The difference between bi and pan (3)

In this blog post, we’ll be talking about the difference between bi and pan, what it means to be a bisexual and what it means to be a bisexual.

We will also debunk 3 myths about bisexuality. 

What is the important difference between bi and pan?

Bisexuality is one of the three main sexual orientations – hetero, homosexual and bisexual – classified so far and represents the romantic or sexual attraction towards people of the same or opposite sex. 

Often bisexual people are also called pansexual – that is, those who have no preference over the sex of their partner – but this is also the difference between a bi and a pansexual.

What is the important difference between bi and pan?

Even if a bisexual has no sexual preferences, gender is not indifferent to him, unlike pansexuals, who feel sexual attraction to any kind of person (and transsexuals or hermaphrodites, for example).

However, a bisexual person feels the same way as a homosexual or heterosexual – it does not mean that he is attracted to both genders at the same time, it does not mean that he will certainly be unfaithful because he apparently has twice as many options as those around. 

Bisexuals have their own flag, just like homosexuals: the flag has only three colours: pink, purple and blue.

Violet is placed in the middle and signifies the interpenetration of the sexes – bisexuals are attracted to both women and men.

As a symbol, they are represented by two intertwining triangles, pink and blue, and the touched corner is purple.

The first evidence of bisexuality 

In ancient Greece, sexual freedom and exploration were in place, and if, for example, a man had a wife and at the same time a male lover, he was not considered homosexual or bisexual, and society did not consider him an outcast because he did not conform to the generally accepted model. 

And in ancient Rome, a man (born free) was socially accepted if he had heterosexual and homosexual relationships, as long as he held the role of active partner (and not passive).

Only in modern times, we felt the need to classify sexual preferences. 

What is pansexuality and who is pansexual?

Pansexuality or omnisexuality is sexual attraction or desire, romantic love or emotional attraction to people of all kinds, regardless of gender, nationality, social status or religion.

Pansexuals are followers of this current, they do not define their sexuality, moreover, they consider that between sexuality and gender (male-female) there are no big differences.

Pansexuals are attracted to romance, emotions, empathy and may perceive various forms of attraction for both sexes.

They are usually interested in transsexuals, lesbians and people with an intersex physique/physiognomy.

For pansexuals, gender has no relevance, being completely insignificant.

Etymology 

The concept of pansexuality deliberately rejects the existence of the two genders (male and female) and pansexuals are open to relationships with people who do not identify at all with the classification between being female or male.

The prefix “pan” comes from ancient Greek and means “all”, “each” or “whole”, “Omni” comes from Latin and translates as “omnipresent”, “everywhere”.

“Pansexual” is a derivative of the word “pansexualism” (published in 1917) and defines the individual for whom “sexual instinct plays a major role in all human, mental and physical activities.” 

The word “pansexual” seems to have been uttered for the first time by Sigmund Freud – an Austrian neuropsychiatrist, the founder of the school of psychoanalysis.

Some explanations

Pansexuals are considered to be “transgender”, “transgender”, “intersex” or “androgynous”.

They have consensual behaviour found only in adults. Pansexuality is also the alternative term used for bisexuality, much more complex and comprehensive than this. 

It is true that among us there are people to whom – at least physically – we cannot attribute at first sight any belonging to a certain gender and this is due to the hormonal transformations, the genetic dowry they had, the environment in which they were born. developed so that they became intersex identities.

Pansexuality is the opposite of asexuality (also known as nonsexuality) and defines the group of individuals disinterested in sexual activity. Asexuals are still able to offer love, affection and romance to others.

They differ from bachelors in that bachelor’s self-imposed sexual abstinence for well-established reasons (religious or personal beliefs) while asexuals do not feel any physical desire for sex at all. 

Some asexuals marry out of a desire to have a child or to please certain people. Pansexual is not attracted to everyone!

He may meet people with whom he does not feel any physical feelings or emotions.

If bisexuals are attracted to both sexes, pansexuals do not take this into account. Pansexuals find attraction beyond gender, in personality, ideals and emotions.

Angel Haze perfectly defines this sexual identity: “I’m not gay, I’m not heterosexual, I’m not bisexual – I don’t care. At the end of the day, I just want someone to have a relationship with.

3 myths about bisexuality, contradicted by science

First, bisexuality is not a phase of adolescence. To understand it, it can be defined as the tendency to be sexually attracted to both men and women.

Although for some it seems that you have more options when it comes to relationships, in reality, bisexuality can be a confusing identity, being quite difficult to figure out if you should be part of the LGBT community or heterosexuals.

 Moreover, over time, several myths and stereotypes related to bisexuality have emerged, which is why this gender identity is poorly understood.

Myth 1: Bisexuality does not exist

Yeah, sure! We can even laugh a little when we hear that. It’s like saying a group of individuals doesn’t exist.

Over time, people have been categorized as heterosexual or gay, especially when it comes to men, and the saddest thing is that even in LGBT circles, the idea that “there is no bisexual man” is encouraged. 

Researchers have clarified this myth following a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, were heterosexual, gay and bisexual men were recruited and exposed to a variety of erotic films.

Then, after viewing, study participants were asked to talk about their experiences when viewing the images and, in addition, were connected to equipment that measured changes in the genitals at the time of arousal. 

As expected, heterosexual men responded with excitement to films in which women appeared more, and vice versa in the case of gay men.

Bisexual men had a relatively similar level of arousal in both female and male videos.

The study clearly shows that the participants did not “claim” to be bisexual.

Myth 2: Bisexuality is just a phase

Because of this myth, bisexuality is seen as a kind of experiment or confusion, which occurs during adolescence when young people establish their “true” identity.

In a paper published in Developmental Psychology, some research was done in which women were monitored for ten years to see whether or not their sexual identity changes. 

Very few women who identified as bisexual in adolescence became heterosexual or lesbian at the end of the study (only 8% of them).

Myth 3: Bisexuals cannot be loyal to their partners

Most of the time, bisexuals are perceived as unfaithful to their partners towards heterosexual or gay individuals.

In reality, many bisexual individuals are happy in their relationships, and even more sincere with their partners than people with other sexual orientations.

Important concepts

The “palette” of sexual orientation has diversified greatly in recent times. In addition to terms already known and widely discussed, such as heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality, sexual identity has acquired new nuances and definitions.

In order to clarify this topic, the American publication “Huffington Post” explained 10 lesser-known terms, which define sexual and romantic identities, less known at this time: 

Pansexual  – Pansexuals are those people who can fall in love sexually, emotionally and spiritually by anyone, regardless of sexual identity. 

Polysexual – Like pansexual, polysexual can be attracted to anyone, regardless of gender, male or female.

However, for polysexual, sexual identity matters. For example, if a polysexual is attracted to women, he will also be attracted to people who identify as women, such as transgender people. 

Panromantic – A panromantic person is emotionally and spiritually attracted to anyone, regardless of gender or gender identity, but is not sexually attracted to them. 

Skoliosexual –  In the case of skoliosexual, sexual attraction is manifested on people of non-binary sexual identity who do not identify with their natural sex, such as transsexuals.

Asexual  – Asexuals are “people who do not feel sexual attraction” and, most of the time, not even emotionally.

According to asexuality.org, they may feel the desire to show affection for a person without having sexual desires. 

Aromatic – An aromatic person feels very little or no romantic attraction to other people.

Aromantic people do not lack the ability to establish emotional or personal connections, but they do not feel the instinctual need to make such connections. This identity is not a choice, but it is innate “, notes asexuality.org. 

Graysexual –  Jared, a man who claims to be graysexual, defines the term as “a bridge between asexuality and sexuality.

Graysexuals can also be identified as heterosexual or homosexual or with any other sexual identity. Although they will feel a physical attraction to other people, they will not necessarily feel the need to have sex. 

Queerplatonic relationships – Queerplatonic relationships are not romantic by nature, but they involve a deeper and more intense emotional connection than in the case of a traditional friendship.

The partners are called, in this case, “zucchini”. 

Demisexual –  A person who defines himself as demisexual does not feel sexual attraction to a person unless he has already established a deep emotional connection with the other, although it is not necessarily about falling in love, so it may not be romantic.

If the connection has an intense romantic character then it is called demiromantic.

Lithromantic –  The term “lithromantic” describes a person who has feelings of love but does not want them to be reciprocal, a type of amorous masochism.

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Conclusions

In this blog post, talked about the difference between bi and pan, what it means to be a bisexual and what it means to be a bisexual. We also  debunked 3 myths about bisexuality. 

Often bisexual people are also called pansexual – that is, those who have no preference over the sex of their partner – but this is also the difference between a bi and a pansexual. 

Even if a bisexual has no sexual preferences, gender is not indifferent to him, unlike pansexuals, who feel sexual attraction to any kind of person (and transsexuals or hermaphrodites, for example).

If you have any comments, questions or recommendations, do let us know in the comments section!

FAQ on The difference between bi and pan

Are Bi and Pan the same thing?

No, bi and pan are not the same thing.

Bi mean bisexuals – people who are attracted to multiple genders. Pan means pansexual – people attracted to ALL genders.

Can you be bi and pan?

You can be bi and pan, but the two concepts essentially mean different things.

For example, bisexuals are not attracted to ALL genders. 

What is a pansexual person?

A pansexual person, or pansexuality, is sexual attraction or desire, romantic love or emotional attraction to people of all kinds, regardless of gender, nationality, social status or religion.

How many genders are there now?

There are 5 genders now: male, female, hermaphrodite, female pseudohermaphroditism and male pseudohermaphroditism. 

What does the Q stand for in LGBTQ?

The Q in LGBTQ stands for either queer or questioning.

LGBT stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender. 

Recommendations

Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality, by  Jerrold S. Greenberg

Diversity in Couple and Family Therapy: Ethnicities, Sexualities, and Socioeconomics, by Shalonda Kelly

Identities and Inequalities: Exploring the Intersections of Race, Class, Gender, & Sexuality (B&b Sociology) by David Newman 

Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type, by Paul D. Tieger 

What we recommend for Relationship & LGBTQ issues

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References

Theanatomyoflove.com

Huffpost.com

Asexuality.org

Apa.org

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