In this article, we will talk about the concept of homoromantic, and what it means to be a homoromantic.
We will also talk about homosexuality and the differences between love and sexual attraction.
Who is a homoromantic?
A homoromantic person is someone who is romantically attracted to someone of the same sex or gender.
A homoromantic can be asexual, meaning they are not also sexually attracted to a person of same-gender but are actively seeking a romantic relationship with them.
A homoromantic person who is also sexually attracted to members of the same sex or gender is also known as homosexual.
The feelings, behaviour and identity of a homoromantic person are not necessarily identical. Example: a man who does not consider himself homosexual (does not have this identity), feels attracted (sentimentally) to other men, but without acting (behaving) properly.
You should also learn what heteromantic is to understand genders and different types of attractions in depth.
Who is a homosexual?
Homosexual are considered either:
- Two men involved in intimate activities
- Two women involved in intimate activities
Both men and women can be homosexuals. Men who are attracted to other men are called homosexuals, and women who are attracted to other women are called lesbians.
Some people are attracted to both men and women. These people are called bisexuals.
At certain times in life, most people sometimes have homosexual feelings.
Why are people gay?
It is not known why people are gay or homoromantic. But one thing is certain:
A person does not become homosexual or heterosexual by a conscious decision. This happens by itself.
- Homosexuality is not hereditary, like other human traits, such as eye or hair colour.
- Homosexuality is found in all countries and cultures. In Europe, the law prohibits any discrimination against homosexuals. The law prohibits citizens from treating, excluding or coercing certain people because of their homosexuality.
- Any homosexual or bisexual person will have to decide for themselves whether they want to be known as such by others.
Affirming that you are a homoromantic
Affirming one’s homosexuality or bisexuality in front of others it is not easy to do and requires a lot of courage, but it can also be a great relief.
You don’t have to hide anymore.
First, talk to trusted people you know who accept you as you are. However, remember that some people will find it difficult to accept homosexuality or bisexuality.
Be aware that the reactions will not only be positive.
No one is forcing you to tell others that you are gay or bisexual. If you think it’s risky to talk to other people about these things, then don’t do it.
Homosexual marriage
In many European countries, people who are in a homosexual (same-sex) relationship can also get married.
Same-sex attraction refers to emotional, physical, or sexual attraction
to a person of the same sex. Not everyone is attracted to the same people
sex the same. Some people may feel exclusively attracted to people of the same sex on
when others may be attracted to both sexes.
The Church’s view
Feelings of attraction to people of the same sex are not a sin, and we can choose how to react. The church does not have a position on same-sex attraction.
In 2006, the elderly Dallin H. Oaks stated:
“The Church has no position on the causes of these predispositions or inclinations, including those related to same-sex attraction ”(interview with seniors Dallin H. Oaks and Lance B. Wickman:“ Attraction to people of the same sex ”, 2006).
Feelings of attraction to people of the same sex are not a sin. Elder M. Russell Ballard said:
“Let’s be clear: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints believes that, for many people, the attraction to people of the same sex is a complex reality. Attraction itself is not a sin, but to act accordingly it is. Even if some people do not choose to feel such attractions, they can choose how to react.
With love and understanding, the Church helps all children of God, including [those who are attracted to people of the same sex] ” (“The Lord Needs You Now!”, Ensign, Sept. 2015, p. 29).
Although same-sex attraction is not a sin, it can be a challenge.
The Church also states that a parent of a child who is attracted to a same-sex person or identifies as gay, lesbian or bisexual should choose to love and accept that child.
As a community of members of the Church, everyone should choose to create a welcoming community.
The differences between love, desire, sexual attraction, passion, intimacy and love
Fascination, adventure, comfort, energy, success come with their specific cocktail of chemicals that invade our brains, and that determines our mood: either an agitation and an impetuous desire, or a soothing feeling of deep connection (all depending on the stage in which your relationship is).
Intimacy, passion and affection are the three components of love, being interconnected with sexuality, emotional connection, long-term attachment.
Whatever you choose to name them, the main ingredients remain the same and govern our love life. Here is what happens to the emotions and chemicals in our brain during each of the 6 phases of love:
Falling in love
1. You feel butterflies in your stomach;
2. You want to do things that make the other person happy;
3. You want to understand what is in his mind and what interests him;
4. You want to spend as much time with him as possible;
5. Your brain reacts to pheromones, which triggers attraction.
Desire
1. You miss the other;
2. You want to enjoy romantic and erotic experiences with him;
3. Curiosity and erotic imagination are at their peak;
4. You have an intense erotic connection;
5. Your body releases estrogen, so you get aroused much easier.
Sexual attraction
1. You want to have sex to fulfil your emotions;
2. You often feel aroused and often find yourself thinking about sex during the day;
3. Your mind is populated with all sorts of erotic fantasies;
4. You seek to achieve sexual satisfaction with your partner;
Passion
1. You want him/her both physically, but you want to feel emotionally connected to him/her;
2. Trust your ability to entice, so do not be afraid to sprinkle some mystery in your interaction;
3. Have fun together, laugh out loud, make surprises for each other, and have your games and jokes;
4. You are very creative when you make love and focus on the pleasure of the other;
5. Adrenaline will make you feel “madly in love”.
Intimacy
1. You feel comfortable enough with each other so that you can share your thoughts without fear that the other will judge you;
2. Show each other appreciation through gestures and words;
3. Make commitments to each other;
4. Feel that you are forming a team;
5. Your brain releases oxytocin, a substance also called the “love hormone“, responsible for the couple’s sense of attachment.
Love
1. You have a strong feeling of affection for the other;
2. You expect the one you love to express their feelings through words and actions;
3. You and your partner enjoy a strong connection: you touch, you kiss, you have complicit gestures;
4. Between you there is friendship, respect, trust, communication, passion, that is, all those ingredients that make love last;
5. The brain releases both oxytocin and vasopressin, the hormone responsible for long-term attachment.
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Conclusions
In this article, we talked about the concept of homoromantic, and what it means to be a homoromantic.
We also discussed homosexuality and the differences between love and sexual attraction.
A homoromantic person is someone who is romantically attracted to someone of the same sex or gender.
A homoromantic can be asexual, meaning they are not also sexually attracted to a person of same-gender but are actively seeking a romantic relationship with them.
A homoromantic person who is also sexually attracted to members of the same sex or gender is also known as homosexual.
No matter who you love, feel desire or passion for, you should know that you are accepted and welcomed.
We are all equal, all of our lives matter and should be respected.
If you have any questions, comments or recommendations, please let us know in the comments section.
Recommendations
Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality, by Jerrold S. Greenberg
Diversity in Couple and Family Therapy: Ethnicities, Sexualities, and Socioeconomics, by Shalonda Kelly
Identities and Inequalities: Exploring the Intersections of Race, Class, Gender, & Sexuality (B&b Sociology) by David Newman
Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type, by Paul D. Tieger
What we recommend for Relationship & LGBTQ issues
Relationship counselling
- If you are having relationship issues or maybe you are in an abusive relationship then relationship counselling could be your first point of call. Relationship counselling could be undertaken by just you, it does not require more than one person.
LGBTQ issues
If you are dealing with LGBTQ issues then LGBTQ counselling may be a great option for you. Maybe you are confused as to your role and identity or simply need someone to speak to. LGBTQ counsellors are specially trained to assist you in this regard.
References
Interview with seniors Dallin H. Oaks and Lance B. Wickman:“ Attraction
to people of the same sex ”, 2006
“The Lord Needs You Now!”, Ensign, Sept. 2015, p. 29
Asexuality.org
