Part of me is missing (What to do)

In this article, we will try to understand what it means when we feel a part of me is missing. We will understand this by understanding the two reasons why we feel a part of me is missing. They are- emotional distressed and impact on the nervous system. We also look at other reasons such as We may be disconnected from our true self, We long for a deep meaningful relationship, You may be longing for a deeper meaning and purpose. Lastly, we will try to look at a few things you can do to not feel a part of me is missing. 

Why do I feel a part of me is missing? 

We have all felt at least once that a part of us is missing. We have that void but we do not know how to fill it. At the point when we feel some part of us is missing, it is on the grounds that we have bolted it away someplace, covered far out. To perceive that piece of ourselves is excessively afraid for our cognizant personalities to adapt to. That piece of ourselves may help us to remember an inclination we would prefer not recall. Or then again an occurrence that left us feeling damaged. Along these lines that missing part has by one way or another split away and get separated from most of us. This leaves us feeling like a part of me is missing.

According to Sandy Hounsell, there are two important reasons why we might feel like a part of me is missing. To understand these two reasons, it is important that we try to understand her theory of the puzzle. She believes that we come into this world as a beautiful pattern that is unique to each one of us. It is this pattern that interconnects our spiritual and human self. This is the pattern where all the pieces of the puzzle are a whole. These pieces include our soul, mind, body, emotions, thoughts, behaviors and habits, and our varied experiences. 

She believes that the pattern is the foundation of human and spiritual interaction. Our soul is a vital part of the puzzle. It guides us and shows us with the light we need to see what is right and wrong. The soul is the heart of all ‘matter’. 

It is when this beautiful pattern is disturbed we feel that a part of me is missing. But the question is how is this pattern disturbed? 

Emotional distress

It is believed that emotional distress can rearrange this pattern. It is inevitable that we have emotional distress in our life. When we go through these emotional shocks and trauma our pattern rearranges or is disturbed. Emotional distress can be of any kind. It may be a result of various outcomes. Throughout our life span, we will experience emotional loss and trauma. Maybe we lose a loved one, maybe our heart is broken, maybe our entire life is turned upside down. All of these can imbalance the perfectly stable pattern, and our perfectly formed puzzle pieces separate, making us feel that a part of us is missing. 

Impact on the nervous system 

Emotional stress and trauma have a direct impact on our nervous system. Indeed, even organs can get bothered and breakdown if the shock wave that we experience is exceptionally terrifying and profoundly felt. The loss demonstrations like a ‘moment freeze’ were all that we are hearing, feeling, seeing, and detecting is enlisted at the time of the stun and is put away in our memory.

These shocks, therefore, harm the beautiful pattern of puzzles. The instant freeze moment fills the gaps with fear, doubts, and other negative feelings.  Instead of acting like the glue that keeps our perfect puzzle pieces together, these negative feelings act like a barrier that keeps our perfect puzzle pieces apart. Our subconscious mind starts to accept that these gaps are filled with fear and doubt. If deep enough, this may lead to depression, chronic fatigue, or other forms of breakdown. 

However sometimes, one does not have to go through these deep loss and shock waves. Sometimes a person may feel that a part of me is missing only because suddenly everything is going wrong, or they are unable to find any meaning in their life. 

What does it mean when I feel a part of me is missing? 

It happens right, you have everything, yet something is missing. You have a great relationship, a great job, the best vacation ever, still, you do not feel complete. Have you ever felt the need for more, even after having everything? You fight with yourself thinking you have enough vs you want more. This makes you feel that something is not there, which is what you are searching for. 

Apart from the trauma that was mentioned above, you could feel that a part of you is missing because we may be looking for something deeper. 

We may be disconnected from our true selves.

We are busy people. We have a life, jobs, different roles. We try to keep up with everything happening in the world. We live a life without any deeper meaning to it. Every Morning you wake up, have a cup of coffee, get dressed, and are off to work. You come back home, cook food, and are again busy with something or the other. While doing all this that we consider necessary to survive, we forget about our relationship with ourselves. We lose touch with what we are actually supposed to be. We have no time to sit and look inside ourselves make a connection with us. Our authentic self can easily get buried beneath a whole lot of layers and beliefs. It’s normal to dismiss our own interesting qualities, endowments, needs, and what causes us to feel generally indispensable and invigorated. Our identity becomes the job we do and the roles we play. Without those things, we mean nothing to us. However good it is to keep yourself busy, it is equivalently harmful to forget who you are without these things. Not known=ing who you actually are can make you feel like a part of you is missing. 

We long for a deep meaningful relationship 

As you grow older and understand the world, you do not look for the quantity of the relationships you have, but the quality of them. Once, you awaken only one quality relationship might be enough. You no longer may want to live a life with a shallow end. You look at relationships that are deep and intimate, where you can share your deepest darkest secrets and are not judged. you want a relationship where you can share every single feeling and think of yours. You may long for a deeper relationship to share your true self. 

With time as we grow and mature, so do our relationships. If this does not happen, you may feel like something is not right, you may feel like a huge part of you is missing. We shift from a needs-based relationship to a soul fulling one. And if this does not happen it is certain that your life may feel empty and that you are missing something. 

You may be longing for a deeper meaning and purpose 

We all need a purpose and meaning in our life. If you lose this purpose and meaning in your life, it feels like you are living for no reason whatsoever. Imagine aimlessly leading your life without any meaning to it. Or if you have a meaning, you might long for something deeper, something that adds more purpose. You need a purpose in your life to thrive. And when this is not present you certainly feel that a huge part of you is missing. 

In addition to this, you can also year for spiritual meaning and purpose. We live in a world full of material sense. But as we reach a point our mind and soul ask for more. They ask for a spiritual experience. When you lack this experience or are unable to have one, it may feel like a part of you is missing. Eckhart Tolle explains that when we’re disconnected from our essence we commonly feel like something is missing. 

What can you do when you feel a part of you is missing? 

Look for activities that add meaning to your life 

We know that living a life without any meaning and purpose can make you feel that you are missing something from your life. Therefore, you should find something that adds meaning to your life. Engage in activities that make you happy. Something that drives you to find more about yourself. It is no life you are busy all day and have no time for yourself. 

Look for deeper relationships 

Have relationships that are meaningful. Relationships that are making you look for your authentic self. Having such relationships make you feel complete instead of feeling that part of you is missing. One of the reasons, why we feel that something is missing in our life, is because of the mere fact that we may not have deep and meaningful relationships. We are social animals and we long for social support. 

Visit a professional 

If nothing works out for you, you can always look for a professional. Visit a mental health professional. They can help you find out what is wrong. In case of emotional trauma and stress on the nervous system the amge in not seen. Therefore having a therapist can help you heal. This can make you rejoin the puzzle we spoke about earlier. 

Conclusion 

In this article, we will try to understand what it means when we feel a part of me is missing. We will understand this by understanding the two reasons why we feel a part of me is missing. They are- emotional distressed and impact on the nervous system. We also look at other reasons such as We may be disconnected from our true self, We long for a deep meaningful relationship, You may be longing for a deeper meaning and purpose. Lastly, we will try to look at a few things you can do to not feel a part of me is missing. 

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References 

Why Do I Feel Part Of Me Is Missing?

https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/why-do-i-feel-like-something-is-missing-in-me-0602155

What Does It Mean If You Feel Something Is Missing In Your Life?