Boyflux (as part of Genderflux)

In this blog post, we talk about Boyflux and Genderflux. We also define gender identity, sexual orientation and the differences between being a man and a woman. 

Boyflux – what does it mean? 

Boyflux is when one feels almost all the time a male, but experiences fluctuating intensities of the male identity. This can be fluid with any other identity. Boyflux is a subcategory of Genderflux, which is an umbrella that encompasses gender identities that fluctuate in terms of their intensity. When the intensity of gender identity is null, absolute gender is reached.

GenderFlux is a term that encompasses all gender identities that vary in intensity over time. The intensity of a genre has to do with the level of identification that you have with that genre. If we think about it in percentages, 100% would be the absolute identification and 0% the null.

Girlflux, on the other hand,  means that the gender that flows is Feminine. The interpretation of gender is different for each person, there is no single way of being feminine. A Girflux, in very specific circumstances, which rarely happen, may feel masculine, this rarity is called “Condigender”, when you feel a certain gender in very limited situations. 

GenderFluid vs GenderFlux

GenderFlux and GenderFluid are NOT the same, but both can occur, that combination is often called FluidFlux (Fluid and Changing Genre or without translation).

GenderFluid is a gender identity where a person’s gender changes towards another or other genres over time for various personal reasons or for no apparent reason.

It is one thing to flow between genres and another in intensity. GenderFluid flows between genres, not in intensity.

Gender Identity

In the context of the LGBTQIAP+ community, gender, or gender identity, is a person’s subjective and personal experience concerning social gender categories. Every society has gender categories and expectations that can be associated with certain sexual physical characteristics; these categories can serve as a basis for personal gender identity concerning society.

In a binary gender system, most people adhere to and reinforce ideals of masculinity and femininity in all aspects of sex and gender: physical sexual characteristics, gender identity and gender expression. In all societies, some people do not identify, partly or completely, with the gender associated with their physical sexual characteristics.

In essence, gender does not depend on the person’s genitals or appearance, current or desired, just as it is not necessary or immutable: for example, there are people of gender or gender-fluid. 

The origin of personal gender identity is not clear, as there may be as many social as biological factors, however, regardless of the origin, gender is not a personal choice, as it is a completely unconscious personal process.

Gender identities can be constituted by lack of gender, presence of a “pure” gender, presence of several genders (one at a time or several at the same time), presence of one or more genders affected by cultural/neurological/biological factors or uncertainty about the gender itself, among other types of identities.

Sexual orientation

Sexual orientation, an expression often called sexuality, is essentially an identity that expresses the conditions of a person to feel sexual attraction to someone, or, occasionally, what relationship a person has with sexual attraction and/or sexual relations.

The sexual attraction is finding someone sexually attractive; think that a certain person is hot, and consequently want to have sex with them. Of course, there are other social factors that cause sexual attraction to not always end in an advance with sexual intentions towards another person.

People with heterosexual sexual orientation are privileged. Many do not even know the word, thinking only that they are “normal”. Heterosexual people are people of binary genders who only feel sexual attraction to people of the gender considered “opposite” to yours.

Attraction, love, marriage and sex between a man and a woman are seen as the norm of society. This is a phenomenon called heteronormativity or heterosexism. Attraction or sexual relations between two men or between two women are often seen as denatured, false, or just for purposes of rebellion or experimentation.

A man’s lack of sexual attraction to a woman, or vice versa, is also frowned upon by society. Often, a man wanting to “catch” several women is seen as necessary for a standard of masculinity, while women are pressured to satisfy sexually those they date or are married to. 

Not feeling like talking about colleagues or hot celebrities is seen as a sign of childishness or unnaturality. The structure that dictates that anyone needs to feel sexual attraction and want sexual relationships is called zedsexism, zednormativity, allonormativity, allosexism, allonormativity or allosexism.

The presence of sexual attraction for more than one gender is seen as a sign of promiscuity, infidelity or insecurity, or perhaps even as a sign that the person is lying or having trouble admitting that “in fact” he is gay, lesbian or hetero. The structure that dictates that people need to be attracted to just one gender is called monosexism.

A person who calls himself gay feels a sexual and romantic attraction to people of the same or similar genders, most of the time. This is because many people do not think about other types of guidance, or see no need for them.

For this reason, many people use sexual orientation or sexuality as a generic term for general guidance, although not all people prioritize their sexual orientation or have labels only for their sexual orientation. To read more about other types of guidance, read our pages on romantic guidance and other types of guidance.

What am I: A man or a woman?

Genetic sex does not always determine sexuality. In some cases, the question of the owner of this piece can only be answered by each person. Scientific knowledge of intersexuality helps to understand the diversity of individuals beyond the topics and hoaxes around identity.

MOST people have a defined sexual identity from childhood, according to external sexual characteristics. Feeling like a boy or a girl, a man or a woman is usually practically automatic. But genetic sex does not always determine sexuality. For this reason, it is very important to know and define the different types of intersexuality, so that we can understand the diversity of individuals from a scientific perspective, away from topics and misinformation.

In the human species, there are cases of true hermaphroditism – very rare -, pseudohermaphroditism – male or female – and different alterations of hormonal functioning that determine the development of the external and internal genitalia in one sense or another. 

In the same way that the size of the testicles or the development of the breasts varies from person to person, intersex states have a different genital development. Some lack external data that makes us suspect the presence of hormonal dysfunction.

 Others, however, are women with a masculinized aspect —androgynous—, or men with a feminine appearance. Your internal genitalia may be more or less incomplete, such as the “blind” vaginas or the testicles inside the abdomen.

Genetic sex, determined by the karyotype – sex chromosomes XX in women and XY in men – is not analyzed by rule in all people. Only in situations of doubt or by chance findings do we detect the incidence of these cases. 

The absence of menstruation and sterility are the most frequent causes for which it is studied, but there is no shortage of famous cases that have transpired, mainly in sports. 

One well-known was that of South African Caster Semenya: after winning the 800-meter final at the World Athletics Championships in Berlin in 2009, his competitors requested a study on suspicion of male pseudohermaphroditism. It turned out to have X and Y sex chromosomes, that is, their genetic sex is that of men. 

In Spain, in the eighties, the athlete María José Martínez Patiño, who did not pass the gender verification tests and was left without participating in the Seoul Olympics, was one of the cruellest and most unfortunate cases due to the treatment received. 

She herself stated in The Lancet medical journal: “I was expelled from the athletes’ residence, my sports scholarship was withdrawn and my marks were removed from the records. I felt humiliated and embarrassed. I lost my friends, my boyfriend, hope and energy. I knew, however, that she was a woman. ” 

What are they, then? Men or women? Only they can respond. It will depend on how you feel. The brain is also influenced by hormones, so if estrogens predominate, the tendency will be towards feminization of the brain, and on the contrary, in cases of testosterone predominance, they will be more masculine.

Then there are also those who throughout their childhood and adolescence discover that their physical appearance and their civil affiliation are not compatible with their feelings. They are transsexuals. Nor do we have tools to objectify when someone is transsexual. Only the person himself can explain it. There was no question about their sexuality until they had it themselves and expressed it. Most of the time they go through a hard process of identification.

It is clear that environmental and educational factors have a significant impact on the configuration of differences. It is essential that children are left with margins of freedom; try to limit our impact on your identity – not just sexual -. 

It is just as bad not allowing a child to play with dolls as promoting their femininity by showing interest in games considered traditionally feminine: what we are doing is putting very serious pressure on them.  Worse still is pretending that, if she expresses a love for one game or another, she is a “different” child.

Conclusion

In this blog post, we talked about Boyflux and Genderflux. We also defined gender identity and the differences between being a man and a woman. 

Boyflux is when one feels almost all the time a male, but experiences fluctuating intensities of the male identity. This can be fluid with any other identity. Boyflux is a subcategory of Genderflux, which is an umbrella that encompasses gender identities that fluctuate in terms of their intensity. When the intensity of gender identity is null, absolute gender is reached.

GenderFlux and GenderFluid are not the same. It is one thing to flow between genres and another in intensity. 

If you have any comments or questions on the subject, please let us know!

Further reading

Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality, by  Jerrold S. Greenberg

Diversity in Couple and Family Therapy: Ethnicities, Sexualities, and Socioeconomics, by Shalonda Kelly

Identities and Inequalities: Exploring the Intersections of Race, Class, Gender, & Sexuality (B&b Sociology) by David Newman 

Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type, by Paul D. Tieger 

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References

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Genderqueerid.com

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