Break up with therapist email template

In this blog we present to you email templates for breaking up with your therapist. 

We will also discuss how you can break up with your therapist in a healthy way. 

Break up with therapist email template 1

Here is a direct and simple way of breaking up with your therapist from the writers at SheThinx if you think that the sessions are not working out and you want to check out other therapists:

Dear *insert your therapist’s name*,

Thank you for your time and support over the past few months. 

I’ve been reflecting on my experience at therapy and at this time I would like to explore a few different options. Perhaps you know of and can refer me to someone who can help. 

(You can also include what you are looking for or WHY you are leaving, but it’s not required. You can leave without explaining yourself).

I appreciate your support on my journey and look forward to crossing paths in the future.

Best,

(your name)

Break up with therapist email template 2

Here is a template if you think you have had enough sessions with your therapist for the time being and you would like to take a break. 

Hi [First name],

I hope you’re well. I’ve taken some time to think over the work that we have been doing for the last couple of weeks and I think that I have made much progress.

I dont think I require your services for the time being because I want to apply what we have discussed and I think taking a break would be good for me. 

If you’re still interested in continuing our discussion, do let me know. If not, I’ll stop reaching out and wish you all the best.

Kind Regards,

[Signature]

Break up with therapist email template 3

Here is a template from NeverAlone for breaking up with your therapist if your therapist’s schedules do not work for you or their orientation does not work for you.

“Dear _____,

We have been working together for ____ now, and I greatly appreciate your time, efforts, and how you’ve supported me on this journey to getting better.

Thanks to you, I have new goals/greatly improved my self-reflecting skills, and I’ve decided that I’d like to keep the forward momentum going. I am curious to see if another therapist/type of therapy can help me progress even further.

This experience has been a huge step for me, but I need to try a new approach/find someone with a similar history that I click with better/take more sessions that your busy schedule doesn’t seem to allow for.

Perhaps you know of and can refer me to someone who can help. 

Thank you so much again for everything. 

Sincerely,

______ “

Break up with therapist email template 4

Here is a template if you want to break up because you want to try out new therapists:

Hi [Name],

I hope you’re well. I’ve taken some time to think over the work that we have been doing for the last couple of weeks and I think that I have made much progress.

Thanks to you, I have new goals/greatly improved my self-reflecting skills, and I’ve decided that I’d like to keep the forward momentum going. I am curious to see if another therapist/type of therapy can help me progress even further.

I appreciate all the work we have done together and I thank you for being part of my journey. 

Regards,

[YOUR SIGNATURE]

Break up with therapist email template 5

Here is a template if you need to break up with your therapist because you are relocating to another place or state.

Hi [Name],

We have been working together for ____ now, and I greatly appreciate your time, efforts, and how you’ve supported me on this journey to getting better.

Thanks to you, I have new goals/greatly improved my self-reflecting skills, and I’ve decided that I’d like to keep the forward momentum going. However, I will be relocating with your partner to another state. 

I have considered the possibility of having sessions with you online however, I do not think I would like to continue this virtually and would prefer in-person sessions. 

I will be moving to ………………… and I would appreciate it if you could help me find a new therapist there if you have anyone you would like to recommend. I would be very grateful. 

I appreciate all the work we have done together and I thank you for being part of my journey. 

Regards,

[YOUR SIGNATURE]

Break up with therapist email template 6

Here is another template for breaking up with your therapist:

Hi [First name],

I hope you’re well.

We have been working together for ____ now, and I greatly appreciate your time, efforts, and how you’ve supported me on this journey to getting better.

 I’ve taken some time to think over the work that we have been doing for the last couple of weeks and I think that I have made much progress.

I dont think I require your services for the time being because I want to apply what we have discussed and I think taking a break would be good for me. 

If you’re still interested in continuing our discussion, do let me know. If not, I’ll stop reaching out and wish you all the best.

Kind Regards,

[Signature]

How to break up with your therapist?

Here are a few things you can do if you are considering breaking up with your therapist:

Spend time reflecting

The first thing you can do is to take some time considering and reflecting on your therapeutic progress. 

It is important that you and your therapist are clear about your goals to be able to see any progress, and that you are working towards it.

This also means that you reflect on whether you are seeing any reasonable differences in the way that you feel. If you don’t feel a change, it’s time to reconsider the relationship.

Start a conversation with your therapist

The best thing you can do about taking the step to leave your therapist is to start with something like, “There’s something I wanted to talk about. My goals from therapy are [insert said goals here]. I’m concerned we’re not meeting them. Can we talk about this?”

This conversation can help you set small goals and also the timeline that you would like to follow. This can be a great place for you and your therapist to work on instead of cutting off the relationship without truly exploring what is causing your desire to leave. 

Consider reasons to leave

After the conversation, if your therapist doesn’t seem receptive and you find that nothing changes even after bringing it up, it’s okay to try to find another therapist. 

You also need to be mindful of any unethical issues which warrant you to move on to a more ethical therapist. 

An unethical therapist is that they judge you or shame you for what you mighthave said or decisions you have made etc. 

An unempathetic therapist is an unethical one, so if you feel like your therapist is judging you, you should consider moving on from this therapist. 

When you are working with a therapist, and you notice your therapist is starting to take advantage of your vulnerability, you need to find yourself a new therapist immediately. 

This could manifest in ways such as, they ask you out for dinner or they tend to make sexual suggestions or romantic propositons etc. 

In this case, you could consider changing your therapist. So once you have had the conversation, pay attention to how they are accommodating of your needs while you also respect their boundaries as your therapist. 

Pay attention to how they are dealing with your crisis needs and your anxieties, make sure that you feel safe and that you trust your gut. 

If you find that your therapist has not been mindful nor have they made efforts to understand you- it is possible that your therapist is breaching ethicality and it is best for you to move on to someone else. 

In such a case, you can let them know that you would like to terminate the sessions with them and be direct in your feedback while doing so. 

You have every right to change therapists if you find that the way this therapist works is not the kind of support you need or require. 

Break up in person

Break up with your therapist with an actual conversation if you’ve been seeing them for over a month instead of an email if it is possible.

This can help give you both closure, and it is also a good challenge if you have trouble ending things or feel like you’re upsetting someone.

Focus on yourself

You dont have to worry about upsetting them because if you have already told your therapist why you weren’t satisfied with your sessions, the breakup shouldn’t come as a surprise. 

So be direct as to how you appreach the issue and let them know that you do not want to continue the sessions, there is no need to over explain the issue- a straightforward conversation should be enough. 

Ask for help in finding a new therapist

An ethical therapist should offer to help you find a new therapist or help you explore new therapists for your therapeutic journey. 

However, if they do not, ask them to help you out and connect you with someone who could be the same orientation as you would require or someone different that you have not been acquainted with. 

Conclusion

In this blog we presented to you email templates for breaking up with your therapist. 

We also discussed how you can break up with your therapist in a healthy way. 

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Breaking up with prospects: Emails subject line samples and templates. PipeDrive. Retrieved on 14th may 2022. 

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How to Break Up With Your Therapist. Thinx. Retrieved on 14th May 2022. https://www.shethinx.com/blogs/thinx-womens-health/break-up-with-therapist

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