Consulting an Anger management doctor (A complete guide)

In this guide, we will discuss how to consult a doctor for anger management.

Anger is a natural response to frustration and hurdles one faces in life. There are environmental triggers that lead to us flaring up in an uncontrollable manner. To ensure that there is a healthy outlet for this build-up anger, one can consult an anger management consultant. Anger management is a process of firstly, recognising what factors make you angry. Second, how to deal with them in a healthy and calm manner. And when we do get angry, how to ensure that we have a healthy and constructive outlet for it.

Everyone in the world from a 4 months old baby to a 97-year-old person gets angry, it is a human emotion after all. But the trouble arises when this anger gets the better of us and makes us do something we might instantly regret. This could be hurting a loved one or damaging property.

To ensure that our loved ones do not have to be at the receiving end of our wrath, it is important for us to control our anger and express it in a non-threatening way.

It is here that anger management comes in, it is the process of understanding what triggers our anger buttons, how we can stop people from pushing them and how to deal with situations calmly and in a composed manner. It teaches us not to bottle up the anger but to express appropriately and in a manner that benefits you.

Consulting a doctor about your anger

Numerous studies have been conducted in the field of anger management and have helped us create a wide array of possible techniques that can help us contain the anger and to use it as a fuel to achieve our goals. But the problem is that we do not know which technique to use or how to be able to implement it correctly in situations that make us angry.

Psychologists or anger management consultants can help us find the right management techniques that suit us and how to successfully apply them to different situations.

As different individuals react to situations differently, their techniques to handle problems is also different. Research has shown that despite these individual differences, every person is able to successfully manage their anger in a healthy and controlled manner.

Reasons to seek a consultant

Have there been times when despite your best efforts you have gotten so angry that you blasted everyone in your vicinity, damaged goods that were important to you or lost people because they got scared of you? There are multiple reasons to seek an anger management consultant. Some of them are:

·         Continuous feeling of anger and frustration with your environment.

·         Feeling agitated, irritated and on the edge at all times

·         Having persistent negative thoughts and feelings

·         Having to control your anger all day and bottling it up

·         Getting into frequent arguments between you and the people around you

·         Unable to feel calm or relaxed in most situations

·         Engagement of physical violence by you

·         Feeling constantly impatient and hostile

·         Having caused damage to property

Finding a consultant

Having control of our behavioural responses is essential in controlling our anger. You can refer to books or read articles about it on the internet. But the most helpful source would be a mental health professional who specialises in anger management. With them, you could engage in one-on-one sessions or group sessions.

You can ask your primary doctor for a referral to a counsellor or psychologist who specialises in anger management. They will be able to recommend you near your area so that it is easier for you to visit them.

A lot of national websites provide contact information of your nearby counsellors. A quick search on the internet can provide you with the required information.

You can ask your family or friends if they might know someone who is ac counsellor.

You can also check with your office or school or college if they provide counsellors who can help you deal with your anger issues.

Anger management sessions

It is okay to be apprehensive about what the sessions will be like and how the process undergoes. But worry not, the sessions happen at your pace and keeping your comfort level in mind. You can ask for a one-on-one session with your counsellor or to be in a group setting. The therapist will probably examine the factors that cause you to get angry and how you then deal with said factors. They then help you first control your anger, stay relaxed and calm during those situations and then deal with them in a constructive manner.  

The time period of each session, their frequency and the time period that you need to go to therapy are decided by you and your therapist together. Once you are able to apply the anger management techniques, the sessions start to come to an end.

Initial anger management sessions

The starting is always the toughest, once you start working with your counsellor, the first thing they will ask of you is to identify what causes you to get angry. It is important to understand what the reason for our anger is. We need to recognise and manage the reason for our anger.

The counsellor will ask us to focus and make a list of all our stressors, that is, a common trigger that causes frustration which in turn leads to anger. For example, the environment we live in, the people around us, our family, friends, co-workers, boss, etc.

Next, to describe the physical signs and symptoms we show when we are angry. These include racing of heart, clenching of fist and jaw, along with flaring of nostrils, etc.

After focusing on the physical signs, next, you need to focus on the emotional signs. What feelings you hold in when you get angry and whether you feel like yelling, screaming or hurting property or people.

During the anger management sessions

Once these factors have successfully been identified the next step for the counsellor is to help you manage your anger by identifying the triggers and keeping your physical and emotional signs in check.

During the session, you will be taught to:

·         Effectively identify situations that might cause you to get angry.

·         Managing factors like deprived sleep or hunger, so as to not aggravate your anger levels.

·         Evaluating your situations to find what you can use to calm down and process your anger. Example, finding a quiet room where you can go.

·         Learning skills to be used when angry.

·         Finding ways to express your feelings and frustrations to the other person in a non-aggressive manner.

·         Rather than focusing on the anger you feel, diverting your attention to find a problem for the frustrating situation.

·         Communicating your feelings and emotions to others rather than bottling them up inside you.

·         Ensuring that you do not let the anger build up inside you to the extent that you end up blowing up.

·         During frustrating times looking at the situation from an objective point of view rather than getting stirred up in your emotions.

Other than these, some of the general factors that help in controlling anger are advised by the counsellor to be implemented by us in our daily lifestyle. These include exercising regularly, this could include rigorously exercising or doing yoga to calm one’s mind and releasing all the tension. Avoiding drinking too much alcohol or other drugs, as they lead to us loosening our inhibitions and act upon on emotions without thinking.

Building a strong social support system who you can reach out to in situations that anger and frustrate you. They will be able to provide you with a different perspective and help you work through your problem without leaving you with the feeling that you are alone in it.

Another thing that helps is listening to what the other person is trying to say and not just by paying attention to their words but also their body languages. Sometimes the person is actually emotionally hurt and is feels ignored. It is then that they react aggressively. We need to understand their point of view and offer help. Building strong relations requires effective communication.

There is no need to only assert your point of view by being angry and screaming. Calmly presenting your point to the other person is more likely to help you be heard and respected in your surroundings.

After the anger management session end

Once the anger management sessions end you need to ensure that you remember what you learnt in them and apply them throughout your life. Once you are able to apply your learning to a practical setting, you’ll see how happier and relaxed you feel. How less stressed and bitter the world seems and how easy life can be. Once the tension from the mind and body eases out, you will feel energised and positive.

You will now be able to develop effective communication between yourself and others. You would know how to express yourselves in a calm and composed manner so that the other person is able to understand and respond in a similar manner, without things getting heated up.

Anger leads to a lot of stress which can be extremely bad for your physical health. Once you are able to control your anger, physical problems like headaches, disturbed sleeping patterns, heart problems and high blood pressure, either disappear or are bought under control.

You will be able to use your anger and frustration to fuel you and motivate you to work harder rather than being a hurdle in your way.

This guide focuses on providing knowledge on how to consult a doctor for anger management and the process involved in it.

FAQs: Anger management doctor

What type of doctor treats anger issues?

Trained mental health professionals like psychologist, counsellors and psychiatrist with a specialisation in anger management will be the best type of doctors to help you. They offer one-on-one counselling as well as group counselling.

When should you see a doctor for anger issues?

See a doctor when you have persistent feelings of anger. When you feel like your anger is getting out of your control and is causing a disturbance in your daily lifestyle. The point in time when it starts to cause you pain, like losing a loved one or facing additional difficulties because of it.

How do I seek help for anger management?

When you believe that your anger is getting out of control and causing a problem in your life, you can seek help for anger management. You can ask your primary doctor for help or find a licensed psychologist, counsellor or psychiatrist who specialises in anger management on the internet.

Do I need therapy for anger management?

If you feel that you can no longer control your anger outburst, then yes probably. Experienced psychologists or counsellor mostly provide counselling for anger management that help you deal with your anger and channel it in a productive manner. But if other problems like depression and anxiety as also present, therapy might be required.

Can anger issues be treated?

Anger is a human emotion so it cannot be cured, but we can learn to handle our anger better with the help of psychologists and counsellors. We can manage our anger with the help of behavioural techniques so that it is no longer problematic for us.

References

https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/anger-management/about/pac-20385186

https://www.apa.org/topics/understanding-anger

https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/anger-management#1-1

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