77 Quotes about Identity

In this blog post, we will talk about what our identity means.

Make sure you also read the quotes about identity to understand better this concept.

Who am I?! Who are you?!

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It is said that the most important thing in the learning process is not to know how to give answers but to ask good questions to which to find answers.

The way of life depends on the quality and level of the questions. 

We find the answer to some questions quite quickly, these questions and answers are not existential but weave existence.

These are questions we will not find the answer to on this earth.

And there are questions, called existential, that require in-depth research in order to find the right answer.

Our identity is our self-awareness – the kind of person we think we are. How we see ourselves varies depending on the context.

It is not uncommon, for example, for a young person to look like two completely different people at home and at school.

Identity is partly a matter of personal choice, and partly a reflection of how others see and appreciate us – often a problem that minority groups face.

In school, young people reflect on their own identity and how prejudices and stereotypes can affect a person’s self-image.

They develop self-confidence to deal with issues such as discrimination and harassment.

5 Quotes about Identity

  1. “Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.” ― George R.R. Martin
  2. “I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.” ― Charlotte Brontë
  3.  “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” ― Oscar Wilde
  4.  “Nothing of me is original. I am the combined effort of everyone I’ve ever known.” ― Chuck Palahniuk
  5.  “It’s like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. That story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.” ― Patrick Rothfuss

15 Quotes about Identity

  1. “We know what we are, but not what we may be.” ― William Shakespeare
  2. “Perhaps it’s impossible to wear an identity without becoming what you pretend to be.” ― Orson Scott Card
  3.  “When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.” ― Ralph Ellison
  4.  “A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”― Coco Chanel
  5. “You are not your job, you’re not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive. You’re not the contents of your wallet. You are not your khakis. You are all singing, all dancing of the world.” ― Chuck Palahniuk
  6. “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” ― Mahatma Gandhi
  7. “Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” ― Harvey Fierstein
  8. “He allowed himself to be swayed by his conviction that human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them, but that life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.” ― Gabriel García Márquez
  9. “I am not an angel,’ I asserted; ‘and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself. Mr. Rochester, you must neither expect nor exact anything celestial of me – for you will not get it, any more than I shall get it of you: which I do not at all anticipate.” ― Charlotte Brontë
  1. “We can spend our lives letting the world tell us who we are. Sane or insane. Saints or sex addicts. Heroes or victims. Letting history tell us how good or bad we are. Letting our past decide our future. Or we can decide for ourselves. And maybe it’s our job to invent something better.” ― Chuck Palahniuk
  2. “I am a citizen of the world.” ― Sylvia Beach
  3. “We leave something of ourselves behind when we leave a place, we stay there, even though we go away. And there are things in us that we can find again only by going back there.” ― Pascal Mercier
  4. “I belong to the people I love, and they belong to me–they, and the love and loyalty I give them, form my identity far more than any word or group ever could.” ― Veronica Roth
  5. “All the books we own, both read and unread, are the fullest expression of self we have at our disposal. … But with each passing year, and with each whimsical purchase, our libraries become more and more able to articulate who we are, whether we read the books or not.” ― Nick Hornby
  6.  “I said uselessly, “Sam, don’t go.”

Sam cupped my face in his hands and looked me in the eyes. His eyes were yellow, sad, wolf, mine.

“These stay the same. Remember that when you look at me. Remember it’s me. Please.” ― Maggie Stiefvater,

20 Quotes about Identity 

  1. “and yet she was leaving the world as a woman who had love and been loved back. she was leaving it as a friend, a companion, a guardian. a mother. a person of consequence at last.” ― khaled hosseini (a thousand splendid suns)
  2. “The deeper I go into myself the more I realize that I am my own enemy.” ― Floriano Martins
  3. “Relationships take up energy; letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. When you lose someone you were close to, you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. The more your identity was wrapped up with the deceased, the more difficult the loss.” ― Meghan O’Rourke
  4. “It answers the question that was tormenting you: my love, you are not ‘one thing in my life’ – not even the most important – because my life no longer belongs to me because…you are always me.” ― Jean-Paul Sartre
  5. “If you try to view yourself through the lenses that others offer you, all you will see are distortions; your own light and beauty will become blurred, awkward, and ugly. Your sense of inner beauty has to remain a very private thing.” ― John O’Donohue
  1. “I finally understood what my grandmother meant. If I wasn’t comfortable with myself, I would never be comfortable.” ― Marjane Satrapi
  2.  “I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.” ― Madonna
  3. “I find I am constantly being encouraged to pluck out some one aspect of myself and present this as the meaningful whole, eclipsing or denying the other parts of self.” ― Audre Lorde
  4.  “The true definition of mental illness is when the majority of your time is spent in the past or future, but rarely living in the realism of NOW.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  5. “The more up you are, the more I like you. As long as you’ve managed to hold onto your identity through all the stuff then it won’t matter how twisted you are. I will love you more for it.” ― Ashly Lorenzana
  1. “Silent solitude makes true speech possible and personal. If I am not in touch with my own belovedness, then I cannot touch the sacredness of others. If I am estranged from myself, I am likewise a stranger to others.” ― Brennan Manning
  2. “Without dignity, identity is erased.” ― Laura Hillenbrand
  3.  “The trick. . .is to find the balance between the bright colors of humor and the serious issues of identity, self-loathing, and the possibility for intimacy and love when it seems no longer possible or, sadder yet, no longer necessary.” ― Wendy Wasserstein
  4. “Alan, you seem to think we won’t like you unless you do things just like everyone else. Have you ever thought we might like you because you’re different?” ― Tamora Pierce
  5. “We know from myths and fairy tales that there are many different kinds of powers in this world. One child is given a lightsaber, another a wizard’s education.” – Unknown
  1. “For so many years, for so long, I have been so many things, so many different men. But here,” he said, so softly I could barely hear him, “here in the dark, with you… I have no name.” ― Diana Gabaldon
  2. “I am a person before I am anything else. I never say I am a writer. I never say I am an artist…I am a person who does those things.” ― Edward Gorey
  3. “People say you’re born innocent, but it’s not true. You inherit all kinds of things that you can do nothing about. You inherit your identity, your history, like a birthmark that you can’t wash off. … We are born with our heads turned back, but my mother says we have to face into the future now. You have to earn your own innocence, she says. You have to grow up and become innocent.” ― Hugo Hamilton
  4. “My friend, I am not what I seem. Seeming is but a garment I wear — a care-woven garment that protects me from thy questionings and thee from my negligence. The “I” in me, my friend, dwells in the house of silence, and therein it shall remain for ever more, unperceived, unapproachable.” ― Khalil Gibran
  1. “I’ve tried

to become someone else for a while,

only to discover that he, too, was me.” ― Stephen Dunn

30 Quotes about Identity

  1. “Who are you?”

“No one of consequence.”

“I must know.”

“Get used to disappointment.” ― William Goldman

  1. “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”

[Stanford University commencement speech, 2005]” ― Steve Jobs

  1. “It is easier to live through someone else than to complete yourself. The freedom to lead and plan your own life is frightening if you have never faced it before. It is frightening when a woman finally realizes that there is no answer to the question ‘who am I’ except the voice inside herself.” ― Betty Friedan
  2. “I seem to have run in a great circle, and met myself again on the starting line.” ― Jeanette Winterson
  3. “You will be required to do wrong no matter where you go. It is the basic condition of life, to be required to violate your own identity. At some time, every creature which lives must do so. It is the ultimate shadow, the defeat of creation; this is the curse at work, the curse that feeds on all life. Everywhere in the universe.” ― Philip K.
  1. “Patriotism is, fundamentally, a conviction that a particular country is the best in the world because you were born in it….” ― George Bernard Shaw
  2. “I am not an angel,” I asserted; “and I will not be one till I die: I will be myself.” ― Charlotte Brontë
  3. “I hate how I don’t feel real enough unless people are watching.” ― Chuck Palahniuk
  4. “What’s in a name? that which we call a rose

By any other name would smell as sweet.” – William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet

  1. “I’m not really sure which parts of myself are real and which parts are things I’ve gotten from books.” ― Beatrice Sparks
  1. “When you meet a man who is broken, pick him up and carry him. When you meet a woman who’s broken, put her all into your arms. Cause we don’t know where we come from … we don’t know where we are. ” ― Laurie Anderson
  2. “Define yourself radically as one beloved by God. This is the true self. Every other identity is an illusion.” ― Brennan Manning
  3. “I would rather be what God chose to make me than the most glorious creature that I could think of; for to have been thought about, born in God’s thought, and then made by God, is the dearest, grandest and most precious thing in all thinking.” ― George MacDonald
  4. “I’ve lived too long with pain. I won’t know who I am without it.” ― Orson Scott Card
  5. “All of us take pride and pleasure in the fact that we are unique, but I’m afraid that when all is said and done the police are right: it all comes down to fingerprints.” ― David Sedaris
  1. “Droll thing life is — that mysterious arrangement of merciless logic for a futile purpose. The most you can hope from it is some knowledge of yourself — that comes too late — a crop of inextinguishable regrets.” ― Joseph Conrad
  2. “We have to be braver than we think we can be, because God is constantly calling us to be more than we are.” ― Madeleine L’Engle
  3. “Through others we become ourselves.” ― Lev S. Vygotsky
  4. “Some people seem to fade away but then when they are truly gone, it’s like they didn’t fade away at all.” ― Bob Dylan
  5. “I am not made like any of those I have seen. I venture to believe that I am not made like any of those who are in existence. If I am not better, at least I am different.” ― Jean Jacques Rousseau
  1. “What we know matters but who we are matters more.” ― Brené Brown
  2. “Never try to do anything that is outside of who you are. A forced smile is a sign of what feels wrong in your heart, so recognize it when it happens. Living a lie will reduce you to one.” ― Ashly Lorenzana
  3. “You know what I am.” The words breathed out in an anguished whisper. “I’m part demon, Clary. Part demon. You understood that much, didn’t you?” His eyes bored into her like drills. “You saw what Valentine was trying to do. He used demon blood-used it on me before I was even born. I’m part monster. Part everything I’ve tried so hard to burn out, to destroy.” ― Cassandra Clare
  4. “One of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your own sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone else.” ― K.L. Toth
  5. “You should never make fun of something that a person can’t change about themselves.” ― Phil Lester
  1. “We experience our thoughts and feelings as something separate from the rest. A kind of optical delusion of consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us.” ― Albert Einstein
  2. “Everyone, either from modesty or egotism, hides away the best and most delicate of his soul’s possessions; to gain the esteem of others, we must only ever show our ugliest sides; this is how we keep ourselves on the common level” ― Gustave Flaubert
  3. “That ain’t me, that ain’t my face. It wasn’t even me when I was trying to be that face. I wasn’t even really me them; I was just being the way I looked, the way people wanted.” ― Ken Kesey
  4. “The ego is the false self-born out of fear and defensiveness.” ― John O’Donohue
  5. “Do not free a camel of the burden of his hump; you may be freeing him from being a camel.” ― G.K. Chesterton

35 Quotes about Identity

  1. “Americans may have no identity, but they do have wonderful teeth.” ― Jean Baudrillard
  2. “You know, people ask me. They say ‘Dan, three years later do you really want to be drawing cat whiskers on your face?’ but they don’t understand. The cat whiskers, they come from within.” ― Dan Howell
  3. “The music we listen to may not define who we are. But it’s a damn good start.” ― Jodi Picoult
  4. “We forget all too soon the things we thought we could never forget. We forget the loves and the betrayals alike, forget what we whispered and what we screamed, forget who we were.” ― Joan Didion
  5.  “I didn’t think it was my job to accept what everyone said I was and who I should be.” ― Benjamin Alire Sáenz
  1. “Your duty is to be and not to be this or that. ‘I am that I am’ sums up the whole truth. The method is summed up in the words ‘Be still’. What does stillness mean? It means destroy yourself. Because any form or shape is the cause for trouble. Give up the notion that ‘I am so and so’. All that is required to realize the Self is to be still. What can be easier than that?” ― Ramana Maharshi
  2. “Each person you meet

is an aspect of yourself,

clamoring for love.” ― Eric Micha’el Leventhal

  1. “My wish simply is to live my life as fully as I can. In both our work and our leisure, I think, we should be so employed. And in our time this means that we must save ourselves from the products that we are asked to buy in order, ultimately, to replace ourselves.” ― Wendell Berry
  2. “I protect myself by refusing to know myself.” ― Floriano Martins
  3. “Resentment is often a woman’s inner signal that she has been ignoring an important God-given responsibility – that of making choices.” ― Brenda Waggoner
  1. “Feelings are something you have; not something you are.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  2. “People leave imprints on our lives, shaping who we become in much the same way that a symbol is pressed into the page of a book to tell you who it comes from. Dogs, however, leave paw prints on our lives and our souls, which are as unique as fingerprints in every way.” ― Ashly Lorenzana
  3. “Maybe if I act well enough, I’ll come to believe it myself.” ― Garth Nix
  4. “When you become the image of your own imagination, it’s the most powerful thing you could ever do.” ― RuPaul
  5. “Be yourself. Don’t worry about what other people are thinking of you, because they’re probably feeling the same kind of scared, horrible feelings that everyone does.” ― Phil Lester
  1. “First of all, although men have a common destiny, each individual also has to work out his own personal salvation for himself in fear and trembling. We can help one another to find the meaning of life no doubt. But in the last analysis, the individual person is responsible for living his own life and for “finding himself.” If he persists in shifting his responsibility to somebody else, he fails to find out the meaning of his own existence. You cannot tell me who I am and I cannot tell you who you are. If you do not know your own identity, who is going to identify you?” ― Thomas Merton
  2. “Keep your language. Love its sounds, its modulation, its rhythm. But try to march together with men of different languages, remote from your own, who wish like you for a more just and human world.” ― Helder Camara
  3. “We shape our buildings; thereafter they shape us.” ― Winston S Churchill
  4. “I don’t want to inhabit the human world under false pretenses.” ― Janet Frame
  5. “I feel with some passion that what we truly are is private, and almost infinitely complex, and ambiguous, and both external and internal, and double- or triple- or multiply natured, and largely mysterious even to ourselves; and furthermore that what we are is only part of us, because identity, unlike “identity”, must include what we do. And I think that to find oneself and every aspect of this complexity reduced in the public mind to one property that apparently subsumes all the rest (“gay”, “black”, “Muslim”, whatever) is to be the victim of a piece of extraordinary intellectual vulgarity.” ― Philip Pullman
  1. “What’s burning down is a re-creation of a period revival house patterned after a copy of a copy of a mock Tudor big manor house. It’s a hundred generations removed from anything original, but the truth is aren’t we all?” ― Chuck Palahniuk
  2. “We come back to the same people to learn something about how we have changed. We want to be assured that we have changed. We so want our pictures to paint differently than they do.” ― Heather Duffy Stone
  3.  “People resist a census, but give them a profile page and they’ll spend all day telling you who they are.” ― Max Barry
  4. “One ever feels his twoness, — an American, a Negro; two souls, two thoughts, two unreconciled strivings; two warring ideals in one dark body, whose strength alone keeps it from being torn asunder.” ― W.E.B. DuBois
  5. “The history of the American Negro is the history of this strife, — this longing to attain self-conscious manhood, to merge his double self into a better and truer self. In this merging he wishes neither of the older selves to be lost… He simply wishes to make it possible for a man to be both a Negro and an American…” ― W. E. B. DuBois
  1. “We’re each of us our own chiaroscuro, our own bit of illusion trying to emerge into something solid, something real. We’ve got to forgive ourselves for that. I must remember to forgive myself. Because there’s an awful lot of gray to work with. No one can live in the light all the time.” ― Libba Bray
  2. “Time is the enemy of identity” ― Michael Moorcock
  3. “We are all, Esme decides, just vessels through which identities pass: we are lent features, gestures, habits, then we hand them on. Nothing is our own. We begin in the world as anagrams of our antecedents.” ― Maggie O’Farrell
  4. “I know who I am without anyone there to tell me.” ― Leigh Bardugo
  5. “Looking for who I am is who I am.” ― Tom Spanbauer
  1. “It’s not a real name,” she says. “Not one that he’s carried with him always. It’s one he wears like his hat. So he can take it off if he wants.” ― Erin Morgenstern
  2. “I’m not the same person I was before, and I am deathly afraid I will never be her again…” ― Jodi LaPalm
  3. “Live in the wisdom of accepted tenderness. Tenderness awakens within the security of knowing we are thoroughly and sincerely liked by someone…

Scripture suggests that the essence of the divine nature is compassion and that the heart of God is defined by tenderness.” ― Brennan Manning

  1. “But I never looked like that!’ – How do you know? What is the ‘you’ you might or might not look like? Where do you find it – by which morphological or expressive calibration? Where is your authentic body? You are the only one who can never see yourself except as an image; you never see your eyes unless they are dulled by the gaze they rest upon the mirror or the lens (I am interested in seeing my eyes only when they look at you): even and especially for your own body, you are condemned to the repertoire of its images.” ― Roland Barthes
  2. “All you need to validly be bi is to identify! It’s so true it rhymes.” ― Ashley Mardell

40 Quotes about identity 

  1. “Identity was partly heritage, partly upbringing, but mostly the choices you make in life. ~ Bran” ― Patricia Briggs
  2. “She might be without country, without nation, but inside her there was still a being that could exist and be free, that could simply say I am without adding a this, or a that, without saying I am Indian, Guyanese, English, or anything else in the world.” ― Sharon Maas
  3. “He had the vanity to believe men did not like him – while men simply did not know him.” ― Gustave Flaubert
  4. “Dreams are manifestations of identities.” ― Kathy Acker
  5. “I won’t sleep

if that’s what it takes

to not wake up

as myself” ― Casey Renee Kiser

  1. “We are not defined by the family into which we are born, but the one we choose and create. We are not born, we become.” ― Tori Spelling
  2. “I don’t want it to end, and so, as every therapist knows, the ego does not want an end to its “problems” because they are part of its identity. If no one will listen to my sad story, I can tell it to myself in my head, over and over, and feel sorry for myself, and so have an identity as someone who is being treated unfairly by life or other people, fate or God. It gives definition to my self-image, makes me into someone, and that is all that matters to the ego.” ― Eckhart Tolle
  3. “There was a time when you were not a slave, remember that. You walked alone, full of laughter, you bathed bare-bellied. You say you have lost all recollection of it, remember . . . You say there are no words to describe this time, you say it does not exist. But remember. Make an effort to remember. Or, failing that, invent.” ― Monique Wittig
  1. “Sometimes we fight who we are, struggling against ourselves and our natures. But we must learn to accept who we are and appreciate who we become. We must love ourselves for what and who we are, and believe in our talents.” ― Harley King
  1. “But often, in the world’s most crowded streets,

But often, in the din of strife,

There rises an unspeakable desire

After the knowledge of our buried life;

A thirst to spend our fire and restless force

In tracking out our true, original course;

A longing to inquire

Into the mystery of this heart which beats

So wild, so deep in us—to know

Whence our lives come and where they go.” ― Matthew Arnold

  1. “We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for a vulnerability. We need a refuge to shore up our states of mind, because so much of the world is opposed to our allegiances. We need our rooms to align us to desirable versions of ourselves and to keep alive the important, evanescent sides of us.” ― Alain de Botton
  1. “His words had tossed the book that was her life into the air and the pages had been blown into disarray, could never be put back together to tell the same story.” ― Kate Morton
  2. “Be not another, if you can be yourself. ” ― Paracelsus
  3. “The desert could not be claimed or owned–it was a piece of cloth carried by winds, never held down by stones, and given a hundred shifting names… Its caravans, those strange rambling feasts and cultures, left nothing behind, not an ember. All of us, even those with European homes and children in the distance, wished to remove the clothing of our countries. It was a place of faith. We disappeared into the landscape.” ― Michael Ondaatje
  1. “You can live a lifetime and, at the end of it, know more about other people than you know about yourself. You learn to watch other people, but you never watch yourself because you strive against loneliness. If you read a book, or shuffle a deck of cards, or care for a dog, you are avoiding yourself. The abhorrence of loneliness is as natural as wanting to live at all. If it were otherwise, men would never have bothered to make an alphabet, nor to have fashioned words out of what were only animal sounds, nor to have crossed continents – each man to see what the other looked like.” ― Beryl Markham
  1. “It is rare indeed that people give. Most people guard and keep; they suppose that it is they themselves and what they identify with themselves that they are guarding and keeping, whereas what they are actually guarding and keeping is their system of reality and what they assume themselves to be.” ― James Baldwin
  2. “I’m just Phil from Rossendale. And now people are screaming for me ’cause I make YouTube videos – it’s just crazy!” ― Phil Lester
  1. “…you find your genius by looking in the mirror of your life. Your visible image shows your inner truth, so when you’re estimating others, what you see is what you get. It therefore becomes critically important to see generously, or you will get only what you see; to see sharply, so that you discern the mix of traits rather than a generalized lump; and to see deeply into dark shadows, or else you will be deceived.” ― James Hillman
  2. “You want to tell a story? Grow a heart. Grow two. Now, with the second heart, smash the first one into bits. Gross, right? A bloody pulpy liquid mess. Look at it, try to make sense of it. Realize you can’t. Because there is no sense. Ask your computer to print out a list of every lie you have ever told. Ask yourself how much of the universe you have ever really seen. Look in the mirror. Are you sure you’re you? Are you sure you didn’t slip out of yourself in the middle of the night, and someone else slipped into you, without you or you or any of you even noticing?” ― Charles Yu
  1. “But there was a special kind of gift that came with embracing the chaos, even if I cursed most of the way. I’m convinced that, when everything is wiped blank, it’s life ‘s way of forcing you to become acquainted with and aware of who you are now, who you can become. What is the fulfillment of your soul?” ― Jennifer DeLucy
  2. “National identity is the last bastion of the dispossessed. But the meaning of identity is now based on hatred, on hatred for those who are not the same.” ― Umberto Eco
  3. “And in this curious state I had the realization, at the moment of seeing that stranger there, that I was a person like everybody else. That I was known by my actions and words, that my internal universe was unavailable for inspection by others. They didn’t know. They didn’t know, because I never told them.” ― Kim Stanley Robinson
  4. “I’m learning quickly, once you quit one thing, it gets easier and easier just to leave situations rather than deal with stuff ― Doug Cooper
  5. “At times it may seem as though you and your past are one. Sometimes we fail to differentiate between what has happened to us and who we are today. If you have a hard time getting beyond that damaging mind-set let me encourage you right now. You are not your past Although you are changed and shaped by past experiences, who you were yesterday does not control the person you have the potential to become tomorrow.” ― Sue Augustine
  6.  “As we walk down the steps to the uncharted rims of our life, we may become aware of unsuspected beacons we have ignored thus far, discover unsolved enigmas of our identity and so get insight into the undisclosed intricacies of our shared environment. ( “Only silence remained” )” ― Erik Pevernagie
  7. “Who are we but the stories we tell ourselves, about ourselves, and believe?” ― Scott Turow
  8. “Maybe you are what you can’t not be.” ― John Green
  9. “If I wasn’t me, you wouldn’t be you.” ― Kamila Shamsie
  1. “It is not until you change your identity to match your life blueprint that you will understand why everything in the past never worked.” ― Shannon L. Alder
  2. “It was frankly sort of confusing, the way everyone stared at our bodies exactly as they tried to erase the ideas of our bodies from our minds. We were supposed to get over ourselves but no one was supposed to get over us. The female body was our worst handicap and our best advantage — the surest means to success, the surest course to failure. (p. 72)” ― Hilary Thayer Haman
  3. “When you let go of the belief that you should or need to know who you are, what happens to confusion? Suddenly it is gone. When you fully accept that you don’t know, you actually enter a state of peace and clarity that is closer to who you truly are than thought could ever be. Defining yourself through thought is limiting yourself.” ― Eckhart Tolle
  4. “The important thing is that man is lost in time, in the moment that immediately precedes him – which only attests, by reflection, to the fact that he is lost in the moment that follows” ― Andre Breton
  5. “It is in our relations with other people that we gain a sense of ourselves; it’s that, pretty much, that makes relations with other people unbearable.” ― Michel Houellebecq
  1. “The Augusteum warns me not to get attached to any obsolete ideas about who I am, what I represent, whom I belong to, or what function I may once have intended to serve.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert
  2. “Darling, my darling, don’t think that I don’t love you or that I didn’t love you, but it’s precisely because I love you that I couldn’t have become what I am today if you were still here. It’s impossible to have a child and despise the world as it is, because that’s the world we’ve put the child into. The child makes us care about the world, think about its future, willingly join in its racket and its turmoils, take its incurable stupidity seriously.” ― Milan Kundera
  3. “When he died, I went about like a ragged crow telling strangers, “My father died, my father died.” My indiscretion embarrassed me, but I couldn’t help it. Without my father on his Delhi rooftop, why was I here? Without him there, why should I go back? Without that ache between us, what was I made of?” ― Kiran Desai
  4. “The identity of the Filipino today is of a person asking what his identity is.” ― Nick Joaquín 
  5. “Most of the time it’s not the Europeans who belittle us. What happens when we look at them is that we belittle ourselves. When we undertake the pilgrimage, it’s not just to escape the tyranny at home but also to reach to the depths of our souls. The day arrives when the guilty must return to save those who could not find the courage to leave.” ― Orhan Pamuk

50 Quotes about Identity 

  1. “I’ve never been impulsive. It’s always been in my nature to consider things carefully and then decide upon the best solution. Except, sometimes the circumstances change. Sometimes things get so complicated and so bad that your nature just doesn’t matter anymore.” ― Brenna Yovanoff
  2. “The moment the mirror does not recognize us anymore, the cards are no longer in our hands. In effect, we have failed to see to the bottom line of our life story and lost our identity. (“The empty Mirror”)” ― Erik Pevernagie
  3. “No death, no doom, no anguish can arouse the surpassing despair which flows from a loss of identity. – Through the Gates of the Silver Key” ― H.P. Lovecraft
  4.  “I guess it all depends on whom you ask and when you ask. Race, I’ve learned, is in the eye of the beholder.” ― Raquel Cepeda
  5. “Lovers are not snails; they don’t have to protrude from their shells and meet each other halfway. Meet me within your own self.” ― Jerzy Kosiński
  1. “I had a book of Bible stories when I was a kid. There was a picture I’d look at twenty times every day: Jacob wrestles with the angel. I don’t really remember the story, or why the wrestling –just the picture. Jacob is young and very strong. The angel is…a beautiful man, with golden hair and wings, of course. I still dream about it. Many nights. I’m…It’s me. In that struggle. Fierce, and unfair. The angel is not human, and it holds nothing back, so how could anyone human win, what kind of a fight is that? It’s not just. Losing means your soul is thrown down in the dust, your heart torn out from God’s. But you can’t not lose.” ― Tony Kushner
  2. “Every individual is a meeting ground for many different allegiances, and sometimes these loyalties conflict with one another and confront the person who harbors them with difficult choices” ― Amin Maalouf
  3. “At the end of time I want my art to stand up and my soul to bow down.” ― Rob Ryser
  4. “I thought Oliver was trying hard before, but now I realize it’s quite the opposite– he doesn’t try, he just is, makes up his mind and doesn’t check if it’s going to work for his image or come off wrong. Since the rest of us are being so self-aware, his presence seems calculated. No one can possibly be that breezy, saying what he thinks, feeling what he feels. I can see why people don’t like him for this very reason– it’s so much easier to call him a poser.

Because if he’s the real deal, then that makes the rest of us fakes.” ― Lindsey Leavitt

  1. “Here is the life you have tried to throw away. Here is your second chance. Here is the destiny you have tried to shake off by inventing a hundred false roles, a hundred false identities for yourself. It will look at first like disaster, but is really good fortune in disguise, since fate too knows how to follow your evasions through a hundred forms of its own. Now you will become at last the one you intended to be.” ― David Malouf
  2. “Questions from earlier circles like buzzards. Am I running away or moving forward?” ― Doug Cooper
  3.  “You must know that you are worth much to me whether you accomplish anything or not. Even if you are rejected in the world’s eyes, you are valuable to me.” ― Stormpie Omartian
  4. “The closer you come to knowing that you alone create the world of your experience, the more vital it becomes for you to discover just who is doing the creating.” ― Eric Micha’el Leventhal
  5. “Our identity rests in God’s relentless tenderness for us revealed in Jesus Christ.” ― Brennan Manning
  6. “While the impostor draws his identity from past achievements and the adulation of others, the true self claims identity in its belovedness. We encounter God in the ordinariness of life: not in the search for spiritual highs and extraordinary, mystical experiences but in our simple presence in life.” ― Brennan Manning
  1. “A proper community, we should remember also, is a commonwealth: a place, a resource, an economy. It answers the needs, practical as well as social and spiritual, of its members – among them the need to need one another. The answer to the present alignment of political power with wealth is the restoration of the identity of community and economy. (pg. 63, “Racism and the Economy”)” ― Wendell Berry
  2. “Don’t let others box you into their idea of what they think you should be. A confined identity is a miserable way to exist. Be you and live free. Trust that in living true to yourself, you will attract people that support and love you, just as you are.” ― Jaeda DeWalt
  3. “Everyone has an identity. One of their own, and one for show.” ― Jacqueline Susann
  4. “We are what we love. We are the things, the people, the ideas we spend our days with. They center us, they drive us, they define us to our very core. Without them, we are empty.” ― Daisy Whitney
  5. “By the late twentieth century, our time, a mythic time, we are all chimeras, theorized and fabricated hybrids of machine and organism; in short, we are cyborgs.” ― Donna Haraway
  1. “I am neither I nor the other one

I am something in between” ― Mário de Sá-Carneiro

  1. “At every moment you choose yourself. But do you choose *your* self? Body and soul contain a thousand possibilities out of which you can build many I’s. But in one of them is there a congruence of the elector and the elected. Only one–which you will never find until you have excluded all those superficial and fleeting possibilities of being and doing with which you toy, out of curiosity or wonder or greed, and which hinder you from casting anchor in the experience of the mystery of life, and the consciousness of the talent entrusted to you which is your *I*.” ― Dag Hammarskjöld
  2. “I don’t care what is written,” Meyer Landsman says. “I don’t care what supposedly got promised to some sandal-wearing idiot whose claim to fame is that he was ready to cut his own son’s throat for the sake of a hare-brained idea. I don’t care about red heifers and patriarchs and locusts. A bunch of old bones in the sand. My homeland is in my hat. It’s in my ex-wife’s tote bag.” ― Michael Chabon
  3. “Even now, she wished she could write a note, push it across the table, and go away to her room. But she was no longer a Second Assistant Librarian of the Great Library of the Clayr. Those days were gone, vanished with everything else that had defined her previous existence and identity.” ― Garth Nix
  4. “I’m talking about a little truth-in-packaging here. To be perfectly frank, you don’t quite look like yourself. And if you walk around looking like someone other than who you are, you could end up getting the wrong job, the wrong friends, who knows what-all. You could end up with somebody else’s life.”

I shrugged again, and smiled. “This is my life,” I said. “It doesn’t seem like the wrong one.” ― Michael Cunningham

  1. “There comes a time when all that remains for us to do is to surrender to the idiosyncrasies of our nature.” ― Floriano Martins
  2. “Your self…is other people, all the people you’re tied to, and it’s only a thread.” ― Tom Wolfe
  3. “Identity is memory; when memory disappears, the self dissolves and love with it.” ― John Lahr
  4. “To find your true identity within the will of Tze Yo Tzuh…that is the highest of all freedoms.” ― Gene Luen Yang
  5. “We are what we are…” ― Ke$ha
  1. “Dissociation, in a general sense, refers to a rigid separation of parts of experiences, including somatic experiences, consciousness, affects, perception, identity, and memory. When there is a structural dissociation, each of the dissociated self-states has at least a rudimentary sense of “I” (Van der Hart et al., 2004). In my view, all of the environmentally based “psychopathology” or problems in living can be seen through this lens.” ― Elizabeth F. Howell
  2. “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” -Dr. Seuss
  3. “A dreamer is one who can find his way only by moonlight and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.”-Oscar Wilde
  4. “Unlike a drop of water which loses its identity when it joins the ocean, man does not lose his being in the society in which he lives. Man’s life is independent. He is born not for the development of the society alone, but for the development of himself.”-B. R. Ambedkar
  5. “In the social jungle of human existence, there is no feeling of being alive without a sense of identity.”-Erik Erikson
  1. “I always had long hair. When you lose it, you realise just how important it is to your identity.”-Delta Goodrem
  2. “I don’t cover my face because I want to show my identity.”-Malala Yousafzai
  3. “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”-Oscar Wilde
  4. “Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.”-George RR Martin
  5. “So, I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we’ll never know most of them. But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.”-Steven Chbosky
  1. “There is no gate, no lock, no bolt that you can set upon the freedom of my mind.”-Virginia Woolf
  2. “Before I can live with other folks I’ve got to live with myself. The one thing that doesn’t abide by majority rule is a person’s conscience.”-Harper Lee
  3. “Memories are the architecture of our identity.”
  4. “Know, first, who you are, and then adorn yourself accordingly.”-Epictetus
  5. “Identity cannot be found or fabricated but emerges from within when one has the courage to let go.”-Doug Cooper
  1. “The value of identity of course is so often with it comes purpose.”-Richard Grant
  2. “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”-George Bernard Shaw
  3. “Identity is a prison you can never escape, but the way to redeem your past is not to run from it, but to try to understand it, and use it as a foundation to grow.”-Jay Z
  4. Every scar I have makes me who I am.
  5. “Never mind searching for who you are. Search for the person you aspire to be.”-Robert Brault

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Personal identity is influenced by the following aspects: 

• What is not related to personal choice (race, belonging to a nationality, physical characteristics, place of birth; 

• Related to personal choice (partner, profession, ideology, music, political orientation, etc.).

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