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I slept with two guys and now I’m pregnant (what to do?)

In this article, we will try to answer the question ‘What to do when I slept with two guys and now I’m pregnant? The article will look at different ways to know when you got pregnant, the availability of paternity tests before and after the baby is born, the early signs of pregnancy, and how to avoid pregnancy. 

How to know when you got pregnant? 

If you slept with two guys and now you are pregnant, the best way to figure out who the father is to find out the date when you conceived the baby. 

At the very first, visit your doctor. Your doctor will be able to help you with finding out the day you conceived the baby. Of course, it is not possible for your doctor to give you the exact date and time, but she can narrow your possibilities, this will help you determine who is the father of the baby. 

Let us first understand the science behind the process of pregnancy. 

To get pregnant, an ovulated female egg has to meet a male sperm. This is called the process of fertilization. This happens in the fallopian tube. A woman can get pregnant only when she is ovulating. Ovulation is the process when the eggs are released from the ovaries into the fallopian tube. It usually happens 14-15 days prior to the first day of the cycle .i.e the day you get your periods. The ovulation can vary just like your periods. 

In addition, one must also know that sperm can live inside you for 7 days. This gives the sperm a window of one week to fertilize with an egg. 

Therefore if you have a regular menstrual cycle, you can determine when you might have conceived the baby. If you have had sex with two men and got pregnant, you need to remember the dates when you might have engaged in sexual intercourse. If you know when your period was due, count back 2 weeks to the day of ovulation. If this matches to the day you had sexual intercourse or have had seven days before it, Ta-da, you know who the father might be.  It is highly possible that the man you had sex with during your ovulation can be the father of your child.  

Although it might be difficult to determine who the father is if you have an irregular menstrual cycle. In this case, the best thing to do is to get an ultrasound. When you are 10 to 13 weeks plus 6 days pregnant, you are offered what is called the dating scan. This will provide you with a due date i.e the day your baby is born. Count back 38 weeks to find out the time around which you got pregnant, this will help you determine who the father might be. 

However, if you have had sex with two guys, around the same time, this method to determine who the father is not possible. It may sound like you will never know who the father is, but do not lose hope in science. 

Paternity test before the baby is born.

There was certainly a time when paternity tests were not possible. Women at those times would just have to find out who the father is on the basis of the baby’s looks and habits. But thanks to science, things have changed. Not only can you get a paternity test after the baby is born, but you can find out who the father is when the baby is inside your womb. 

A paternity test is used to establish the biological relationship between the father and the baby. Here is a list of paternity tests that can be conducted before the baby is born 

Noninvasive prenatal paternity (NIPP)

This is a kind of noninvasive technique used to establish the genetic relationship between the father and the baby. In this technique, the blood samples of the alleged father and fetal cells of the mother are collected. Fetal cell analysis is conducted and a genetic profile is made. The profile compared the fetal cells present in the mother’s blood stream to that of the alleged father. The results are accurate 99% of the time. 

Amniocentesis

This is an invasive technique usually performed between weeks 14 to 20. The doctor injects a long, thin needle into your uterus, to collect the amniotic fluid. The DNA collected is compared to the DNA sample of the alleged father. Results are 99 percent accurate. Amniocentesis is usually used to detect neural tube defects, chromosome abnormalities, and genetic disorders.

However, this technique comes with certain risks of miscarriage caused by premature labor, water breaking, or infection.

In addition to this, vaginal bleeding, cramping, the leaking of amniotic fluid, and irritation around the injection site are other side effects of Amniocentesis

Chorionic villus sampling (CVS)

This is also an invasive technique that is usually used between weeks 10 and 13 of your pregnancy. Like Amniocentesis, your doctor will use an injection or tube, but this time will insert it into your vagina through the cervix, with the help of an ultrasound. The tube then collects chorionic villi, small pieces of tissue that are attached to the uterine wall. These tissues have the exact same genetic makeup as your baby. The DNA collected is then compared with the DNA of the potential father. The test has an accuracy rate of 99 percent. However, 1 in every 100 CVS procedure results in a miscarriage. 

These are the three highly used prenatal paternity tests throughout the world, however, given the risks of miscarriage in Amniocentesis and Chorionic villus sampling (CVS), people usually opt for Noninvasive prenatal paternity (NIPP). 

Paternity test after the baby is born. 

If you are willing to wait until the baby is born, then you can opt for postnatal  DNA tests. 

There are two ways these tests are done 

Using blood samples

Blood is the best route to our DNA. The blood samples of potential father and child are collected s at a medical office. The facility sends the samples to a lab for analysis. It compares the blood types of the two individuals to determine the paternity. 

In the ABO blood typing system, humans can either possess 

  • the A antigen (A blood type)
  • the B antigen (B blood type)
  • both the A and B antigen (AB blood type)
  • or neither of these antigens (O blood type). 

Red blood cell antigen systems of this sort can be used for paternity blood testing because there are genes that code for the antigens and these are inherited genes.

Using Cheek swabs

In this method, a swab is rubbed vigorously against the inside of the subject’s cheek. This provides a DNA sample for testing. The DNA is collected from both the father and the child, and the genetic makeup is then matched to determine the paternity of the child. 

How expensive are paternity tests? 

The cost of the paternity test varies from one another. A paternity test usually costs around $130 to $200.However, pre-natal paternity tests are comparatively less expensive. 

Early signs of pregnancy 

If you have had sexual intercourse with two guys during the ovulation period, and have started to feel different, there might be chances that you are pregnant. Below is a list of signs that will help you realize that you might be pregnant. 

Spotting and cramping

After the egg is fertilized and attaches it to the wall of the uterus, the earliest signs of pregnancy begin. One can notice a slight spotting and cramping. These are usually mistaken for menstrual cramps. However, bleeding is quite lighter. 

Breast changes 

Women’s breasts are the natural indication of both menstruation and pregnancy. Due to the change in the hormonal balance, there is are drastic changes seen in women’s breasts. They usually become swollen, sore, or tingly a week or two later. For some, they may become, heavier and tender. 

Morning sickness 

The most famous symptom of pregnancy is morning sickness. Pregnancy hormones are likely to contribute to morning sickness. When a woman is pregnant, they cannot stand the smell of certain food or general odor. 

Missed periods 

well, what better than a missed period to alert someone about pregnancy. Every time a girl misses her periods she is likely to be scared of being pregnant. Although missing the period can be because of so many other reasons, a primary reason is a pregnancy. 

Fatigue 

Feeling tired is quite normal. It often happens due to the high level of progesterone in the women’s body. It can also be because of the low sugar level, low blood pressure, and blood production. 

These are a few prominent signs of pregnancy within the first few weeks of conception. 

How to avoid pregnancy?

If you do not want to be in a condition, where you have sex and end up being pregnant, you must take precautions. Remember precautions are better than cure. Protection is very important. Using condoms can avoid the chances of pregnancy to a great extent. If you like having unprotected sex, make sure the man pulls out at the right time. If you have missed using condoms, you can also take contraceptive pills. However, make sure you contact your doctor about it first. In addition to this, you can use a cervical cap sold as FemCap in the United States.  It is a soft silicone cup that is placed deep inside the vagina covering the cervix to stop sperm from reaching an egg. 

There are many ways to avoid getting pregnant. Make sure you are having safe and sound sex, to avoid any complications further. 

Conclusion 

In this article, we have tried to answer the question ‘What to do when I slept with two guys and now I’m pregnant? The article has looked at different ways to know when you got pregnant, the availability of paternity tests before and after the baby is born, the early signs of pregnancy, and how to avoid pregnancy. 

FAQs: I slept with two guys and now I’m pregnant

What to do if you are pregnant? 

If the pregnancy test taken turns out to be positive, immediately, call your doctor to make the appointment. By visiting the doctor’s clinic you will first confirm your pregnancy and the doctor may help you in dealing with your pregnancy. If you know who the father is, inform them too, as they have a right to know. 

How a woman gets pregnant by a man?

If the man ejaculates in the woman’s vagina, the sperms travel through the vagina, into the fallopian tube, where they might meet an egg released from the ovary. Once the sperm enters the egg, the process of fertilization begins. This fertilized egg then flows down to the uterus and imbibes in the uterine wall. A process called conception. 

What should be eaten to avoid pregnancy?

Eating papaya, ginger, turnip, neem, vitamin C, dried figs, cinnamon can help in terminating unwanted pregnacy. 

What we recommend for Relationship & LGBTQ issues

Relationship counselling

  • If you are having relationship issues or maybe you are in an abusive relationship then relationship counselling could be your first point of call. Relationship counselling could be undertaken by just you, it does not require more than one person.

LGBTQ issues

If you are dealing with LGBTQ issues then LGBTQ counselling may be a great option for you. Maybe you are confused as to your role and identity or simply need someone to speak to. LGBTQ counsellors are specially trained to assist you in this regard.

References 

https://www.babycentre.co.uk/x1043682/i-dont-know-who-my-babys-dad-is-what-can-i-do

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321558#hormonal-methods

https://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/pregnancy-am-i-pregnant#3

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