Genderfaun (tips for parents & caregivers)

In this blog post, we are talking about Genderfluidity, namely about Genderfaun. We explain what these terms mean, and we also give some tips for parents and caregivers who may find themselves confused and helpless before their child’s reality. 

What does Genderfaun mean?

The term genderfaun describes a person who never will feel like a female or like having female traits. Genderfaun includes but it is not limited to being a male or any other gender identity. Genderfaun is fluid, meaning the person may oscillate between sexual identities. 

Another gender type which is fluid is called Genderfae.

Genderfluidity

Genderfluid is the term used by individuals to describe their gender. The most common form is non-binary, followed by queer, agender, bigender and more. None of these terms means the same thing. Gender fluidity is a gender identity that can change over time and you have the feeling that you do not have a defined gender.

Gender fluidity can be completely different from person to person. For example, it may express masculinity, femininity, or an androgynous personality in sexual experience or self-concept. This can change over the course of a day, week, month or even year. Regardless of the form that gender fluidity takes, it is important to remember that it is a valid gender identity.

Because it generally involves gender changes, different pronunciations are used, depending on the individual’s point of view at that time related to his or her gender identity. 

For example, there are people who use “they” instead of “he” or “she.” However, to avoid an unpleasant situation, it is best to ask the individual how to identify. Some statistics on the transgender population include fluid gender identities, while others do not. Another example of genderfluidity is Genderflor.

Because gender has become too fluid, parents should adapt to these changes and accept their child’s identity. For example, a mother asks How should i support my lesbian daughter?

Genderqueer vs genderfluid

Genderqueer and genderfluid identities can and often overlap with each other, but in essence, they describe different aspects. 

Genderqueer is a gender identity that is built around the term “queer.” To be queer is to exist in a way that does not align with heterosexual or homosexual norms. Although it is usually used to describe a person’s sexual orientation, it can also be used to express nonbinary gender identity.

Gender fluidity is a gender identity that can change over time and you have the feeling that you do not have a defined gender. Gender fluidity can be completely different from person to person. For example, it may express masculinity, femininity, or an androgynous personality in sexual experience or self-concept.

Other gender identities

The “palette” of sexual orientation has diversified greatly in recent times. In addition to terms already known and widely discussed, such as heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality, sexual identity has acquired new nuances and definitions.

In order to clarify this topic, the American publication “Huffington Post” explained 10 lesser-known terms, which define sexual and romantic identities, less known at this time: 

Pansexual  – Pansexuals are those people who can fall in love sexually, emotionally and spiritually by anyone, regardless of sexual identity. It is also called Trisexual.

Polysexual – Like pansexual, polysexual can be attracted to anyone, regardless of gender, male or female. However, for polysexual, sexual identity matters. For example, if a polysexual is attracted to women, he will also be attracted to people who identify as women, such as transgender people. 

Panromantic – A panromantic person is emotionally and spiritually attracted to anyone, regardless of gender or gender identity, but is not sexually attracted to them. 

Skoliosexual –  In the case of skoliosexual, sexual attraction is manifested on people of non-binary sexual identity who do not identify with their natural sex, such as transsexuals.

Asexual  – Asexuals are “people who do not feel sexual attraction” and, most of the time, not even emotionally. According to asexuality.org, they may feel the desire to show affection for a person without having sexual desires. Asexual has a whole spectrum on which it’s sub types lie. For example, Abrosexual.

Aromatic – An aromatic person feels very little or no romantic attraction to other people. “Aromantic people do not lack the ability to establish emotional or personal connections, but they do not feel the instinctual need to make such connections. This identity is not a choice, but it is innate “, notes asexuality.org. 

Graysexual –  Jared, a man who claims to be graysexual, defines the term as “a bridge between asexuality and sexuality.” Graysexuals can also be identified as heterosexual or homosexual or with any other sexual identity. Although they will feel a physical attraction to other people, they will not necessarily feel the need to have sex. 

Queerplatonic relationships – Queerplatonic relationships are not romantic by nature, but they involve a deeper and more intense emotional connection than in the case of a traditional friendship. The partners are called, in this case, “zucchini”. 

Demisexual –  A person who defines himself as demisexual does not feel sexual attraction to a person unless he has already established a deep emotional connection with the other, although it is not necessarily about falling in love, so it may not be romantic. If the connection has an intense romantic character then it is called demiromantic.

Lithromantic –  The term “lithromantic” describes a person who has feelings of love but does not want them to be reciprocal, a type of amorous masochism.

How is sexual orientation defined?

There are three concepts that help illustrate why sexual orientation is not defined solely by sexual experience.

First, there is sexual practice, which is a sexual act with another person, be it male or female (intercourse, oral sex, masturbation, etc.). Then there is sexual orientation, which describes who you want both physically and emotionally: if I like men, women, both or others, and if I want to have affective relationships with them. 

And finally, there is sexual identity, which is the way one understands oneself: whether or not I am heterosexual even if I have slept with someone of the same sex; if I consider myself a man or a woman.

For an adolescent, defining oneself as having a certain sexual orientation implies knowing with whom you want to have sexual practices, what is the emotional bond with people of the same gender or orientation, and how you project yourself in the future with those people (if you want to have a relationship with your partner, a family, etc.).

In that case, I would even call it sexual-affective orientation, because it doesn’t just involve sexual practice. 

Anyone can ‘change’ their orientation at any time in their life, depending on their experiences and thoughts. The most important thing is that this change is not forced, but that it manifests itself spontaneously and responds to what each person interprets about life and wants for himself.

Tips for parents or caregivers

If you are in charge of a teenager who could be sexually active, keep this in mind to talk about sexual orientation:

1. Educate yourself. Find reliable sources of information that can shed more light on what sexual orientation is. Turn to organizations, centres and institutions that focus on supporting people with diverse sexualities, not on changing them.

2. Be clear about why you want to talk to your child. It is essential that the intention of explaining to a teenager what sexual orientation is to strengthen their autonomy and security.

3. Talk about ‘the good’ and ‘the bad’. It is not necessary to educate people so that ‘they do not become pregnant‘ or ‘they do not sleep with such a person’, but so that they live their sexuality in a responsible and pleasant way. Do not assume that sexual orientation is fixed, as this often leads to the omission of valuable information such as the use of condoms. 

A study published in the Journal of Sexual Behavior shows that women who consider themselves lesbian or bisexual often do not wear protection if they sleep with men. Protection should be a mandatory topic in any talk about sexuality.

4. Trust the child’s experiences. Understand that if your son or daughter dared to tell you about their diverse sexual orientation, it is because there is a process of personal growth that has already advanced. You should not push for the child to ‘confess’ something, as it can lead to mistrust of you and fearful reactions from others in the future.

Conclusions

In this blog post, we talked about Genderfluidity, namely about Genderfaun. We explained what these terms mean, and we also gave some tips for parents and caregivers who may find themselves confused and helpless before their child’s reality. 

The term genderfaun describes a person who never will feel like a female or like having female traits. Genderfaun includes but it is not limited to being a male or any other gender identity. Genderfaun is fluid, meaning the person may oscillate between sexual identities.  Genderfluid is the term used by individuals to describe their gender. The most common form is non-binary, followed by queer, agender, bigender and more. None of these terms means the same thing. 

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Further reading

Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality, by  Jerrold S. Greenberg

Diversity in Couple and Family Therapy: Ethnicities, Sexualities, and Socioeconomics, by Shalonda Kelly

Identities and Inequalities: Exploring the Intersections of Race, Class, Gender, & Sexuality (B&b Sociology) by David Newman 

Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type, by Paul D. Tieger 

What we recommend for Relationship & LGBTQ issues

Relationship counselling

  • If you are having relationship issues or maybe you are in an abusive relationship then relationship counselling could be your first point of call. Relationship counselling could be undertaken by just you, it does not require more than one person.

LGBTQ issues

If you are dealing with LGBTQ issues then LGBTQ counselling may be a great option for you. Maybe you are confused as to your role and identity or simply need someone to speak to. LGBTQ counsellors are specially trained to assist you in this regard.

References

Asexuality.org

Apa.org

Genderqueerid.com

nonbinary.wiki/

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