You are not alone. Husbands have a way of taking their wives for a ride and vice versa. The relationship of a wife with her husband is explained accurately in the statement “Can’t live with him, and can’t live without him.”
Arguments, disagreements, and differences in opinions happen. Often the reaction can be hard to understand, especially if you are upset and your husband is laughing. Instead of highlighting his non-serious response, you could try and understand where this reaction is coming from and why he is treating you this way.
This understanding will make it easy for you to react in such a situation, and it might also help in dampening the pain that his reaction is otherwise causing you.
5 Reasons Why He’s Laughing While You’re Upset
Your husband could be laughing while you are upset because of several reasons. If this is a continued occurrence in your relationship, then there must be an underlying reason or context behind such behavior.
If it is a new development in your relationship, then there could be different triggering factors. They would have had to just come up recently along your journey together.
Before reading into it or assuming he is disregarding your emotions, it is important to know about some common reasons why he could be giving the complete opposite reaction to what you have.
Some common reasons could be:
- Low Emotional Intelligence
If your husband always has a strong opinion about something or finds someone else to blame in almost every situation, then these could be considered signs of low emotional intelligence.
You are seeing yet another sign of it when he laughs at you while you are upset.
- Unable To Relate To You
Many times, husbands are unable to understand what their wives are saying because they do not relate to their situation or have not experienced something similar on their own.
Just like they do not know about the situation, they simply do not know what kind of reaction to give either and laughing is the easiest one to give.
- Similar Treatment In Childhood
Humans are always shaped by their experiences in their childhood. These experiences either good or bad, can affect every habit that you develop as an adult.
It is likely that your husband was in difficult situations in his childhood and his escape route was through avoidance and laughter. Or it is also likely that he saw his parents give each other the same treatment in tough times so he also finds it acceptable to give you the same.
- Scared Of Being Vulnerable
For generations to come, men have always been placed on a high pedestal when it comes to dealing with emotions. They are told that they should not cry, they should be strong, they should be the anchor, and not the boat that could sink.
Whereas, in practicality, they too can show emotions because they too have them. However, this pressure is so strong and so deep-rooted that it seldom allows for any feelings or fear of showing feelings to seep through.
So if he is laughing at you, in a way, he is running away from his feelings.
- Assuming You Are Living An Easy Life
If husbands are the sole breadwinners in a household, they tend to believe that they are doing a great job, which no doubt, they are in most cases.
They also tend to believe that their wives should have no reason to be unhappy because what more could they ask for? This thinking makes it impossible to imagine that the wife could be going through something different or could still be unhappy in the relationship.
So when she does voice out her unhappiness, it does not resonate with the man because he is already doing everything right in his books.
At the end of the day, this relationship of husband and wife stands on two feet. The minute one person is down, cracks could begin to show, so it is important to be on the same page at all times.
Yes, everyone has disagreements and fights. Not just this particular relationship but every relationship has that. It does not mean that one person loves you less. What it does mean is that there is a problem somewhere that you both need to fix together.
You need to bring forward your best self and cannot solely expect him to fix all of your problems, just as he should not be expecting you to fix all of his.
“Honesty” truly is the best policy so as long as you stay true to yourself and stay committed to your relationship, there is nothing that you both as a couple cannot overcome.
Your love for each other should trump all hurdles and challenges and the end goal should always be to remain happy together if you both want the relationship to work.
How do I respond when my husband is laughing at me and I am upset about something?
There are several reactions you could give in such a situation, but it is important to make sure you are not doing the same thing to him when he is in a similar situation. Otherwise, he will fail to see the point you are trying to make so it’s important to lead by example.
You could also write an email or note to him about how you are feeling and how his behavior has the tendency to hurt you and make you feel unheard.
Does my husband not love me anymore?
That’s not true. This has nothing to do with your husband’s love for you. It could be that he genuinely does not know how to express himself or is afraid of saying something else that might hurt you.
It is important to let him know upfront how all of this makes you feel so that you both can help each other together.
How can I get my husband to stop laughing in serious situations?
Trust is everything. Your husband needs to feel that he can trust you with his emotions so that he can start showing you some. This process takes time but it is doable.
You can start by having meaningful, deep conversations with him when both of you are calm, relaxed, and in a good mood. The more he can connect with you, the more he will eventually be able to open up to you.
It will also make it easier to explain to him how you felt hurt and disrespected by his behavior of laughing at you.
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