HOW TO MANIFEST YOUR EX

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Page last updated: 2/09/2022

This article will guide you to understand how you can manifest your ex into your life. Although it is not recommended to do this, if you truly, genuinely feel that this person is someone you want as part of your life, you can give the steps in this article a go.

How to manifest your ex back?

Get clarity on your desires

Practise self love

Align your actions

Detach yourself from the outcome

What is manifestation?

Manifestation is a process of understanding how to align your vibration with that of the Universe so as to get whatever you want. The Universe is forever willing to give us exactly what we want. If we tune ourselves to our own needs in a way that the Universe responds every single time, we can manifest everything we want.

You have been manifesting your life whether you did it consciously or not. If you were to align your actions with your thoughts and emotions, the Universe would get the right message, and send you the love that you desire.

How to use the law of attraction to manifest your goal?

The law of attraction states that like attracts like. Which means positive thoughts, positive emotions, and positive actions attract positive outcomes. Abundance attracts abundance. The reverse is equally true. If someone works from a space of lack and desperation, the outcome will be negative.

If you want something and you spend all your time thinking about it, obsessing about the outcome, odds are you do not get what you want. This is usually the point where people start doubting the law of attraction.

But, please remember that the law of attraction is a law. And, laws are universal. The law of gravitation was effective even before scientists learnt how to use it. Similarly, the law of attraction works whether one recognises how it works or not.

Understanding how to implement this law and using it to your advantage is what manifestation is really all about.

Steps to Manifesting a Specific Person –

Getting clarity on your desires –

Manifestation works best when you are clear about your desires. What does your ideal relationship look like? Take time out for yourself to understand what you are looking for in this relationship. Remember that it is your responsibility to decide what you want in a romantic relationship, and maintain that vibration.

But, it is not for you to decide how exactly this will happen. Do not force things. Leave that up to the Universe. Your work is to simply figure out your own boundaries and expectations. A healthy relationship requires that you be clear about your own needs.

It is also important at this point to figure out the why behind wanting your ex back. This is a relationship that has ended. If you want it back, understand your motivation behind this. Introspecting on the dynamics of the relationship you shared will give you the clarity you need regarding why it ended in the first place.

Once you are clear about why it ended and why you want it back, your concious self gets clarity on aspects that perhaps you hadn’t seen or accepted, especially if they were only present in your sub-coscious.

Practise self-love –

Although this term is overused in current times, this is a crucial step to manifesting love, be it an ex or a new person.

Self-love is basically about treating yourself the way you wish to be treated. This means accepting yourself, respecting yourself, and most importantly, valuing yourself. When you treat yourself the way you want to be treated, it sends out a message that you know and appreciate your worth, thus attracting people who will also be willing to value you.

For example, let’s say, you are always putting the other person’s needs first. You cancel plans all the time, you are there for their at the drop of a hat, and so on and so forth. This tells the other person that it is okay to put you second, which then leads to a relationship where your emotional needs are not met.

This kind of a relationship is not sustainable in the long run, thus making it eventually break. To prevent this, it is important to voice your needs and expectations, and maintaining your own boundaries. Every time you prioritise someone over yourself, you are sending the wrong message to the Universe.

Visualisation meditation –

Set some time aside for this exercise. Sit in a comfortable place, close your eyes and imagine this person you want to be with. You can also play some music in the background as you do this.

As you imagine this person, try to be as specific as you can. Imagine them being with you, loving you, as your partner in a fulfilling relationship. What do you want from this relationship?

Now the next step is aligning yourself to that need. How to do that? Take a moment to look at yourself from the other person’s perspective. If you are conjuring up this person, then it only makes sense that you, too, have to be the perfect person for this person.

This is a perfect opportunity for you to understand what kind of a partner you are truly looking for as well. It is also important to not let your own insecurities speak when doing this. There are aspects of ourselves that we see as flaws. But, that should not mean our partner makes us believe that these flaws should be changed.

Suppose you have a thought that this person does not see you as their ‘perfect’ person because you don’t look a certain way. Although it is possible for people to have personal preferences when it comes to their choice of partner, ask yourself whether you are looking for someone who is not going to accept you for your looks. Is that really the kind of partnership you seek?

If not (and, you really should not), then remove that thought. Affirm that this person loves and accepts me for who I am.

On the other hand, suppose you are a chain-smoker, and you feel this person does not want to be with someone who smokes, ask yourself whether that is the kind of partner you want. Are you willing to give up this habit for the sake of this ‘perfect’ person?

If you genuinely feel that yes, this habit is also something you do not approve of in your own life and something you seek to eradicate, take a decision to work on this.

You can also use this exercise to understand your own beliefs and what are your own insecurities versus what you truly do not want in your life.

Align your actions –

When the Universe sends you a ‘sign’, do not ignore it. Put yourself out there for this person to find you. Go out, socialise, meet new people, have fun. Let the person come to you, rather than you chasing after this person.

Make sure you do not settle for people who do not fit your criteria. For example, if you are looking for someone who wants to marry you, do not accept partners who do not believe in the institution of marriage. This is why being clear on what you are looking for creates a straight path to the person you want, with the qualities you desire.

Detach yourself from the outcome –

This is arguably the toughest part of the entire process of manifestation. Although it is natural to keep thinking of the when and the how, it is extremely important to let go of the attachment to the outcome. The love that you seek might come in a way that you did not imagine, once you detach yourself from the specific outcome.

Let the Universe work its magic and surprise you. And, once you have this person in your life, you will understand why it never worked out with anyone else.

How to prevent blocking your manifestation process?

There are some things that we all do that prevent our manifestations from making their way to us.

Operating from an emotion of lack –

By the law of attraction, to get what you want, your thoughts have to come from a space of abundance. Anything you think or do, where your thoughts originate from lack, as in, ‘I don’t have this…’ – it will immediately send negative vibrational energy into the Universe. Thus, it is important to operate from a space of positive emotions.

Obsessing about the outcome –

The most natural response people have to the process of manifesting is obsessing over the outcome. Whatever it is that you are trying to attract, the most important aspect of the process is detachment, or letting go of the attachment towards the result. It is completely normal to keep thinking of when you are going to get your desired results, but every time you think about it, you are going to remind yourself of the fact that you do not have what you want. This leads to your manifestation getting blocked.

Not performing aligned actions –

You spend all your time practicing the different techniques to manifest what you want, but they are not backed by action. In this scenario, your manifestation will get blocked, because your subconscious will not be convinced that you can get that thing. As a result, the Universe will not grant you your desire, because the belief with which you send out the emotion will not be powerful enough.

Letting negative emotions overpower you –

The worst way you can block your manifestation is to let negative emotions of envy and anger overpower you. If you are envious of someone else getting what you want, it is the strongest deterrent to your manifestation journey. Getting angry, being impatient, or showing ingratitude towards what you have are equally harmful for you.

Not understanding your own subconscious blockages –

You might have heard of people spending time following the ways to manifest something, constantly putting effort into having positive thoughts, and yet, their wishes do not get manifested. If this is happening to you, it’s a good idea to look towards your own belief systems and understand where the resistance is coming from. Our subconscious is filled with many aspects of life that we pick up, without even consciously recognising them. Sometimes it is those thoughts or beliefs that get so deep-seated in our minds, that they offer a resistance to our manifestations.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs): How to manifest an ex back?

What will make your ex want you back?

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to make your ex want you back. What you can do is be a work towards becoming a version of yourself that is satisfied with themselves. Once you are truly at peace with yourself, the Universe will get the message and give you whoever you want.

How do you know if someone is manifesting you?

If you are suddenly tempted to talk to somebody out of the blue, there is a possibility that they manifested you.

Does manifesting actually work?

Of course it works. Take a few minutes and think about your life. Notice the way your wishes have been manifested in your current life. Whether you like it or not, whether you accept it or not, the law of attraction is constantly at work.

How do you attract someone out of your life?

It is important that thinking in the negative will not get you results using the law of attraction. So, if you keep thinking of someone leaving, you will still attract them because you are thinking about them. If you want to get someone out of your life, stop thinking of them as a part of your life.

Or, you could try visualise them leaving and sit with the emotion of happiness and peace you feel at that. And, then, let that thought go into the Universe for it to do the work. 

How do I get my ex to text me first?

Visualisation is the best way to get this outcome. Take some minutes out of your day and think about your ex texting you. Try to be as specific as you can. Think about what they are doing. What do they text you? What words do they use?

A great trick to use to manifest an exact message is to save a number on your phone with the name of the person you want to get a text from. Then, send the text you desire from that number to your phone.

What emotions do you feel when you see that text with the name of the person? Use that emotion, stay in that emotion and let that thought into the Universe.

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