How to get your life together (Actionable steps)

Welcome to our  “How to get your life together” guide. Because we all need some advice on living, from time to time. 

If you are here today it means that you got to that point in your life where you no longer want to live the way that you are used to.

It means that you are craving a change so big that not even your closest friends or family will recognize you anymore.

Or perhaps you are going through a rough time right now, and need some advice on how to overcome difficult situations.

Either way, getting your life together can be a bumpy road. Read through our guide to get more insight into living a happier life. 

Start your “get your life together” journey with a simple question: 

Who I want to be?

Are you hoping to someday be a musician, writer, designer, doctor? How do you see yourself in one, two, five and ten years?

Where you standing, who is with you?

Besides dreaming, what do you do to accomplish these goals? Do you make wishes to the stars or the Moon?

Do you expect that a happier life will come if you just dream of it?

Unfortunately, dreams don’t just come true by wishing really hard.

Albert Einstein said that“ “Genius is 1% talent and 99% percent hard work…”. 

How hard do your work for your dreams to come true? 

You have to think about what you could do every day that would eventually change your life, or at list bring you closer to your goals. 

By making small daily changes, you are going to feel happier, more confident and put together.

See below our list of tips on “How to get your life together” and think of how you can implement these in your daily life. 

  • Think more positively

Everyone tells us how important it is to smile, how you have to be happy and optimistic if you want to live long and well.

We hear that if we think positive, good things will happen in our lives, and if we are negative, misfortunes will be upon us. 

It is true that in life there are many situations over which we have no control, but it is also true that some things are predictable.

Our actions are the results of what we think, and if we think negatively, we will take actions that will lead to negative situations.

Of course, it is absurd to believe that you can live over 100 years only if you smile every day, but it is perfectly legitimate to believe that positive thinking will bring you more happiness, health, and success.

If you want to get your life together, you have to learn to appreciate the positive aspects of your life. 

Starting with the fact that you have a job that you like, to the small things of every day, like the smell of coffee in the morning and the late-night talks with a loved one. 

  • Exercise

Exercise helps you live better.

In addition to making your heart and muscles stronger, it can also improve your mental and emotional functioning and even bolster your productivity and close relationships.

This is how exercise will help you get your life together:

  1. Improved sleep quality – it helps you fall asleep faster, to spend more time in deep sleep, and awaken less during the night. 
  2. Improved brain functioning – all types of physical activity help keep your mind sharp. Aerobics, in particular, successfully improves cognitive function.
  3. Improved mental health – exercise prompts the release of mood-lifting hormones, which relieve stress and promote a sense of well-being. Furthermore, the rhythmic muscle contractions that take place in almost all types of exercise can increase levels of the brain chemical serotonin, which combats negative feelings.
  4. General wellbeing – exercise can slow the natural decline in physical performance that occurs as you age. Exercise boosts blood flow to the brain, which may help maintain brain function. It also promotes good lung function and healthy metabolism. 
  • Stop multitasking

Multitasking might bring you immediate satisfaction as you mark done another thing on your to-do list, but in reality, multitasking only leads to added stress and is less productive than doing one thing at a time.

Multitasking is just another word for avoidance. It feels busy and productive, but it’s running away.

Not just an avoidance of important tasks, but of whatever boredom or bad feelings you might be having in that moment.

When you start an activity, turn to it with your full attention and set an intention to be present with the act, to do nothing but this activity.

If you are reading, don’t check your phone and listen to music at the same time. Just read. Just text. Just listen to music. 

As we give each activity our full attention, we start to appreciate each person, each object, everything around us as something worthy of respect, attention, and gratitude.

  • Work on your goals

One of the biggest challenges we have to face in trying to accomplish any personal goal is that we tend to put them off until tomorrow, or next week, in favor of more pressing matters at work and home.

But tomorrow never gets here.

Often the problem is that we try to take on too many goals at once. We have a list of things we want to accomplish that can be overwhelming, and because of that we never start. 

If you want to accomplish a goal, you have to start on it today. 

Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.” – Yoda in The Empire Strikes Back

  • Identify what is essential

What things are essential for you? What do you enjoy and love the most? 

We often end up spending too much time on activities we don’t like and that drain us of energy, caring too much what other people say about us, reading boring books, comparing our achievements with the ones of our colleagues. 

Do this simple exercise: Make a list with all the things that you consider valuable to your personal and professional growth.

Write down what brings you joy, what gives you energy and inspires you.

It can be something like spending time outdoors, reading 40 pages a day, or dancing unclothed. 

You don’t have to share this list if you don’t want to, so be open and honest about what is essential for you.

Pick things that are important to you, since this is your list and your life. 

Everything that is not on that list, is not going to help get your life together, at least not for now. Priorities can change over time, that is only natural. 

  • Be more kind, do more good

Paul Bloomfield, author of the book “The Virtues of Happiness – A Theory of a Good Life,” offers many arguments that can convince us that we can only win, by trying to be more kind to others and to ourselves.  

Here are some of them:
Being kind means taking care of yourself, being kind gives you permission to take better care of yourself and your loved ones.

Being king means not letting your emotions, desires or needs dominate you and pushing you to do things that you will regret later.

Being good means being brave, brave in the face of danger, and pain, and social rejection.

It gives you the ability to tell the truth in front of the powerful, it helps you to take risks, to understand the pitfalls, but also the opportunities.

It helps you succeed.

Being good helps you to be wise as you get older. Wisdom is not accessible to all, but we can all be as wise as we can get.

Getting really wise will not happen accidentally. Wise people have the opportunity to see the “heart of things,” and that only happens if we care about the good things.

And we don’t care about good things unless we value true values.

Being good means that we love the good, and if we are lucky, it means that we are loved by those who love the good.

Being loved by good people makes us good lovers, and that’s great, isn’t it?

What could be more wonderful than loving a good person who loves you in turn?

  • Stick to a daily routine

If you want to get your life together, you will have to work on your daily routine.

As you may have noticed, most successful people wake up early, know exactly how they spend their early hours, follow a fixed schedule and end their day in a relaxing way.

These successful people build their productivity habits over the years, have created systems that work and follow this plan every day as they deliver results.

So, to do the same, you will have to change the way you spend your daily life.

Changing your daily routine needs to be planned and takes a while to get used to.

But, make sure you do this in small steps so that you do not have an overloaded schedule, and then delve into this routine.

Starting with small steps, in this case, means eliminating a lazy or unhealthy thing you do every morning, and adding a daily habit after a week or two, when you’re used to living without previous behavior.

Your daily routine will become your best friend.

It will help you get a great start to your day, and finish your day by preparing for the next day.

It’ll help you firmly root the productive habits you want to firm in your everyday life.

It’ll help you focus on what’s important, not just what comes up.

It’ll help you make sure you get done all the things you really want to make sure gets done every day. And that can mean a lot.

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In this article, we gave you 7 tips on how to get your life together.

To summarize them, we recommend you to: have a more positive approach to life, to exercise regularly, stop multitasking, focus on your goals, identify the essential things in life, practice kindness, work on your daily routine. 

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