I feel like no one cares about me (What to do)

In this guide, we will discuss why we feel like no one cares about me and what can we do to stop your mind from making you feel like no one cares about me.

At times we find ourselves having feelings as no one cares about me and I am alone in this world. Feelings of loneliness and isolation creep inside our minds, making us feel distant from our family, friends, and the world as a whole.  We feel that we can not reach out to anyone and that no one in the entire world thinks about us, likes us, or cares about us. 

But that is not the truth, sometimes depression makes us fall prey to this idea that no one cares about me when in reality people do care about us. We just need to reach out to them. 

Why I feel like no one cares about me

Here are a few reasons why you feel like no one cares about me:

• You might be having depression
• You may not be able to physically see people around
• You feel like you can not talk to anyone
• You feel like no one would understand you

You might be having depression

In case you feel like no one cares about me, and the feelings stay persistent over a long period there are chances that you might be having depression. Feeling like no one cares about me is one of the symptoms that can be seen in individuals who have depression as depression makes them believe that no one loves them and that they are all alone in the world. Symptoms of depression are not only feelings of sadness but also feeling helpless and unloved. 

You may not be able to physically see people around

Sometimes when you feel like no one cares about me it could be because you are not able to physically see anyone there with you and around you. Our brain believes what our eyes see and when our eyes are not able to see anyone around us physically we start to feel like no one cares about us and that we are all alone in this world. Especially during times like coronavirus where everyplace is on lockdown, social interaction has been turned to negligible or in some cases zero. During such times not being able to meet and see our loved ones can cause us to feel like no one cares about us and that we are all alone. 

You feel like you can not talk to anyone

At times when you feel like no one cares about me arises in our minds because we feel like we can not express and share with anyone what is going on inside our minds. We feel unable to share our thoughts and feelings with anyone and that no one in this world will be able to relate to what we are saying. We feel like we have no one to talk to and share our load with. That makes us feel lonely which further leads us to believe that no one cares about us. Because people did care about us they would ask how we are and not leave us to deal with our problems on our own. 

You feel like no one would understand you

Sometimes you feel like no one cares about me because you are not able to talk to someone about this feeling of loneliness and isolation that you feel. The reason you are not able to talk to them is that you feel like no one would understand you. Even if you were to go and tell your family or friends they won’t be able to understand the point of view or where these thoughts are coming from. And it is not just these thoughts but other thoughts and feelings too that you are experiencing. 

How to stop feeling like no one cares about me

Once you have understood why you feel like no one cares about me, we can work towards stopping the feeling of no one cares about me using the following techniques:

• Be compassionate towards yourself
• Remember you are not worthless
• Reach out to family and friends
• Understand the limitations of others
• Find new hobbies and friend circle
• Seek support from online platforms
• Be comfortable with your own company
• Spend time with your pets or other animals
• Question the thought “no one cares about me”
• Talk to a mental health professional

Be compassionate towards yourself

One of the things that you need to do is to be compassionate towards yourself and care about yourself. Especially when you feel like no one cares about me you need to remember that you are there to take care of yourself even when no one is there. Treat your mind and body with the same level of love that you are expecting others to shower you with. Be the one who takes care of you and does not depend on others for it. 

Remember you are not worthless

When you feel like no one cares about me, they can come with feelings of worthlessness and self-doubt. Remember that the level of care that others show you do not determine the level of your worth. No one in the world decides that except you. Remind yourself continuously that you are worthy and you are worth being cared for. You are worthy of all the love and affection in the world. 

Reach out to family and friends

In case you feel like no one cares about me, reach out to your family and friends about it. Let them know about your thoughts and feelings. Sometimes they might not realize that they are lacking in showing you the affection they feel about you. Telling them about it can ensure that they give you the attention and love you deserve and that will help you no longer feel that no one cares about you. Let them know how they can show their care for you so that your relationship with them remains strong and healthy. 

Understand the limitations of others

Understanding that not everyone can be there for us at all times and that they too have limitations on how much they can express and show their care towards you. Some people might not be very vocal about how much they care about you but be more expressive through their actions. We need to understand that it is their way of showing their care towards us. Sometimes our parents might ask us “how is work/school going?” It does not mean that they are concerned only about our work or school work but about us and how we feel in that environment. They care about you, just their way of showing it is different. 

Find new hobbies and friend circle

In case you feel like no one cares about me among your family and current friend circle, seek out other friends of yours. One of the easiest ways to find friends is to find a group of people who enjoy the same hobbies and have the same interests as you. Sometimes with time, we get distant from the ones we were once close o and need to look out for other people in life to help us connect. 

Seek support from online platforms

In case you find it tough to meet people in real life or feel hesitant to approach them or your schedule does not allow time for you to socialize. You can shift to online platforms to meet new people. There are many sites like Buddy Project, 7 cups, and many more that are meant to connect people who feel like no one cares about me. You can approach individuals with a sense of sureness that they will understand what you are going through and are there seeking the same thing you are. They will be non-judgemental and provide you with the care you want.

Be comfortable with your own company

Looking for someone to care for you can be exhausting and unrealistic at times. The only person that is going to be with you throughout your life, is you. So to not feel like no one cares about me, you need to learn to be comfortable in your own company and provide yourself with the love and care you seek. Be your caregiver and the person you can rely on during tough times. Once you can depend on yourself and care for yourself you won’t need anyone in your life. Practice self-care techniques regularly. 

Spend time with your pets or other animals

In case you feel like no one cares about me, shift your attention to your pets or other animals in your surrounding. Pets and animals are always there to shower us with their love and affection. They are the best buddies a person can ask for as they will always be there to care about you. They will make sure that you never feel lonely or isolated. Even on days when you do not feel like doing anything or talking to someone, you can interact with your pets and feel good about the day. Pets like dogs, cats, birds, fishes, or even guinea pigs can be adopted to help you feel better and happier. 

Question the thought “no one cares about me”

When the thought “no one cares about me” crosses your mind, stop and question how much of it is true. Is there no one in your family or friend circle on whom you can rely on and talk to them about what you are experiencing. Sometimes we do have people who care about us, but because of the recent thoughts and feelings inside our minds, we distance them from us. Reconnecting with them will let us see that there are people who genuinely care and love us. All we had to do was reach out to them. 

Talk to a mental health professional

In case you are having a really tough time because of the thought where you feel like no one cares about me, you can talk to a mental health professional about it. They are there to help you process and deal most effectively and healthily with these thoughts of yours. They will be there for you at all times, helping you understand and identify people who do love and care for you. To help you reach out to your family and friends and let them know how you feel. Also will help you be independent enough that you do not have to rely on anyone else to care for you. 

In this guide, we discussed why we feel like no one cares about me and what can we do to stop your mind from making you feel like no one cares about me.

References

https://www.wikihow.com/Cope-when-No-One-Cares-About-You

https://www.healthcentral.com/article/what-to-do-when-you-feel-nobody-cares

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