The best 9 books for kind girls (recommendations)

In this blog post, we recommended 9 books for kind girls, for teenagers to understand better what is happening in their mind and body. 

9 books recommendations for kind girls

For this article I have collected a lot of books for girls, various guides about puberty and life, in general, about physical changes but also about mental ones, books with practical ideas or inspirational books to help girls navigate the troubled waters of ( pre-) adolescence.

Why books for kind girls?

Because, above all, we must learn in this life to be kind and patient, both with ourselves and with others.

  • Problem Solved: 52 Teen Girl Problems & How To Solve Them – by Alex Hooper-Hodson

Now, I can’t say that I have great confidence in a book about teenage girls written by a guy, but I gave it a chance and it was surprisingly good.

The answers are common sense, and the 52 problems, selected by Alex Cooper-Hodson’s are representative of a wide range of issues that teens may face.

The book is divided into five chapters, each representing an aspect of girls’ lives: issues related to their own bodies, problems related to physical and mental health, emotional and social life, addictions, lovemaking and difficult decisions (such as abortion or whether to drop out of college or not) and personal safety.

Each issue is presented in the form of a letter from a 13-18-year-old girl and Alex’s answer, plus some testimonials from other girls who went through something similar.

In most of the answers, Alex recommends better communication with parents and other responsible adults in the girls’ lives, as well as punctual, practical advice, while demonstrating empathy and understanding for the situation that girls who go through.

Also, by the same author, you can find a version for boys, Problem Solved: 52 Teen Boy Problems & How To Solve Them. 

  • The Girls’ Guide to Growing Up, by Anita Naik 

This is a book for girls, in which the onset of puberty is described and is great to make girls aware and teach them to recognize the signs of the imminent change.

I think girls about 9-11 years old might find this book interesting.

The book addresses in a simplified but concise manner, all the physical and mental changes that occur in the body of girls at puberty: breast augmentation, the fact that each girl develops at a different pace, skin problems, sweating and personal hygiene, hair loss, menstruation, mood swings, eating and eating disorders, the importance of sports and exercise, self-esteem, the need for intimacy.

In each chapter, there are practical tips on how to choose your first undergarment to support your chest, how to approach the problem of pimples, how to get rid of unwanted hair on the body, what sanitary materials to use during menstruation, etc.

The book also contains a chapter on lovemaking (explained schematically, to be understood by children) and a few pages about boys’ puberty, in order to make a comparison.

  • For Girls Only – 99 Questions & Answers for Girls, by Sabine Thor-Wiedemann

This is a very nice book, with all kinds of questions that 12+ girls would ask about growth, relationships, friendships, body transformations, boys, weight, physical appearance, what others think, clothes, hygiene, love and lovemaking, personal safety, rights and obligations, etc.

Beware, this book is a bit more explicit than others like it in terms of lovemaking and is not for everyone.

It would be good to browse it in the bookstore before buying it. The author addresses issues such as same-gender relationships, loss of virginity, oral lovemaking, erogenous zones, “petting”, masturbation, positions, “the first time”, protection but also more problematic issues such as paedophilia, consent, adult-content, virtual relationships, diseases with intimate transmission, prostitution, sadomasochism.

In any case, even if you don’t want to give it to the children, you can keep this book for yourself, to help you answer as honestly as possible (and briefly, if you really want to) some awkward questions that, whether you like it or not, will arise at one moment and I’m sure you’d rather be the parent that explain it to their kids and not let find out from friends.

  • Girls or boys, does it really matter? By Geraldine Maincent

In a funny way, the book tries to dismantle various prejudices about girls and boys, historically analyzing the situation of women in society: the fact that they did not have the right to property, that they themselves were considered the property of men, that they did not have the right to important positions, etc.

Other questions the book answers: why women are not priests, why some girls wear veils, why women are still mutilated, abused or deprived of rights in some parts of the world, why there is a preconception that pink is for girls and blue for boys, why girls play with dolls, why men don’t like to cry, what is machismo, what is misogyny, when girls started wearing pants, it’s true that girls are better at school and boys are better at sports and what clichés about girls and boys exist.

The book is not really a guide for girls, but I find it useful for both girls and boys in the growth process, so as not to perpetuate preconceptions and clichés about gender differences.

  • The Girl Guide: 50 Ways to Learn to Love Your Changing Body, by Marawa Ibrahim

This book is also a guide to puberty but written with a lot of humour and memories from the personal experience of the author who manages to write from the perspective of a girl about all the physical transformation that upset us during preadolescence and adolescence.

Humour is the most important asset of this book!

  • Growing Up for Girls, by Felicity Brooks 

Also a book about puberty, but which speaks in more details regarding health, personal safety and mental well-being. I recommend it for 14+ girls.

It addresses adolescent issues such as depression, alcohol or drug addiction, self-confidence, and how girls relate to society, wrong reasons to have lovemaking when you’re unprepared, relationships, and breakups.

I recommend it because it contains concrete and detailed advice on how to be safe on the street, online or at parties, how to prepare for exams, how to ask for help if you are in an unpleasant situation, what and how to eat, how do you take care of your body, but also various funny tests, statistics and lists that can be helpful.

There is, of course, a chapter on lovemaking, from how to put on a birth control, to what answers to give if you receive an excuse from a boy for not wanting to use it, how to take a pregnancy test and why it is good to get vaccinated against HPV. 

  • What’s Happening to Me? By Susan Meredith

This is a thin book that addresses, like the others, aspects related to puberty and growing up: menstruation, pimples, mood swings, etc.

Likewise, it recommends movement, hygiene, patience and communication until they all pass. There is also a boys’ version.

  • The confidence code, by Katty Kay & Claire Shipman

A wonderful and very welcomed book that should not be missing from any girl’s library.

As confident as we may think young girls are, they are overwhelmed by fears, doubts, low self-esteem, the opinions of others, and the way society conditions them to look or function in a certain way.

Even the most popular girl feels insecure, and the girl with the most Olympics or awards and the girl who sings, dances or speaks in front of the audience and the girls who hide behind a well-constructed attitude of arrogance or exuberance.

And society only feeds these insecurities, with the help of advertisements, magazines, TV shows, this marketing machine that always tells you that you are not good enough, beautiful, smart, successful if you do not use the product or a certain service.

In this context, a book with practical advice, descriptions of real situations, many words of encouragement, statistics and analysis of how society views or treats women is more than welcomed. 

  • Love your body, by Jessica Sanders

A book which will help girls to love themselves and maintain their high self-esteem.

It is quite schematic and emphasizes the differences between bodies and the way the body is built in such a way as to help you do what you want.

It teaches us that we must respect our body, take care of it, accept its changes and love it unconditionally. 

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Tips for parents of teenagers

The relationship between a parent and their child is based on a lot of decisions made every day by both of them.

Hopefully, the following tips will help you improve your relationship:

  • Avoid identifying with your child. Parents who are overly involved in their children’s lives and who have not put boundaries between themselves and their children will react to the events in their teenagers’ lives as if it had happened to them. This is not healthy nor for the child or the parent. 
  • Don’t take things personally. This does not mean that you have to tolerate disrespect, but only that you do not have to react as intensely as your teenager. In addition, when your child has stormy behaviours, remember that if he can be honest with you, it is a sign of the closeness and emotional security he feels for you.
  • Don’t make discipline decisions when you’re angry. No matter how justified you feel in those moments, avoid punishing or disciplining the teenager in moments of anger.

Why? Here are several reasons:

  • when you make decisions in moments of anger, you teach the child to do the same;
  • your anger will only increase your child’s anger or make them afraid of you – both of which have negative consequences for your relationship;
  • when he sees you angry, the child also sees your inability to keep control of the situation.

Wait for everything to calm down and then decide what the consequences of your child’s behaviour will be. 

  • Give him more independence, but also more responsibility. As he grows, your child becomes more and more able to take care of himself. That’s why, up to the age of 18, you can transfer many of your household chores to the teenager, teaching him to become truly independent and giving him the opportunity to appreciate all the efforts you have made for him.
  • Do not ignore the red flags. Some parents of teenagers see catastrophes at every step, others underestimate signs of possible serious problems. Sudden changes in behaviour, weight gain or loss, signs that suggest self-harm, alcohol or drug use, excessive isolation (not only from parents but also from friends) are signs that should not be overlooked. They can indicate emotional disorders, difficult problems your child is facing or risky behaviours.
  • Listen, listen, listen. When your teenager talks to you, listen, then ask him questions and wait for the answer. Instead of explaining to him what the solution is, how he should have proceeded, what you would have done or where exactly he went wrong, just try to listen to him.

What we recommend for Relationship & LGBTQ issues

Relationship counselling

  • If you are having relationship issues or maybe you are in an abusive relationship then relationship counselling could be your first point of call. Relationship counselling could be undertaken by just you, it does not require more than one person.

LGBTQ issues

If you are dealing with LGBTQ issues then LGBTQ counselling may be a great option for you. Maybe you are confused as to your role and identity or simply need someone to speak to. LGBTQ counsellors are specially trained to assist you in this regard.

Conclusions

In this blog post, we recommended 9 books for kind girls, for teenagers to understand better what is happening in their mind and body. 

If you are a teenager parent, we hope that the tips mentioned above will help you have a better relationship with your child.

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