me. Pick up your pieces. Then, help me gather mine.” ― Vera Nazarian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration
  6. “He was lovable the way a child is lovable, and he was capable of returning love with a childlike purity. If love is nevertheless excluded from his work, it’s because he never quite felt that he deserved to receive it. He was a lifelong prisoner on the island of himself. What looked like gentle contours from a distance were in fact sheer cliffs. Sometimes only a little of him was crazy, sometimes nearly all of him, but, as an adult, he was never entirely not crazy. What he’d seen of his id while trying to escape his island prison by way of drugs and alcohol, only to find himself even more imprisoned by addiction, seems never to have ceased to be corrosive of his belief in his lovability. Even after he got clean, even decades after his late-adolescent suicide attempt, even after his slow and heroic construction of a life for himself, he felt undeserving. And this feeling was intertwined, ultimately to the point of indistinguishability, with the thought of suicide, which was the one sure way out of his imprisonment; surer than addiction, surer than fiction, and surer, finally, than love.” ― Jonathan Franzen
  7. “Don’t doubt yourself, that’s what haters are for.” ― Turcois Ominek
  8. “What defines you isn’t how many times you crash but the number of times you get back.” ― Sarah Dessen, Along for the Ride
  9. “I’m nothing great. But I’m a rose… I’m a rose whether I’m admired or not, I’m a rose whether anyone’s crazy about me or not… Like I said, nothing great. Just a rose… But, do you know what it means to be a rose, my friend? Being a rose means ‘freedom.’ It means not existing by the praises of Others or not ceasing to exist by their disapproval.” ― Serdar Özkan
  10. “Accepting personal responsibility for your life frees you from outside influences – increases your self-esteem – boosts confidence in your ability to make decisions – and ultimately leads to achieving success in life.” ― Roy T. Bennett
  11. “God did not create you to fail!” ― Tommy Coletta
  12. “People simply feel better about themselves when they’re good at something.” ― Stephen R. Covey, The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness
  13. “The price tag you put on yourself decides your worth. Underestimating yourself will cost you dearly.” ― Apoorve Dubey
  14. “Many Christians… find themselves defeated by the most psychological weapon that Satan uses against them. This weapon has the effectiveness of a deadly missile. Its name? Low self-esteem. Satan’s greatest psychological weapon is a gut level feeling of inferiority, inadequacy, and low self-worth This feeling shackles many Christians, in spite of wonderful spiritual experiences and knowledge of God’s Word. Although they understand their position as sons and daughters of God, they are tied up in knots, bound by a terrible feeling of inferiority, and chained to a deep sense of worthlessness.” ― David Seamands, Healing For Damaged Emotions
  15. “If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can’t accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.” ― Rosalynn Carter
  16. “You are not an option, a choice or a soft place to land after a long battle. You were meant to be the one. If you can wrap yourself around the idea that you are something incredible, then you will stop excusing behavior that rapes your very soul. You were never meant to teach someone to love you. You were meant to be loved.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  17. “You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
    You can ever win a prize.” ― Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich: The Landmark Bestseller Now Revised and Updated for the 21st Century
  18. “They are called, “SELF-worth” and “SELF-esteem” for a reason… we can’t let others decide what we are worth, that is so dangerous! Empower yourself!” ― Jaeda DeWalt
  19. “Self-esteem isn’t everything; it’s just that there’s nothing without it.” ― Gloria Steinem
  20. “I am bigger than the box I’m in.” ― Rachel Cohn
  21. “If the sound of happy children is grating on your ears, I don’t think it’s the children who need to be adjusted.” ― Stefan Molyneux
  22. “The first step toward being loved is learning to love what you see when you look in the mirror.” ― Tadahiko Nagao
  23. “What editors are obliged to appear to say that men want from women is actually what their advertisers want from women.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  24. “The first place where self-esteem begins its journey is within us.” ― Stephen Richards, Boost Your Self Esteem
  25. “Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” ― Deborah Day
  26. “And if you can’t see anything beautiful about yourself, get a better mirror. Look a little closer. Stare a little longer. Because there’s something inside you that made you keep trying despite everyone who told you to quit.” ― Shane Koyczan, To This Day: For the Bullied and Beautiful
  27. “There’s no weakness as great as false strength.” ― Stefan Molyneux
  28. “You will be your best self when you take time to understand what you really need, feel and want.” ― Deborah Day, BE HAPPY NOW!
  29. “It is naive to think that self-assertiveness is easy. To live self-assertively–which means to live authentically–is an act of high courage. That is why so many people spend the better part of their lives in hiding–from others and also from themselves.” ― Nathaniel Branden
  30. “True beauty radiates not from outer cosmetics, but from the simple joy of making a difference for those that need your voice, passion, and time without expecting or wanting anything in return…” ― Deborah Barnes
  31. “Managing stress is about controlling the way you respond to events and having an open mind about the things that stress you. Learn to talk to God during the day and ask Him to give you peace and to help you with your problems” ― Michele Woolley, God’s Favor – Breath Of Heaven
  32. “Self-discipline is the ability to organize your behavior over time in the service of specific goals.” ― Nathaniel Branden
  33. “To shift your life in a desired direction, you must powerfully shift your subconscious.” ― Kevin Michel, Moving Through Parallel Worlds To Achieve Your Dreams
  34. “with man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26″).” ― Michele Woolley, God’s Favor – Breath Of Heaven”
  35. “To live in a culture in which women are routinely naked where men aren’t is to learn inequality in little ways all day long. So even if we agree that sexual imagery is in fact a language, it is clearly one that is already heavily edited to protect men’s sexual–and hence social–confidence while undermining that of women.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  36. “The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won’t be with others, but with yourself.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  37. “I exist as I am, that is enough,

If no other in the world be aware I sit content,

And if each and all be aware I sit content.

One world is aware, and by the far the largest to me, and that is myself.”

― Walt Whitman

  1. “Nothing is better for self-esteem than survival.” ― Martha Gellhorn, Travels With Myself and Another
  2. “Unrequited love is the only emotion that allows sane people to taste the “life sentence” of someone with bipolar disorder. The longer they hang onto a lost cause the more unstable they look to everyone else. They contradict their own belief systems and statements, by circling the drain with two competing emotions—love and hate.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  3. “Starting over can be the scariest thing in the entire world, whether it’s leaving a lover, a school, a team, a friend or anything else that feels like a core part of our identity but when your gut is telling you that something here isn’t right or feels unsafe, I really want you to listen and trust in that voice.” ― Jennifer Elisabeth, Born Ready: Unleash Your Inner Dream Girl
  4. “As you become more aligned with the truth of who you are, the question of liking yourself goes away. It is a natural state of being.” ― Rachel Andrews
  5. “Good for you and be proud of yourself because you have your priorities in order. Be proud of yourself if you are responsible, reliable, persistent, and take your job and education seriously.” ― Ana Monnar, Express Yourself 101 For Your Eyes Only
  6. “Happiness does not come in large incomes or the most exotic home, it comes in small doses of a great self esteem which can be built upon the strengths of an individual.” ― Nicholas A. McGirr
  7. “The problem isn’t that I think so highly of myself. It is just that you think so little of yourself. Live life BIG, BOLD and OUT LOUD!” ― Shannon L. Alder
  8. “You can overcome whatever is going on around you if you believe in the light that lives within you.”- Justine Edward, Shine

50 Self-esteem quotes

  1. “Health makes good propaganda.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  2. “The material world is all feminine. The feminine energy makes the non-manifest manifest. So even men (are of the feminine energy). We have to relinquish our ideas of gender in the conventional sense. This has nothing to do with gender, it has to do with energy. So feminine energy is what creates and allows anything which is non-manifest, like an idea, to come into form, into being, to be born. All that we experience in the world around us, absolutely everything (is feminine energy). The only way that anything exists is through the feminine force.” ― Zeena Schreck
  3. “Okay listen, you think I’m so inconsequential? Then try this on for size. All those who see unworthiness when they look at me and are given thereby denying me value – to you I say, I’m not talking about being AS GOOD as you. I hereby declare myself BETTER than you. ” ― Sidney Poitier, The Measure of a Man: A Spiritual Autobiography
  4. “Do not share your thoughts with people who think that what you are thinking is not worth thinking.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson
  5. “The world, viewed philosophically, remains a series of slave camps, where citizens – tax livestock – labor under the chains of illusion in the service of their masters.” ― Stefan Molyneux
  6. “A good self-esteem level is mostly dependent on how we value ourselves without any bias.” ― Stephen Richards, Boost Your Self Esteem
  7. “Believe in yourself and the world will follow suit.” ― Tadahiko Nagao, Kokology: The Game of Self-Discovery
  8. “Integrity is congruence between what you know, what you profess, and what you do.” ― Nathaniel Branden
  9. “Well it’s good to have a car like that, once in a while somebody’ll say, ‘why don’t you come over for dinner?’ and I can just say, ‘Car won’t make it.’ I don’t have to tell them that time is scarcer than young baby around here, and I don’t mean time to write POETRY. I mean time to lay in bed, alone, and stare up at the ceiling and not think at all, not at all, not at all…” – Charles Bukowski, Screams from the Balcony
  10. “God made you the way He wanted you to be and He does not make mistakes. He has a plan for your life that is much bigger than you can imagine.” ― Michele Woolley, God’s Favor – Breath Of Heaven
  11. “Where we fall are the stepping-stones for our journey.” ― Lolly Daskal, Thoughts Spoken From The Heart
  12. “A person today who seems to have a great sense of self-esteem has his or her childhood days to thank for it.” ― Stephen Richards, Boost Your Self Esteem
  13. “I have no nostalgia for the patriarchy, please believe me. But what I have come to realize is that, when that patriarchal system was (rightfully) dismantled, it was not necessarily replaced by another form of protection. What I mean is–I never thought to ask a suitor the same challenging questions my father might have asked him, in a different age.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
  14. “Your value is in your individuality.” ― Dorla Jenkins
  15. “Raise your awareness and share your uniqueness to the world.” ― Amit Ray, Enlightenment Step by Step
  16. “Self-esteem is not a luxury; it is a profound spiritual need.” ― Nathaniel Branden
  17. “Any situation, circumstance or challenge is just a distraction and as you remain true to your goals and trust in God they will fall away”.” ― Michele Woolley, God’s Favor – Breath Of Heaven
  18. “If everybody likes you, you are doing it wrong.” ― Ben Michaelis
  19. “For it is in your power to retire into yourself whenever you choose.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
  20. “In yourself right now is all the place you’ve got.” ― Flannery O’Connor, Wise Blood
  21. “Stop trying to ‘fix’ yourself; you’re NOT broken! You are perfectly imperfect and powerful beyond measure.” ― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
  22. “A man is unlikely to be brought within earshot of women as they judge men’s appearance, height, muscle tone, sexual technique, penis size, personal grooming, or taste in clothes–all of which we do. The fact is that women are able to view men just as men view women, as objects for sexual and aesthetic evaluation; we too are effortlessly able to choose the male “ideal” from a lineup and if we could have male beauty as well as everything else, most of us would not say no. But so what? Given all that, women make the choice, by and large, to take men as human beings first.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  23. “We are exactly what our history made us to be.” ― Stephen Richards, Boost Your Self Esteem
  24. “You all have your own distinct personal backgrounds. Of course some of you come from rich families, some from poor families. But circumstances beyond your control like that shouldn’t determine who you are. You must all realize what you’re worth on your own.” ― Koushun Takami, Battle Royale
  25. “Why should her lover, just because he is male, be in a position to judge her against other women? Why must she need to know her position and hate needing to, and hate knowing? Why should his reply have such exaggerated power? And it does. He does not know that what he says will affect the way she feels when they next make love. She is angry for a number of good reasons that may have nothing to do with this particular man’s intentions. The exchange reminds her that, in spite of a whole fabric of carefully woven equalities, they are not equal in this way that is so crucial that its snagged thread unravels the rest.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  26. “Aren’t fairy godmothers supposed to be nice and make you feel better about yourself? …No, you’re confusing fairy godmothers with sales clerks.” ― Janette Rallison, My Fair Godmother
  27. “Be real. Embrace that you have weakness. Because everyone does. Embrace that your body is not perfect. Because nobody is. Embrace that you have things you can’t control. We all have a list of them.” ― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing
  28. “Beauty as we feel it is something indescribable; what it is or what it means can never be said.” ― George Santayana
  29. “When I loved myself enough, I no longer needed things or people to make me feel safe.” ― Kim McMillen, When I Loved Myself Enough
  30. “A failure is always in the passenger seat in his or her life.” ― Stephen Richards, Boost Your Self Esteem
  31. “Eating is not a crime. It’s not a moral issue. It’s normal. It’s enjoyable. It just is.” ― Carrie Arnold
  32. “Our choices in life are made according to our sense of our own worth.” ― Kaylan Pickford
  33. “I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. And because I cannot do everything I will not refuse to do something that I can do.” ― Edward Everett Hale
  34. “If you care about what people think about you, you will end up being their slave. Reject and pull your own rope.” ― Auliq Ice
  35. “Genuine self esteem – please understand this – genuine self esteem is not competitive or comparative. Genuine self esteem isn’t expressed by self-glorification at the expense of others, or by trying to make yourself superior to everyone else, or diminishing others in order to elevate yourself. Arrogance, boastfulness, the overestimation of your abilities, reflect low self esteem, even though we’re often encouraged to believe the opposite. In human beings, joy in the simple fact of existence is a core meaning of healthy self esteem. Thus understood, how can you possibly have too much of it?” ― Nathaniel Branden
  36. “One of the best ways of repressing emotions is artificial certainty.” ― Stefan Molyneux
  37. “Self respect, self worth and self love, all start with self. Stop looking outside of yourself for your value.” ― Rob Liano
  38. “Every beginner possesses a great potential to be an expert in his or her chosen field.” ― Lailah Gifty Akita, Think Great: Be Great!
  39. “The possibility of the dream gives strength.” ― Lailah Gifty Akita, Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind
  40. “It is painful to face the self we know we have never had the integrity to honor and assert.” ― Nathaniel Branden
  41. “Believe in yourself. Under-confidence leads to a self-fulfilling prophecy that you are not good enough for your work.” ― Dr Roopleen
  42. “Use the darkness of your past to propel you to a brighter future.” ― Donata Joseph
  43. “Young women today feel vulnerable to judgment; if a harsh sentence is passed (or even suspected or projected), it is not her reputation that suffers so much as the stability of her moral universe. They did not have long to explore the sexual revolution and make it their own. Before the old chains had grown cold, while young women were still rubbing the circulation back into their ankles and taking tentative steps forward, the beauty industries levied a heavy toll on further investigations, and beauty pornography offered them designer bondage.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  44. “One of the hardest expressions of self-assertiveness is challenging your limiting beliefs.” ― Nathaniel Branden
  45. “To be yourself is in many ways to be inconvenient to others. Only placaters and appeasers get along with other people all the time and that’s not really getting along with anyone. That’s just self erasure.” ― Stefan Molyneux
  46. “The three most important words in a relationship are not, ‘I love you,’ but, ‘Tell me more.” ― Stefan Molyneux 
  47. “Cosmetic surgery processes the bodies of woman-made women, who make up the vast majority of its patient pool, into man-made women.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
  48. “People like us, we think differently, don’t we? We are different. We do all the things that others do. But when it comes down to it, we don’t need anyone else. We’re happy doing what we do and having obligation interferes with that. And sometimes I think we don’t even need ourselves. What’s most important is to find out whether we’re right or not.” ― Simon Morden, Equations of Life
  49. “I have to figure out why I worked at a job I hated for years. I have to find out why I can’t see what everyone else sees in me. I don’t feel beautiful. When I look in the mirror, I never see beauty. For this to happen to someone like me, it’s devastating, Jonas. I don’t want you to think it’s vanity, it isn’t. I can’t see me and I need to be able to do that. I need to find out what I’m like and what I want. I have to be comfortable in my own skin before I can be in a relationship the way you want.” ― Christine Feehan, Safe Harbor
  50. “To turn your dreams into reality, all your resources, efforts and concentration should be aligned in the same direction.” ― Dr Roopleen

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Conclusions

When you give yourself enough credit, you reach your goals more easily because you mobilize exactly the resources you need to overcome obstacles and go in the desired direction; when you do not give yourself enough value you negotiate weaker, communicate harder, act with more fear or avoid acting.

When you do not give yourself credit, you annihilate the resources you would need to do something, anything. 

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Daniela Paez is a Clinical Psychologist with an MSc. In Clinical Neuropsychology from Bangor University. She has vast experience in working with children with disabilities, adolescents and their families, in extreme conditions of poverty and vulnerability. Additionally, she owns a private practice where she provides neuropsychological evaluation for children and adults, and treatment for mood disorders, anxiety, couple therapy, among other conditions.