In this brief blog, we are going to discuss what to do if you are thinking, “I wish I were dead”.
We will hopefully give you a few reasons why you should not kill yourself and why life is worth living.
I wish I were dead
You may want to kill yourself as you have just had a difficult day, maybe an argument with your wife, your boyfriend, your husband or your girlfriend.
What you should understand is that wanting to kill yourself is just a feeling you’re experiencing right now due to the events that have just occurred.
You may need some time to just cool down and analyze what has just occurred.
Killing yourself won’t make you feel any better but rather it will make things horrible for the people you left behind without a final word, the people you left behind without saying bye or explaining that you were going forever.
If you are feeling like you want to kill yourself then think about the countless number of people who have tried to kill themselves but failed to because someone stopped them or because their acts only caused serious injury but not death, most of these people are now so grateful that their actions did not lead to their deaths.
In most cases, the issues they wanted to kill themselves over are now forgotten, they mean nothing or were resolved to everybody’s satisfaction and now appear so little.
I wish I were dead- questions to ask
If you think you want to kill yourself ask yourself the questions below.
- Why do I wish I were dead?
- I wish I were dead, but what happens to my friends?
- I wish I were dead but I don’t want my family to see me like this?
- I wish I were dead but will I care about this issue tomorrow?
- I wish I were dead but why haven’t I sought help first?
- I wish I were dead, how will my family take this?
- I wish I were dead but have I arranged my finances?
- I wish I were dead but why haven’t I contacted Samaritans?
Ask yourself the questions above will hopefully help guide you on what to do next.
As mentioned before, in most situations, the things we are so concerned and worried about aren’t so great that we should limit ourselves to not having life.
In most cases, these issues are resolved and long-forgotten within days, weeks or even months.
Issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend
If you want to kill yourself because of your boyfriend or girlfriend then you should consider these points below:
Have you told your boyfriend or girlfriend that you are considering killing yourself?
Have you told your boyfriend or girlfriend how you truly free?
Have you tried to work out the issues that you are facing?
If you have broken up with your boyfriend or girlfriend have you considered going out clubbing, partying or socialising to see if anybody else out there excites you?
There are over 7 billion people out there who you may find captivate your attention better, who may excite you or offer you something much different sexually or emotionally.
If you want to kill yourself because you are being bullied at school then you should first tell your parents, then report this to your teachers and the counsellor at your school.
If no one does anything to help you then tell your brothers, sisters or refuse to go to school.
When telling your story of how you have been bullied be sure to explain it in great detail.
If you are scared of getting hurt or someone is physically harming you then call the police on 999.
If you want to kill yourself because you are being bullied at your workplace then you should report this to management.
If you are being bullied by management then you should contact your employee workforce or discuss your issue with the employment tribunal or a suitable legal representative.
You should get evidence of the workplace bullying.
Rather than killing yourself you could get paid a hefty compensation for workplace bullying which could help you pay off a mortgage, go on a nice holiday or doe something similar rather than dying and causing your family pain, stress and sadness.
Failure at work or school
If you want to kill yourself because you are failing at school or at work then I want to let you know that failure is a big part of success.
Most people who have succeeded in life have also failed severally.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” —Thomas A. Edison
If your family or workplace is putting way too much pressure on you to succeed and you are unable to handle this sort of pressure then you should let them know that you are no longer able to work under their terms.
Do not kill yourself because you are trying to please other people.
If you are thinking to yourself “I wish I were dead” you may be suffering from a burnout by trying to do too much and hence you feel deflated, sad, depressed, lonely and now want to kill yourself.
You’re Not the problem, don’t hurt yourself. Work is the problem, leave work and regain your wellbeing.
What to do if you are thinking of killing yourself?
If you are thinking to yourself, “I wish I were dead”, you may be faced with some very huge and complex decisions.
The reality is that your mind will be racing so fast that you won’t be able to help yourself, you won’t be able to think properly and you may not be able to break down and understand what you are truly going through.
Taking a moment to slow down and consider what is happening, what is driving you to this point may help you reflect better.
Speak to anyone who may be interested in helping you as they could potentially give you more clarity on what you are going through and how to overcome it.
Remove things that can harm you
If you want to kill yourself then you should at least try and remove anything that could potentially harm you.
If there are knives, medication or anything around you that cold harm you then throw them out of the window immediately.
If there are too many things to throw away then leave your home and go somewhere social. Go speak to someone random, interact with people and you will hopefully feel better.
Call a friend
If you want to kill yourself then you should first call a friend.
Tell your friend how you are feeling and hopefully they will be able to help you understand what you are going through, your friend may come round or you may go round to their homes and have a chat, maybe stay over until you feel better and well enough to go home.
Keep your mind busy
If you want to kill yourself then you should try and keep your mind busy.
Think about other activities that you may want to do such as golf, football, hockey, basketball, dog walking and whatever else you may be able to do to take your mind off wanting to kill yourself.
This could be as simple as watching your favourite movies or playing video games.
Speaking to Samaritans
Samaritans are known to have helped a lot of people who have come to this difficult moment of trying to kill themselves.
The Samaritans telephone line is open 24 hours a day. This means you can access the hotline at every single second of every year.
If you are feeling suicidal just give Samaritans a call on 116 123. You can find more information about calling Samaritans for help about feeling suicidal here.
If you can’t quite figure out what is happening or need help breaking it down further then Samaritans will be able to help you talk through things.
You may be sceptical about how talking could help you solve your problems but talking can indeed go a long way to helping you solve your problems.
If you are feeling desperate and on the edge then Samaritans can certainly help you make sense of it all.
Samaritans will also be able to help you understand other forms of help which may be available to you.
Are you suicidal?
It’s a worthwhile question as sometimes we can’t really tell how we are feeling.
If you are experiencing any of the below thoughts then a chat with Samaritans may be worth it:
You feel like you want to die
You feel like you have no more options
You have lost all hope or will
You want a solution to the nightmare you are having and can’t see any other way out but to kill yourself
You feel alone, betrayed, abandoned and just want to end that feeling
You aren’t really planning on killing yourself but you won’t mind it happening either
You feel out of control and you feel like many things in your life are now out of your control and you see death as the only way to regain control
You can’t quite figure out why you are having suicidal thoughts and you feel very powerless to help yourself
Will Samaritans stop you from killing yourself?
Samaritans will do all they can to show you that there is a more positive outcome and hope that you will not kill yourself.
They will hope to get you to see things from a different and more positive viewpoint.
Of Course, Samaritans will not enforce anything on you and you are free to make whatever decisions you feel are necessary, including the decision to end your life.
Samaritans will respect whatever decision you make and will continue to talk to you even if you have made the decision to end your life.
Will Samaritans tell anybody I’m suicidal?
No Samaritans will never disclose such information or even disclose that you ever called unless you ask them to.
The only exceptions to this are when Samaritans will call the emergency services. They will do this if:
You ask them to, and you’re unable to call for yourself
You’ve already told Samaritans your address, location or phone number, and then become incoherent or unconscious during the call
You’re in one of Samaritans branches, and you’ve harmed yourself in a way that puts you in danger at that time.
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What if you don’t want to talk on the phone?
If you don’t want to talk on the phone then there are various other ways to contact Samaritans.
You could visit a branch
PO Box 9090
If you are suffering from depression, anxiety, loneliness or any similar mental health issue then seeking help for it may be a good option.
Mental health issues such as depression, loneliness and anxiety can affect anyone of us.
If you are under 18 then CAMHS, an NHS run programme may just be the answer for your mental health struggles.
You should look to see if you meet the CAMHS referral criteria and then fill in the CAMHS referral form.
In this brief, blog we discussed the statement “I wish I were dead”.
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