Genderflor (a form of GenderFluidity)

In this blog post, we will explain what being a Genderflor is and how it can vary. We also talk about the following identities: genderfluid, aporagender, non-binary and genderless. 

Who is a Genderflor?

A genderflor is a person who does not feel like a man or a woman, who never experience genders related to masculinity (for example demiboy) or femininity (demigirl). A genderflor oscillates between non-binary genders, aporagender or genderlessness, which makes it Genderfluid. 

Genderflor is an umbrella term for the following identities:

  • Genderfloren: A person who is not a man or a woman, but who sometimes may experience masculine and/or feminine gender. 
  • Genderflorer: A person who is not a man or a woman, but who sometimes may experience the masculine gender.
  • Genderfloret: A person who is not a man or a woman, but who sometimes may experience the feminine gender.

Genderfluid

What does it mean to be genderfluid?

Genderfluid is the term used by individuals to describe their gender. The most common form is non-binary, followed by queer, agender, bigender and more. None of these terms means the same thing. Gender fluidity is a gender identity that can change over time and you have the feeling that you do not have a defined gender.

Gender fluidity can be completely different from person to person. For example, it may express masculinity, femininity, or an androgynous personality in sexual experience or self-concept. This can change over a day, week, month or even year. Regardless of the form that gender fluidity takes, it is important to remember that it is a valid gender identity.

Because it generally involves gender changes, different pronunciations are used, depending on the individual’s point of view at that time related to his or her gender identity. 

For example, some people use “they” instead of “he” or “she.” However, to avoid an unpleasant situation, it is best to ask the individual how to identify. Some statistics on the transgender population include fluid gender identities, while others do not.

Aporagender

Aporagender means a gender-separate from man/boy, woman/girl, and nothing in between while still having a sense of gender. Apo in Greek means “separate”, thus aporagender is a non-binary, separate gender.

Aporagender is considered an umbrella term since it includes some types of non-binary and genderqueers identities, but aporagender does not necessarily refer to one distinct gender.

The term non-binary is used by individuals who do not identify as men or women. In other words, they find themselves on a fluid spectrum between the terms man and woman. 

Non-binary, in essence, is the term used for those who do not identify with the gender to which they were assigned at birth. For this reason, many non-binary people consider themselves part of the trans or LGBT community.

Someone who is not binary does not see himself as a man or a woman specifically. This is a very broad way of saying that these people do not see themselves in the way society said they should be.

A non-binary person may also struggle with sexual orientation and may even consider it transgender so that their body reflects what is most closely identified with sex.

The term aporagender is often used as a synonym for neutrois or maverique.  

Neutrois is also a non-binary gender identity, which describes a “neutral” gender identity and expression. Neutrois is also connected with people who feel they are agender or genderless. 

Maverique is a gender identity that expresses a present feeling of gender that is not female, male, neutral or any other identities derived from them.

Non-binary

The term non-binary is used by individuals who do not identify as men or women. In other words, they find themselves on a fluid spectrum between the terms man and woman. 

Non-binary, in essence, is the term used for those who do not identify with the gender to which they were assigned at birth. For this reason, many non-binary people consider themselves part of the trans or LGBT community.

Someone who is not binary does not see himself as a man or a woman specifically. This is a very broad way of saying that these people do not see themselves in the way society said they should be.

A non-binary person may also struggle with sexual orientation and may even consider it transgender so that their body reflects what is most closely identified with sex.

Genderless

The word genderless means without a gender, and has been coined in the fashionista world for some time, becoming a trend that seeks for men and women to have the freedom to dress in any garment they want to wear, obviating the idea of that this garment is directed towards the female audience or the male audience. 

A twist to the unisex term so coined in the eighties, where it was also sought at some point that men and women could use rather neutral garments, that both women and men could use without major problems.

The genderless initiative invites us to ask ourselves situations such as how are we going to pretend that men cook and change diapers if, when they are young, they are kept away from kitchens and dolls? Why would women want to study engineering if they are not invited to play with blocks from a young age? Or are the car tracks and races only for boys? 

Something that is supported by the statements of Valentijn De Hingh, a trans model who starred in a fashion campaign for & Other Stories, who noted that “it seems very strange to me that when we are born the first thing we are, even before we have a name or an identity is being male or female, before knowing anything about the person just born. And I think that being born a man or a woman defines a lot of what you are allowed to be in life, and I don’t want to live with those limitations”.

Understanding gender as a spectrum

To make sense of what genderqueer means, it is important to remember that gender is not always black and white.

There are two parts to our sexes. Gender identity is the way you identify, whether as a man, a woman, or something else entirely. Gender expression is the way you express yourself and present yourself in terms of masculinity and femininity.

Although we have often been taught that man and woman are two completely different categories, both gender identity and gender expression exist across a spectrum.

People can identify more closely with being male or female, or they can fall anywhere between the two categories. Also, a person can identify more with masculine expression, feminine expression, or both. They can also identify somewhere in the middle, or they can switch between the two on any given day.

People who are genderqueer can also present and express themselves in any number of different ways. A person who does not need to look androgynous or act in a way that is entitled to them. It is about how a person understands their gender identity.

Other gender identities

The “palette” of sexual orientation has diversified greatly in recent times. In addition to terms already known and widely discussed, such as heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality, sexual identity has acquired new nuances and definitions.

To clarify this topic, the American publication “Huffington Post” explained 10 lesser-known terms, which define sexual and romantic identities, less known at this time: 

Pansexual  – Pansexuals are those people who can fall in love sexually, emotionally and spiritually by anyone, regardless of sexual identity. 

Polysexual – Like pansexual, polysexual can be attracted to anyone, regardless of gender, male or female. However, for polysexual, sexual identity matters. For example, if a polysexual is attracted to women, he will also be attracted to people who identify as women, such as transgender people. 

Panromantic – A panromantic person is emotionally and spiritually attracted to anyone, regardless of gender or gender identity, but is not sexually attracted to them. 

Skoliosexual –  In the case of skoliosexual, sexual attraction is manifested on people of non-binary sexual identity who do not identify with their natural sex, such as transsexuals.

Asexual  – Asexuals are “people who do not feel sexual attraction” and, most of the time, not even emotionally. According to asexuality.org, they may feel the desire to show affection for a person without having sexual desires. 

Aromatic – An aromatic person feels very little or no romantic attraction to other people. “Aromantic people can establish emotional or personal connections, but they do not feel the instinctual need to make such connections. This identity is not a choice, but it is innate “, notes asexuality.org. 

Graysexual –  Jared, a man who claims to be graysexual, defines the term as “a bridge between asexuality and sexuality.” Graysexuals can also be identified as heterosexual or homosexual or with any other sexual identity. Although they will feel a physical attraction to other people, they will not necessarily feel the need to have sex. 

Queerplatonic relationships – Queerplatonic relationships are not romantic by nature, but they involve a deeper and more intense emotional connection than in the case of a traditional friendship. The partners are called, in this case, “zucchini”. 

Demisexual –  A person who defines himself as demisexual does not feel sexual attraction to a person unless he has already established a deep emotional connection with the other, although it is not necessarily about falling in love, so it may not be romantic. If the connection has an intense romantic character then it is called demiromantic.

Lithromantic –  The term “lithromantic” describes a person who has feelings of love but does not want them to be reciprocal, a type of amorous masochism.

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Conclusions

In this blog post, we explained what being a Genderflor is and how it can vary. We also talked about the following identities: genderfluid, aporagender, non-binary and genderless.

A genderflor is a person who does not feel like a man or a woman, who never experience genders related to masculinity (for example demiboy) or femininity (demigirl). A genderflor oscillates between non-binary genders, aporagender or genderlessness, which makes it Genderfluid. 

Genderfluid is the term used by individuals to describe their gender. The most common form is non-binary, followed by queer, agender, bigender and more. None of these terms means the same thing. Gender fluidity is a gender identity that can change over time and you have the feeling that you do not have a defined gender.

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Further reading

Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality, by  Jerrold S. Greenberg

Diversity in Couple and Family Therapy: Ethnicities, Sexualities, and Socioeconomics, by Shalonda Kelly

Identities and Inequalities: Exploring the Intersections of Race, Class, Gender, & Sexuality (B&b Sociology) by David Newman 

Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type, by Paul D. Tieger 

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References

Asexuality.org

Apa.org

Genderqueerid.com

nonbinary.wiki/

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