11 Tips for Building Healthy Relationships

Healthy relationship building is important for a good, balanced life. Humans are social beings and need stable interpersonal relationships for a good quality life. So how do you know if your relationships are healthy?

In this article, we will discuss how to build healthy, positive relationships and the characteristics that establish good relationships.

11 Tips for Building Healthy Relationship

Whether it’s your love life, family or friends, we all need healthy relationships in our lives. Here are a few useful tips that may help you build healthy and meaningful relationships:

  • Building Trust
  • Open and Honest Communication
  • Compromise
  • Establish Boundaries
  • Be Secure with Self 
  • Be Supportive
  • Dependency
  • Sharing interests
  • Conflict Resolution
  • Be Assertive
  • Mutual Respect and Understanding

Now let us look at how these qualities can help you build a strong foundation for your interpersonal relationships. 

Trust

Trust is the foundation of any good relationship. It is important to take this stage at your own pace and not rush into trusting someone too soon. Some people who trust easily end up getting hurt when their trust is broken.

To avoid this kind of pain, it is best to slowly start building trust at a pace you are most comfortable with. At the same time, it is important to let your partner/friend take their time to trust you too. You can try some trust building exercises if you are struggling to trust someone.

Trust, once broken, is extremely difficult to rebuild. In a healthy relationship, it is important to be honest and loyal. Trust plays a key role in the purity of the bonding. If you can blindly trust each other, you and your partner feel more confident and secure. 

Communication

An open line of communication is another key factor in building a healthy relationship. You should be able to communicate freely with your partner (or friend). 

Gaps in communication often lead to misunderstandings in any relationship. To prevent that, it is best to be open with your companion and honestly share what you feel. If you trust them, then you should be able to be honest with them.

Healthy communication entails active listening and observing non-verbal cues such as posture, tone, eye contact, and gestures. People seek out someone who would really listen and pay attention to what they have to say. 

It is important to provide a safe space for openness and listening without judgements, prejudices and biases. Before responding to what they have to say, first acknowledge their feelings and make them feel heard.

Compromise

Every healthy relationship requires a bit of compromisation from both sides. You may want to watch a horror movie tonight while your companion may want to watch a comedy movie. So how do you decide what to watch?

Either, only one of you compromises and watches the other genre, while watching your preferred genre another day, or you both compromise and pick a different genre, say an action movie. 

Compromising is essential to maintain the balance and harmony in the relationship. Whether it’s your friend or your lover, we all need to make compromises on some day. But, if there’s only one person who’s always compromising, then things can go bad real fast. 

Establish Boundaries

Boundaries are important in any relationship. You don’t want someone in your personal space, all the time. Sometimes, you need some time to yourself every once in a while to do things you enjoy on your own. 

It is also essential to respect each other’s privacy. For example, if your friend does not like to invite you over because they are private about where they live then you need to respect that boundary and opt to meet someplace else. 

Couples with healthy boundaries tend to flourish both inside the relationship as well as outside. They are individually more secure and confident. They also tend to respect each other’s likes and dislikes. 

Be Secure

Before jumping into a romantic relationship, it’s best to address and deal with your own insecurities to prevent projecting these insecurities onto your partner. People who feel secure about themselves are able to maintain healthy, long-lasting relationships.

Your insecurities can also negatively impact your relationship with your friends. Ugly emotions like jealousy can bubble to the surface when you fail to address your insecurities. 

Feeling secure not only benefits you but your relationships too. 

Support

Being supportive of your companions choices and decisions is essential for building a healthy relationship. Support goes both ways, you need to feel supported by your companions just as much as you support them.

Communicate with them and reach out to them when you need their support. Support means just being there for a person and providing them with comfort and encouragement. Build each other up instead of tearing each other down.

When your friend or partner is upset, be there to listen to them and just show them that you are there for them even when times are difficult. Sometimes all people need is a shoulder to cry on and someone they can confide in. 

Dependency

Everyone needs a person they can depend on or rely on. In a healthy relationship, companions depend on each other for certain things but that does not mean that they are completely dependent on each other.

There is a fine line between dependency and codependency. Being able to depend on someone and feel comfortable to be vulnerable around them is a sign of a healthy relationship.

In any relationship, both companions should be mutually dependent on each other but at the same time maintain a level of independence when apart. They should not completely rely on one another because that causes dysfunctionality in the relationship.

Interests

It is okay to have different interests in any companionship. While building a healthy relationship, people try to find common grounds. Shared interests can boost a relationship and give you things to do together.

While it is important to find mutual interests, it is also important to be curious about your companion’s interests too. If you are a more introverted person while your companion is extroverted, it may be a good idea to find a middle ground and compromise on certain interests. 

This helps you build a stronger bond together especially when both mates put equal effort into the relationship. 

Conflict Resolution

In any relationship, how you handle conflicts is very crucial. When building a healthy relationship, it is important to handle conflicts in a healthy and civilised manner. An outburst of emotions will only drive your companion further and you may regret saying some things later on. 

If your argument gets too heated up, it’s best to take a step back and find a place to cool down first. Once both companions are calmer, each can take turns to express their thoughts and feelings while the other patiently listens and understands, without responding. 

Handling conflicts in a calm and healthy manner not only provides you and your companion with a safe space to express yourselves but also builds trust and support in the relationship. Conflict resolution is a true test of how reliable one’s companionship is. 

Be Assertive

In a healthy relationship, it is vital to be assertive and voice your concerns rather than suppressing them. If you are not happy with something or feel pressured into doing something, you need to put your foot down and tell your companion. 

If your partner or friend still pressurizes you to do the same, then you are in a toxic relationship. However, if your companion tries to understand and acknowledges your concerns then you know that you have built a healthy relationship. 

Respect and Understanding

No relationship is complete without mutual respect and understanding of one another. While building healthy relationships, it is important for you to respect each other’s choices and accept each other for who you are rather than try to change or put down each other. 

Show your companion that you value their thoughts and opinions. Try to listen to them and really understand what they are trying to say when they are venting to you about their feelings. This will help you build a strong and healthy relationship. 

Conclusion

In this article we discussed 11 different tips to building a healthy relationship in any domain. 

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs): Building Healthy Relationships

The following are a few frequently asked questions and their answers:

What are the three C’s in a healthy relationship?

The three C’s that are important in a healthy relationship are as follows:

  • Communication – Communication is key to a successful relationship of any nature. If you are able to effectively communicate with your partner/friend/family members, then it’s a sign that you’re in a healthy relationship. 
  • Commitment – Being able to commit to a relationship is essential. Commitment is an assurance to your partner that you are in it for the long run.
  • Compromise – Healthy relationships require compromise from both partners. It is not always possible to agree on the same things so compromise is key to maintain balance and harmony in a good relationship. 

What builds a healthy relationship?

Here are some ways you can build a healthy relationship:

  • Shower your partner with lots  of affection but at the same time, give each other space and maintain healthy boundaries.
  • Appreciate the little things in the relationship that give you happiness. Also, appreciate your partner and make them feel loved and understood. 
  • Give priority to your partner. They need to realise that you are there for them when they need you. Giving your partner priority can help them feel secure about your relationship. 
  • Maintain good communication with your partner. It is important to communicate when you are upset or mad at your partner instead of making them guess why you may be upset. Being clear about your thoughts and feelings helps them understand you better. 
  • Share your interests with your partner. Find mutual interests that you may have or just simply try new things and explore each other’s interests. Both of you can also try new things together. 
  • Respect each other’s thoughts and feelings. Mutual respect is important in a healthy relationship. You should build each other up instead of putting each other down. 

What are the 5 most important things in a relationship?

The 5 most important things in any good and healthy relationship are:

  • Trust
  • Communication
  • Support
  • Respect 
  • Boundaries

Can you ever fix a toxic relationship?

Yes, it is possible to fix a toxic relationship with a lot of effort and work. Therapy can help mend broken or toxic relationships. Both partners need to be open to change and willing to work on themselves as well as the relationship in order to fix it. 

Citations

https://www.loveisrespect.org/pdf/Healthy_Relationships.pdf
https://nevertmi.ca/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/7-301_Building_Healthy_Relationships_Booklet.pdf

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