No one will help me with my depression

This article will discuss how it feels when you sense that no one will help you with your depression. Aside from that, the article will talk about what depression is, and how it can affect your relationship. Along with that, the article will show what are ways you can cope with this.

No one will help me with my depression

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When you are depressed, social support is extremely important. But it might also be that having someone to help you with your depression may seem impossible at times. There are some reasons as to why this happens. Let’s discuss what they are.

People might not grasp what depression feels like 

Nowadays, even though it is becoming more common, depression and other mental illnesses are still stigmatized. And people that haven’t gone through might have trouble understanding what is going on.

People will gladly help someone from their work or a family member that has a broken leg. They would offer them help to get a glass of water, help them shower, get dressed, and so on. But with depression, since it is not a visible health condition, people might not grasp that you need support.

Because of how different people view physical health and mental health it might be difficult for them to help. And even when people try to help you, it might be that they won’t give you the help you need.

For them, it is hard to understand how this constant sadness is in you, and how it can make it hard for you to try to do things. Some people might offer that “get over it” type of help, and this is not necessarily the help you need at the moment.

Even if they have the best intentions, they can have trouble understanding how this condition affects them. They can try to offer quick fixes, without considering the changes that depression causes you.  

But if someone close is determined to try and help, the first thing they could do is to inform themselves. So let’s briefly explain what depression is.

What is depression?

Depression is a mental health condition that affects people worldwide. It is not a choice, and everyone can get depressed at some point in their life. It is a condition that causes people to live with frequent sadness. Aside from that, they lose interest in everything, even things they are used to loving.

It can cause them to feel empty, with low self-esteem and self-worth. Depression can make people isolate themselves, and cause them to become more irritable, with less energy and ability to focus. 

When a person is depressed, even though they might want to, simple things in life may be impossible, to some, even getting out of bed can be hard at times.

A person with depression will also see their eating and sleeping patterns change. Because of all that, social support is important when a person is depressed. Having people around, that properly support them, can help them in small things, such as getting out of bed.

But when a person has depression, it might be that their behavior changes in a way that makes it hard for people to be around them. And that is what we will discuss now.

Your depression could be making you isolate

When you are depressed, you can have a more negative view not only of the world but of yourself as well. You may start to think you are a burden to people, and that can cause you to isolate yourself and not ask for the proper help you need.

And because you have less energy, and it is hard for you to focus, being around people can be hard for you. You can get scared that people won’t want to have your kind of negativity next to them, so you just close yourself even more, in fear that you might pose them for good.

When that is what is happening, it might be hard for you to tell them exactly what you need. And finding support can become harder by the day. You can try to communicate in a clear form what your needs are.

Ask for help if you need someone to support you with your cooking, or tell them when you need to talk, let them know when you need to vent, and not necessarily look for a quick fix or a solution.

If it still seems hard to count on the people around you, here are some ways you can cope with the lack of a support network.

Ways you can cope with the lack of support

If you realize that the people around you are unable to support you, you must find other ways to get the support you need. Here are some ways you can do that.

Have in mind that not everyone understands 

It might be hard for people to understand what depression is. They can have trouble grasping the notion that someone will feel this bad, and how hard it is to overcome depression.

You don’t need to feel guilty about it, but just have in mind that some people might not be able to help because they don’t understand what is happening.

Don’t blame yourself 

Don’t think you are pushing people away, or that you are being too much for them. Try to support yourself through this. Be compassionate towards yourself, and try to break those negative monologues you have in your mind by bringing some positive things.

Try to do something that can increase your sense of well-being. It might be taking a hot bath, reading a good book, maybe talking to a friend, or even going for a walk in the park.

Have in mind that others might be struggling too 

It could be that your friend or your family member is also going through something as well. They could be going through depression, or some other mental health issue, and are unable to support you at this moment. 

If you feel disappointed by people, try to remember this fact. It doesn’t have to do with their lack of appreciation or love for you.

Find other ways of support 

If you feel like your support network isn’t able to help you, it might be a good idea to look for other ways of support. For example, you can look for a support group for people with depression, in it, you will find people that are going through similar things as you, and it might help you feel understood.

End relationships that might be bad for you 

If you have tried asking for help and communicating better to people about how you feel, it may be important to evaluate your relationship with the person. Understand how they have been close to you, or not. And if this is related to what is going on with you now, or if this relationship has had its problems even before that. 

Let go of the anger

Don’t let the anger take over you. Relationships are always hard, even more, when you are going through depression. Don’t let those negative thoughts take over you even more than depression makes it. 

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ): Why will no one help me with my depression?

How can I overcome depression? 

There are some ways people can decrease their symptoms of depression. The first one is to try and change your view. Depression causes you to look at life and the world more negatively. By making yourself look at things a little differently, it can make a world of difference.

If it is hard for you to look at things more positively, maybe you can try to look back at some positive memories. This will allow you to see that depression has never been the rule in your life, and it won’t go on forever as well. And going through those memories can also make you feel better.

It might also help you to make some positive plans. It doesn’t need to be some huge plans try to focus on small things that can bring you joy. This will also give you something to look forward to.

Does depression get better over time?

No, depression doesn’t get better over time, it will only get worse over time if not treated. Some people can think that not dealing with depression, and what it causes in their life will be easier, but that is exactly the opposite.

As soon as you realize your emotions have changed, and that the sadness has been persistently present for more than two weeks, you might want to look for a therapist to try to help you navigate this situation.

Does depression have a cure? 

No, depression doesn’t have a cure. Mental health professionals rather say it is in remission. That is because it is impossible to say someone won’t ever develop depression again. 

The treatment of someone that has depression aims to reduce the person’s symptoms and allow them to get back to their life. And even though the person gets back to their life as it was before, some changes will be made. 

A person who has depression needs to keep active care of their mental health and try to keep the lifestyle changes they did when dealing with depression. For example, they should keep exercising or meditating if they realized it helped them back then.

How do I know my friend is thinking of suicide?  

If your friend is considering suicide they might start to show some signs. They might become even more isolated, and their sleep will change even more. Along with that, they will start to show come curiosity around death, violence, and suicide.

Along with that, they will start to say their goodbyes, and give away their belongings, and might become more irritable and agitated. 

What are the causes of depression?

Depression has many causes, and some things can make it easier for people to get depressed. If a person has a history of depression in their family or has gone through a depressive episode before they have a higher risk of getting depressed.

People can also get depressed because they have some imbalance in their brain chemistry. Or because they are dealing with a traumatic situation. This good is the loss of a loved one, or that they are going through financial or legal problems.

Conclusion 

This article discussed why people with depression might feel like no one will help them cope with the situation. The article showed how it might be hard for people to relate, but also how a person with depression tends to isolate themselves. 

It also showed how a combination of factors can make the person with depression feel alone, and what are ways they can cope with this situation.

If you have any questions or comments about this article, feel free to write it in the section below.

References

https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/amp/entry/depression_uk_5cbf255ce4b0255d40bb0c3e/
https://screening.mhanational.org/content/no-one-believes-me-when-i-ask-help-or-say-im-struggling/

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