Nothing can help me (+What you can do about it)

This article will discuss how people that are battling mental illness may feel like nothing can help them. The article will show what could have caused this increase in your hopelessness, and what you can do about it. 

Nothing can help me

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When you are dealing with mental illness, especially depression, you can experience an intense loss of hope. This can be a constant sensation, or it can come and go. But sometimes this hopelessness can take over and you might feel as if you will never get better from this situation. 

This sense of hopelessness can have many effects on you. It can make you lose interest in everything. And even though this is a common symptom of depression, it can be that through treatment those start to return. But if your depression is getting worse, this will go in the opposite direction.

This loss of pleasure or joy is called Anhedonia, and it is a main symptom of depression. And while going through that, you might lose the energy to do even the most basic things. 

You also tend to spend less time socializing, and this can happen because you have less energy. Along with that, you might start to feel as if no one understands you, or care about your experience. 

As you feel like nothing can help you, it can be a clear sign your condition is worsening. This can cause your mood to swing more intensely. If before you felt some sense of stability, you can notice that now you have times of the day when your symptoms are a lot worse. 

Along with the mood swing, the eating and sleeping patterns go through bigger changes. When talking about sleep, it might be that even if you sleep a lot, you will still always feel tired. And as for eating, you may lose your appetite, or eat a lot more than before. 

You might also observe that your emotional distress will get worse. And with that, you might start to fixate on negative thoughts, you can also start to cry more often, and worry that you are turning into a burden to others. 

When you feel like nothing can help you, you can lose the will to live and might consider self-harm and even have suicidal thoughts, even if you don’t plan on putting them into action.

If this intense hopelessness continues, It might be important to look at what is going on, that is causing you to feel worse. 

Why you are feeling like this

If you have been going through a mental illness treatment for a while, and you noticed that you have gotten worse recently. It can cause you to feel like nothing will help you, it might be that your condition has been getting worse. This may happen for many reasons.

It can be that you are going through a stressful situation that can harm you. Another reason why you are feeling worse might be because your treatment plan needs to be adjusted.

This is a common thing. It can be that you need to do a joint treatment, meaning therapy and medication, or that you are going through a different condition than the one thought at first. 

For example, if you looked for professional help during the depressive episode of a bipolar disorder, you might have been treated for depression, and when you go through the manic episode, the treatment will need to change. 

You can also feel like nothing can help you if your medication is giving you too many side effects. It is a hard decision for people to consider going into medication, and when they finally decide to, to notice it will make you worse can leave you feeling hopeless.

Another matter that harms your emotional condition is if you are using drugs or alcohol. They alone can cause your mood to get worse, if you are using medication with it, there will be terrible consequences.

What can I do about it

If you get to the point in which you feel like nothing can help you, it might be important to get in touch with the professional that is supporting you through this. Let them know how you have been feeling, for how long has this been going on, and if anything happened in your life to cause you to feel like this.

Remind them of what medications you have been taking, if the symptoms got worse all at once, or if it was a gradual process. The more you can tell them, the easier it becomes for them to figure out what is going on. 

It can help you to write how you have been feeling, what time of day you feel worse, and better, so you can take all that information to your appointment. Through that, you both will be able to discuss what is the best line of treatment. It can be therapy, medication, or a combination of both. 

They can also suggest to you some lifestyle changes, such as starting to exercise, or meditating. But if you feel this crushing sense of hopelessness, and you can’t wait for your doctor appointment,  it might be important to get in touch with people you trust, and also emergency lines, such as the National Suicide Prevention Line.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ): What to do when it feels like nothing can help me?

What are suicidal thoughts?

Suicidal thoughts are what happens when a person starts to contemplate their death. It can be because they are going through a mental health issue, or because they are going through something in their life that they feel unable to cope with, such as a financial or legal matter.

There are two types of suicidal thoughts. A person might be only thinking about it, this means they have no plan of putting those thoughts into action. It might be just a fleeting thought that comes when it feels like life is too hard, or when they consider how the world would be without them. 

If the person is having this sort of suicidal thought, they must be in treatment to help them cope with their mental health condition or with the stressful events that are going on in their life.

But there is a type of suicidal thought in which the person starts to plan on how to do it, where, and when. This is an urgent matter. Those people should not be left unsupervised, and the professional that is treating them should be made aware of what is going on.

It is possible to know people are starting to plan suicide if they start to snow curiosity around death, violence, and suicide; and show less hope. They may also get more agitated, and their sleeping patterns can change. Along with that, they can start to say goodbye to loved ones, and give away their belongings.

How can I help my friend that is talking about suicide? 

If you think your friend is considering suicide, having an open and honest conversation may be the first thing to do. Ask them point-blank if they are thinking about it. This will allow them to talk about it. 

People that are considering suicide feel ashamed of talking about it, and are afraid they will worry others. So starting this talk can be a big relief. As they tell you what is going on, try to understand if it is something they are just thinking about, or if they started to plan.

Through that, make yourself present, it can be physically or through text. But show them you are by their side in dealing with this. If you understand they are in the planning stage of suicidal thoughts, try to motivate them to look for treatment, and get in touch with other people that are part of their support network.

It might be important to not leave them alone, and take out of the reach things that they can use to harm themselves. Hopefully, with time, and with treatment, your friend will feel better.

What are the main symptoms of depression?

Depression can cause people to feel an intense sense of sadness, along with it, they have a more negative outlook on life. They lose their energy, their ability to focus, and interest in things they used to love. 

The condition also causes people to have low self-esteem and a decreased sense of self-worth. Their eating and sleeping patterns can change, they can feel more irritable and cry more often. It also causes them to feel guilty, and have ideas of self-harm, or even suicidal thoughts.

How can I take care of myself when I feel like nothing can help me? 

When you feel like nothing else will help you, it can be important to do some self-care activities to improve your sense of well-being. You might want to take a hot bath, and maybe take a nap. This will stop you from focusing on negative thoughts.

Realize what feels better for you, if you want to be around people, get in touch with friends. Maybe having some friends over can make you feel a little better, and can even give you some laughs. If you think you need some alone time, turn your phone off, listen to some music, and take some time to yourself.

If you have a professional that is taking care of you, make an appointment, if not, you should consider starting one. And if you can’t talk to them at the moment, maybe writing about what you are thinking can give you a sense of relief because you put your feelings out. Dealing with what you are feeling is extremely important.

Will I ever feel better?

Yes, you most likely will feel better with time and treatment. When you are going through this moment when it seems like nothing can help you, it might seem as if your life will never get back to what it was before. 

When that is going on, it might be important to go back in time and understand that you weren’t born like that. And even if you have a chronic condition, such as bipolar disorder, the symptoms weren’t always like you feel now, and they won’t be like this forever. Try to take care of yourself, and stick to your treatment. 


The article discussed how people with mental illness can go through moments with a lack of hope, and how, sometimes, it can take over their life. This can make them feel as if nothing can help them. The article discussed why this might be happening and what are ways people can cope with it.

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