How soon is too soon to propose? (+When it is time to do it)

As a BetterHelp affiliate, we may receive compensation from BetterHelp if you purchase products or services through the links provided

This article will show you when it is too soon to propose to your partner. But it will also give you some telltale signs that it is time to do it.

How soon is too soon to propose? 

If you are wondering how soon is too soon to propose, here are some signs it may be.

You don’t know each other for a long time 

Knowing someone most intimately to the point that you are ready to share your life takes time. So don’t rush to propose to your partner before you feel that you have become intimate with one another in the deepest sense.

And although it may be difficult to set a timetable for that, around one year of being in a serious and committed relationship can give you a hint of who the person is. During this time you may have dealt with a lot, the good, and the bad part, and this has made your relationship stronger.

On the other hand, proposing too soon can make you end up marrying someone you don’t know, and learning who they are when you are married can turn things into a messy situation.

Your relationship is mostly a passionate one 

When you are in high passion it may not be the appropriate time to propose to your partner. At that moment you are most likely driven by your hormones, and the fantasy you have around that relationship. 

To guarantee you will have a long marriage, it is important that you propose when you feel a deep connection with your partner, and know them for who they are.

You haven’t met the important people in each other’s life 

Being married to someone implies that you will be a part of their life. So you should know it is too soon to propose if you still don’t know their friends, family, and other people that are important to them. 

Integrating all aspects of their life is a sign that the person gives you that they want you to belong in their life, if that hasn’t happened yet, it may be important to wait before you propose.

You don’t know what their values are 

Getting married means you will share a life with this person. So you should never propose before you know what their values are, which means that you haven’t discussed religion, political views if you want to have children, and what you understand about being married.

Knowing their values, and even more so knowing that they align with yours is what will improve your chances of having a strong foundation for a happy marriage.

You don’t know a lot about their life 

It may be too soon to propose to someone if you don’t know a lot about their life, but mostly it is about the aspects that involve you. This means that you still don’t have profound knowledge about who this person is, so considering sharing your life, and getting married may be a step too soon.

Try to learn more about other parts of their life, so to make sure that when you propose you are doing so to someone that you know deeply, and feel that you can spend the rest of your life with them.

You are more excited about getting married than your relationship with them 

It may be too soon to propose to your partner if you feel that you are doing so just because you need to get married, or that you are more excited about the idea of marriage than the idea of spending the rest of your life with that person. 

Try to understand why getting married is so important to you right now, and think clearly of this is the person you want to do it with before proposing.

Your arguments turn ugly 

When you have an argument with your partner, and it turns ugly, or even abusive, it may be a sign that it is too soon to propose to them. If you are already having this sort of problem, it will likely turn worse as time goes by. 

You should try to discover if the two of you can deal with conflict in a different, more positive way before you consider spending the rest of your life with them.

Or you haven’t had any arguments yet 

The same goes for when the two of you haven’t argued yet. Dealing with difficult times can show you how much each of you is willing to compromise, and how you deal with the conflict. So if you don’t know how that will be, it may be too soon to propose, and imagine spending your entire life together.

You don’t know how they feel about marrying you

And finally, it may be too soon to propose if you are completely clueless about how they feel about marrying you. When a relationship is moving forward, your partner may not know when you will propose, but the two of you have already talked extensively about spending the rest of your life together, so marrying you is something that you know they want to do.

When is it time to propose? 

It may be time to propose when you see that your relationship has reached this moment.

The two of you have talked about getting married 

It may be a clear sign that it is time to propose when the two of you have openly talked about getting married, what you want out of a marriage, and how it would be to spend the rest of your life together. All of that will help the two of you align your expectations, and build a better foundation for your future.

The two of you think about your future together 

In the same way, seeing that the two of you are happy about the future ahead, and dealing with whatever comes your way together can show you that it may be the right time to propose.

You want the same thing out of life 

Wanting the same things out of life, and understanding that the two of you are willing to put the effort towards getting it is important. Knowing what makes you happy, and what makes your partner happy will pave the way for a deep connection, and put you walking hand in hand towards the future.

You are on the same page about important things 

As said before, it is important to know what the values of the person you are proposing to are. So you should only do it if you feel that the two of you are aligned in those values. If the two of you view marriage in the same way if you want children, and if you share the same political and religious views, those are important things to consider before proposing.

But if you have talked about it extensively, and you realize that the two of you are on the same page about these important things, it is a sign that you should propose to them.

You like how they treat other people 

You must pay attention to how your partner treats you, but also pay attention to how they treat other people. In the long hall, as the relationship hits its bumps, you may want to propose to someone that will never mistreat you, even when dealing with an argument.

A good clue to that is how they treat other people. Are they kind to others, even when they don’t want anything from them? Are they supportive? Once you feel they are, it may be a good time to propose.

You deal well with making decisions together 

Being married implies that the two of you will constantly make decisions together. Be it financial, about your children, or even about your relationship. So make sure to just propose to someone as you feel the two of you deal well with making decisions. This will guarantee that even when you don’t agree with each other, you will be able to find the best solution.

You deal with conflict in a good way 

You should also just propose to someone if you know that the two of you can deal with conflict in a good way. This doesn’t mean that the relationship will be perfect, but rather that the two of you will be able to keep your focus on finding the best solution, and compromising whenever you can.

You think you are ready to get married

You should also only propose to your partner if you feel that you are ready to get married. A marriage is a serious thing, and even though one can get a divorce, you should never do it unless you feel you are ready for all that marriage life will bring you, the good, and the bad.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ): How soon is too soon to propose?  

How long should I wait before I propose?

There is no timetable on how long you should wait before you propose, but you should make sure that you and your partner are both ready to take this next step before you do it.

How long do people usually wait before getting married?

According to research, couples will most often date for around two years or more before they propose, and then get married. It can usually take up to five years before they pop the question. But it is common that, once the proposal happens, the couple will get married maximum after 18 months.

How long does a guy take to know they want to marry you?

It takes a guy around 6 or 7 months to know they want to marry you. But that doesn’t mean they will propose right away. They can usually take some time to learn more about you, and see if anything changes in the relationship. But it is around 6 or 7 months that they determine if they have found the one.

Do men give hints that they want to get married?

Yes, it is known that around 39% of men will give their partners a hint that they want to get married. In that, they will often bring up stories about their friends that have gotten married to talk about it with their partners.

Do women give hints they want to get married?

Yes, around 28% of women will give hints to their partner that they want to get married. They can often do so by bringing this topic into a conversation with their partner.

Conclusion

This article showed you what are the signs that it may be too soon to propose to your partner. But not only that, but it also highlighted signs that it may be time to do it.

If you have any questions or comments about this article, feel free to write them in the section below.

References

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-soon-is-too-soon-to-propose/

What was missing from this post which could have made it better?

[Sassy_Social_Share type="standard"]