Feeling unappreciated at work? (what to do)

Feeling unappreciated

In this article, we will talk about what one should do when feeling unappreciated at work. 

Feeling unappreciated at work

If you were to take two people and give one of them a $ 1,000 bonus for their hard work and another a five-minute discussion about how much you appreciate hard work and what it means to the company, which of them do you think would do you leave feeling more motivated to succeed?

Contrary to popular belief, it is not the person to whom you offered the money reward.

In almost all cases, the person who is verbally told that they are appreciated will be more motivated to succeed and continue the hard work.

Feeling unappreciated at work? (what to do)

Loyalty to the workplace is negatively influenced by the lack of opportunity to advance in the career (20.6%), difficult work processes (17.8%), the relationship with the boss (16.8%), lack of opportunity to professional development (16.5%), feeling unappreciated (16.3%), punishments or penalties (14.2%) or the relationship with colleagues (12%).

Although the salary is the most important factor in choosing the job, it is no longer the main reason why an employee leaves the current employer.

In fact, lack of appreciation is today the most important reason why employees consider changing jobs. 

The assessment he expects does not only come from the manager or does it not only mean benefits and compensations, but he must also answer the question <How valuable am I here?> That an employee can ask himself.

If he does not feel valued, he will be tempted to look for a new job, and the decisive factors in his choice will be the salary offered and the reputation of the brand.

But how can you highlight your accomplishments at work without appearing to brag?

How do you make others notice the effort you put in to do your job well?

And if the situation does not change for the better, does it still make sense to invest your time in the current organization or is it necessary to change your job?

These questions were answered by two specialists in organizational culture and emotional intelligence in an article published by the Harvard Business Review.

Feeling unappreciated at work? (what to do)

What to do if you are feeling unappreciated

It’s awful to feel invisible at work. The need for appreciation is intrinsic to people, and if it is not satisfied at work, then the feeling of belonging cannot exist.

Therefore, an employee who does not feel valued at work will begin to doubt himself and his abilities. 

There is hope, however. You can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Here’s how:

Be realistic – Before taking action, it is advisable to ask yourself if you are realistic about the level of appreciation you expect to receive from colleagues, business partners and bosses.

People are very busy and may not have time to give feedback every time you feel you need it.

So before you ask for anything from others, you should look in your yard first.

Analyze your work as objectively as you can and start with the latest achievements. Ask yourself if your work was qualitative and try to find terms of comparison.

Also, think about how you could ask for your merits to be recognized without looking out of place.

If you are not sure of your analysis, ask for a second opinion from a colleague who has a higher rank or one that you respect a lot.

Talk to your boss –  If your efforts are overlooked, though this shouldn’t happen, set up a one-on-one meeting with your boss.

Some managers are not paying attention to the human needs of employees, but at least you can emphasize that you want to have a better dialogue regarding your work activity. 

The approach must be done with diplomacy – without looking arrogant or begging for attention.

The recommendation would be to start the discussion with a phrase like, “I want to talk about my work over the last three months, to see what my strengths are and what I should be working on.”

It is also important to be prepared for this discussion, with a list of concrete examples, so as to refresh the memory of your boss.

Increase the visibility of your team –  If you have a team under your command, then it is necessary to highlight the value of everyone’s work.

Talk about what your people are doing, how they add value to the company, what their goals are, and how they can do their job better.

Beyond teamwork, it is important that each individual contribution is brought into the discussion. 

Mention who took care of the report you present to the bosses, who was part of the project team or who came up with the idea.

But, at the same time, make sure that your contribution, as a team leader, is emphasized.

Do not underestimate yourself in trying to recognize the contribution of others, because your role is at least as important as theirs. After all, you are the coagulant.

Recognize and appreciate the efforts of others – A seemingly paradoxical way for your work to be appreciated is for you, in turn, to appreciate the work of others.

If you are the one who notices a job well done, then you can inspire others to do the same. And most of the time, people return the favour.

Congratulate yourself – Not all appreciation for a job well done has to come from outside. Congratulate yourself on your success, because your inner motivation is at least as strong as your outer motivation.

Reflect on successes, analyze your failures, learn from mistakes and move forward, using this new baggage of knowledge and reflections. 

It’s easier to figure out what’s NOT going well than what’s going right, so you need to know success to figure out what you need to do to stay successful.

When you need to find a new job: If you have done all these steps and you feel that nothing worked and you still think that you are not appreciated at work, then you should think about changing the boat. 

Feeling unappreciated at work? (what to do)

6 questions to ask yourself before changing jobs

  1. Why do you need to change?

The first thing you need to identify is the cause of this need for change. Why don’t you feel like going to work anymore?

Why is my work so stressful? It takes a little introspection. Is it because of the ambience?

Because of your relationship with colleagues? Transportation? Of domestic political games? Of the tasks, you have to perform?

  1. What else do you want to do?

Before you ask yourself what might make you find your smile, ask yourself what you don’t like to do anymore.

Even if it’s not easy or enjoyable, take the time to take stock of what you do, what you didn’t like, what you liked…

You may not get your ideas right away, but you can write down when you’re not satisfied with something. Because what remains written is clearer.

  1. What makes you vibrate?

Try to connect with what makes you vibrate, get back to the activities you neglected.

Maybe you should go to the extra-professional sphere, taking yoga, painting and guitar classes. In short, an activity that will make you happy again.

  1. How big do you want the change to be?

A change in professional life does not necessarily go through a 180-degree turn, such as creating a company.

It may just be about changing the company you work for. What will the change bring after it? Will you need investment in training?

Will your income go down? You may suffer a financial shock. Are you ready for this? Will you resist?

  1. Apply the test and learn the method

Change in professional life is not linear. You have to accept the change, to face reality, don’t wait six months to realize that your project is not feasible. Do you want a start-up?

Participate in events organized for this type of company. Do you want to change your profession?

Meet at least once a week with a person who works in the industry you want to work.

  1. Don’t rely on loved ones

The entourage is very important when you want to make a change. But beware, friends may disappoint you!

Try not to complain all the time at work and tell your colleagues how much you would like to leave and that you can’t wait to leave.

As unbearable as it may be, you know you better say when you resign!

Parents may tell you that you already have a well-paid job and that you are exaggerating by saying that you are unhappy, they want security and stability for you.

Friends may be jealous or afraid of you. So don’t expect high support or reveal your intentions if that’s not the case. Try to consult with a coach or a head-hunter instead.

He will be able to frame you, advise you and possibly guide you in the job change you want.

Here are the six questions turned into six topics for reflection.

It’s not easy to make a decision, but don’t forget that you will only be successful if you really like what you do!

Feeling unappreciated at work? (what to do)

Conclusions

In this article, we talked about what one should do when feeling unappreciated at work. 

Although the salary is the most important factor in choosing the job, it is no longer the main reason why an employee leaves the current employer.

In fact, lack of appreciation is today the most important reason why employees consider changing jobs. 

It’s awful to feel invisible at work. The need for appreciation is intrinsic to people, and if it is not satisfied at work, then the feeling of belonging cannot exist.

Therefore, an employee who does not feel valued at work will begin to doubt himself and his abilities. 

If you have any questions, comments or recommendations, let us know in the comments section!

FAQ about feeling unappreciated

What does feeling unappreciated mean?

Feeling unappreciated means feeling like you don’t bring value like you are not important and you have no meaning. 

What do you do when you feel unappreciated in a relationship?

When you feel unappreciated in a relationship, you first have to recognize the signs of an abusive relationship.

Learn to take control over your social and personal life, practice self-care and know your true value. 

What do you say to someone who feels unappreciated?

When someone feels unappreciated you may tell them that it was never your intention to make them feel this way, and will make sure to express yourself better and to acknowledge their efforts in the future.

How do you know if you are being taken for granted?

You know that you are being taken for granted if you feel you are the one who always takes care of the other person, you are never thanked or acknowledged for your efforts. 

References

Betterhelp.com

Inc.com

Hbr.org

Nadejda Romanciuc

Nadejda Romanciuc holds a Bachelor’s degree in psychology and a diploma in Addiction studies. She is part of the Romanian Association of Integrative Psychotherapy as a psychotherapist under supervision. She's practicing online counselling for over two years and is a strong advocate for mental health.