Can your boyfriend rip you? (3+ Ways to heal it faster)

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In this blog post, we are going to answer the question, “Can your boyfriend rip you?”. Vaginal tears are pretty common than you think and it can occur due to a number of reasons. We will talk about different kinds of sexual injuries and how you can deal with them. 

Can your boyfriend rip you? 

Yes, your boyfriend can accidentally rip you during a sexual intercourse. Not just vaginal, anal rips are also common and can occur due to a number of reasons. Experts believe that being rough is one of the common reasons why this can happen with you. 

Several surveys have revealed that using foreign objects to insert inside a vagina can also give rise to a number of complications. It is a known fact that being sexually aroused can dull your senses and increase the levels of excitatory chemicals in your brain. 

This makes people get rough and aggressive, which can cause rips and tears. Not just women, men can also experience penile rips. 

What to do if your boyfriend ripped you? 

There are a few things you can try to help relieve some of the pain if you have gotten ripped and enhance the healing. These include:

Sitz bath

Sitz bath is one of the most common ways to provide relief in both anal and vaginal tears. You can fill a tub with lukewarm water and add some salt or baking soda in it. This can help heal the rip as warm water increases the blood flow towards the tear that promotes healing. 

Salt and baking soda can act as antibacterial and antiseptic agents that can prevent the tear from getting infected. You can try taking a sitz bath at least 2 to 3 times a day, for 15 to 20 minutes. This is not an actual treatment but it can significantly improve your condition. 

Over-the-counter antiseptic agents

If you tear it on the outer surface of the vagina then you can apply some OTC antiseptics that will help prevent the infection. Vagina is rich in bacterial growth and is usually damp which promotes the growth of bacteria and they actually thrive there. 

Make sure you try everything you can to prevent an infection. Keep yourself clean and pat yourself dry gently when you wash yourself. However, OTC antiseptics are not recommended for internal tears. 

You are not supposed to apply these agents inside your vagina. Ointments for internal use are mostly applied if prescribed by your healthcare provider. 

Try cold compress 

Cold compress can significantly help tone down the pain and swelling associated with the rip or tear of your vagina or anal canal. You can wrap an ice cube in some cloth and press it against your vagina. 

Make sure you do not apply ice directly because it can cause cold burns. You can also use a cooling pad if convenient. 

OTC painkillers

If your tear is causing pain and swelling then you can take OTC painkillers. Most commonly used painkillers are Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS). 

They not only act as a painkiller but can also significantly reduce your inflammation. If your tear is internal and has affected your vaginal membrane or has made your muscle stiff, you can try a muscle relaxant. 

However, if you have any underlying health condition or you are taking any other prescription medication then make sure you ask your healthcare provider if these meds are okay for you to take. 

Avoid sexual activities

It is not recommended to continue being sexually active until your tear ahs completely healed. Putting more pressure on it won’t help your condition. In fact, it can make it much worse and cause even more severe pain. 

It is also not recommended to masturbate while your rip heals. It is better to take care of it rather than putting yourself in more serious complications. 

Why do vaginal rips occur? 

Vaginal rips usually occur because one of the following reasons:

Not having enough lubrication

Not having enough lubrication is one of the most common reasons why vaginal tears happen. A lot of women have dry vaginas. This could happen because of a number of reasons like natural dryness or deficiency of estrogen, a hormone which keeps the vagina moist. 

This dryness can increase the friction significantly and you become more likely to get cuts, tears or rips. In order to prevent this, you can use lubricants or lubes. 

They provide enough moisture to reduce the friction and you get safe from such rips. Lubes can also prevent penile rips and tears.

Not being completely aroused

Vaginal rips and tears can happen if you are not completely aroused, but are still engaged in a sexual activity. When women are completely turned out, the chemicals in your body stimulate the release of fluids that makes your vagina wet. 

The lack of this wetness can lead to not only vaginal rips, but if the penis is inserted in a dry vagina, it can also lead to penile rips which can become quite painful. 

In order to prevent this, foreplay can be helpful. Make sure you are completely wet before you move on towards penetration.

Being rough

Being rough is one of the most common reasons as we have discussed earlier. People tend to forget that their genitals are supposed to be treated nicely and if they start being too hard on them, they can easily tear up. 

This is also quite common when foreign objects are inserted inside a vagina, like sex toys. You can prevent this by being careful and gentle. 

Sharp objects

When sharp objects are inserted in a vagina, it can easily cause rips and tears. Long sharp nails can also do the same which is the most common reason for vaginal cuts during fingering. Make sure you are engaged in any such activity, keep your nails short and clean. 

Muscle tightness

Some women have tight vaginal muscles that do the stretch as much as the normal muscles do and this can cause rips when you get engaged in a sexual activity. Vagina is designed to be stretchy because of the birthing process. 

If you feel your muscles are not that elastic and they don’t open up when your partner penetrates you, talk to your doctor. Your practitioner will prescribe a muscle relaxant that can help address this problem.

Any underlying disease

If you have any underlying disease affecting the vaginal health then you are more likely to get such rips. Sexually transmitted diseases (STIs) can also make the vagina weak and compromise its health and natural defences. 

You can not only get tears, but you can get several other infections and complications. Menopause can also make your vagina susceptible to cuts and tears by making it dry. 

In menopause, the levels of estrogen drops, a hormone which is respsnible to keep your vagina moist and prevent it from drying out.

When to call your doctor?

You need to reach out to your healthcare provider if you experience the following symptoms:

  • Painful urination with burning sensation
  • Usual and foul smelly vaginal discharge
  • Uncontrollable bleeding – which might indicate the cut is too deep
  • Persistent pain, even when you are not engaged sexually
  • You suffer from vaginal dryness too often
  • You have symptoms of STI
  • You think your cut is not healed and has become infected instead
  • You have fever with chills or feel overall sick

What if the injury was deliberate?

If you feel like your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend has deliberately hurt you or ripped you or you feel like you can not get away from them or they force themselves on you, make sure you get support. You can ask your healthcare provider for help. 

Conclusion

In this blog post, we have discussed how your boyfriend or spouse can rip you. They can accidentally rip you during a sexual intercourse. Not just vaginal, anal rips are also common and can occur due to a number of reasons. 

Experts believe that being rough is one of the common reasons why this can happen with you. Several surveys have revealed that using foreign objects to insert inside a vagina can also give rise to a number of complications. 

We have looked at some options to help relieve the pain if you suffer from this problem. We have also discussed why these things happen and how you can prevent them. It is important to have enough lubrication to help prevent rips. 

FAQs: my boyfriend ripped me

Can you bleed if your partner is too big?

You may bleed if your partner is too big. However, you can still prevent it. However, if you constantly feel pain, it may indicate that your muscles are not elastic enough or you have a tight vagina. Vagina is designed to be stretchy because of the birthing process. Your partner may be big, but he can’t be as big as a baby that comes out of the vagina. Make sure you have enough lubrication and be gentle. 

How long does it take for a vaginal tear to heal?

It depends on the size of the tear. If your cut is too deep, it will take more time to heal. A minor cut can heal pretty quickly. There are a few things you can try to promote its healing:

  • Sitz bath is one of the most common ways to provide relief in both anal and vaginal tears. You can fill a tub with lukewarm water and add some salt or baking soda in it. This can help heal the rip as warm water increases the blood flow towards the tear that promotes healing.
  • If you tear it on the outer surface of the vagina then you can apply some OTC antiseptics that will help prevent the infection.
  • Cold compress can significantly help tone down the pain and swelling associated with the rip or tear of your vagina or anal canal.
  • It is not recommended to continue being sexually active until your tear ahs completely healed. Putting more pressure on it won’t help your condition. In fact, it can make it much worse and cause even more severe pain.

Can fingering cause rips?

When sharp objects are inserted in a vagina, it can easily cause rips and tears. Long sharp nails can also do the same which is the most common reason for vaginal cuts during fingering. Make sure you are engaged in any such activity, keep your nails short and clean. 

How to prevent vaginal cuts?

It is important to have enough lubrication to help prevent rips. Make sure you are completely wet before you move on towards penetration. If you feel your muscles are not that elastic and they don’t open up when your partner penetrates you, talk to your doctor. Your practitioner will prescribe a muscle relaxant that can help address this problem.

Can STI cause rips?

If you have any underlying disease affecting the vaginal health then you are more likely to get such rips. Sexually transmitted diseases (STIs) can also make the vagina weak and compromise its health and natural defences. You can not only get tears, but you can get several other infections and complications. 

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