Am I Selfish? (Quiz)

You can answer the question if you are selfish or not by checking out the signs below. There might also be some things that your parents did to you which can allow you to have this trait.

You might not even notice that you have done selfish deeds against someone. There are some subtle signs that experts have found to be selfish.

The following are some signs whether subtle or obvious that one is being selfish:

They are unaware of the imbalance in a relationship whether a friendship or a romantic relationship

Any relationship that is considered healthy should be in a perfect balance. This can only occur when the partners each contribute something for the welfare of the relationship.

For instance, each partner has to give moral support for the other partner which can make him or her make the relationship feel complete. However, one partner might not give moral support as the other partner did which can manifest selfishness in the relationship.

They baptize their children with weird names due to the trend of it or other selfish reasons

Some parents would force children into names that they might not directly want. This can occur when parents don’t seek out the subtle signs from the child that he or she liked the name or not.

This is selfish since these parents are only wanting their children to have names that are good for them such as trendy names and pretty names which make them believe that they can make their child pretty by giving them a pretty name. This is not really a good thing to do for children since they can have an independent life ahead.

They are nagged at an early age or at the present time

Nagging can imply that the person does not take into account the other person’s needs. This behaviour can range from not being able to tidy up or being forgetful about duties. 

This can also imply that the partner who is nagging has some unresolved obsession and can become manic through nagging if not responded in a healthy way.

They do not bother to give negative feedback to the person that they are giving criticism with

There are some people who would keep giving negative feedback to the other person or just not give them any criticism at all. This can be a nice thing to do but the truth is you are not helping the other person improve. 

Being nice all the time is what can bring people to popularity faster. However, this can only bring itself back to reality and hurt you in the long run.

They are control freaks in everything they do

Selfish people are control freaks where they are fond of delegating tasks to other people where initiative and creativity is destroyed. These people are also perfectionists since they like to gain control over the situation.

They even like to manage friends so that they can do all the work instead of going through all the work.

They are manipulative to other people

This is similar to the fact that they are controlling people. These people are afraid of losing control over the situation since it makes them feel uncomfortable when they lose control over people.

They like to put their puppet strings stable on the people they are controlling.

They think they are the only people on the planet

These people don’t care that other people are within their smoke range. These people don’t bother trying to open the door for the person next to them which can bother a lot of people.

These people tend to not care about other people’s feelings because these people are more concerned about themselves than others even though a perfect balance is in order.

People who think this way feel as if they’re attention seekers too. But they don’t know exactly why are they so attention seeking?

They never clean their dog’s mess in their lives

In some countries, it is one’s duty to clean up a dog’s mess. You can see a selfish person when he or she is not doing his or her civil duty to clean up their dog’s mess.

They hate teamwork in life

These people don’t like to share ideas or brainstorm ideas with other people. They like working on their own and not with other people.

They would rather do things on their own since they know they are better than most people. This only verifies that they are selfish since they believe other people are no use for them.

They rarely collaborate with other people

This is similar to the teamwork trait. These people don’t like other people sharing their ideas in the group since they know that they are better at having ideas than others.

They would rather have their ideas out there without any help from other people in the group.

You can also try the Am i annoying quiz.

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Am I Selfish? Test

This test will answer the question if you are selfish or not. You might be wondering if you have this characteristic since you have heard others telling you that you are selfish even though you truly believe you are a good person.

Instructions: The following questions will imply if you are selfish or not. Please read the questions carefully and choose the choice that applies to you. Please answer the questions honestly to get an accurate result.

You can also try the Am i emotionally unavailable quiz or Am i manipulative quiz.

Do you listen to your friend when he or she is venting out to you about a current problem?

  • Yes – 0
  • No – 1

Do you only befriend people who will be useful to you in the future?

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Would you share your large food such as a cake to others?

  • Yes – 0
  • No – 1

Do you eat the last food on the table without asking anyone if they still want one?

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Do you have a lot of friends?

  • Yes – 0
  • No – 1

Would you give up your plane seat for a family who wants to stick together during the flight?

  • Yes – 0
  • No – 1

Do you feel good when you can help people who are less fortunate than you?

  • Yes – 0
  • No – 1

If you win a million dollars, would you only keep it to yourself?

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Do you go on dates with your beloved?

  • Yes – 0
  • No – 1

Do you spend a lot of time with your family?

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Total scoring criteria:

6 – 10 points – selfish

4 – 5 points – somewhat selfish

0 – 3 points – not selfish

What we recommend for Relationship & LGBTQ issues

Relationship counselling

  • If you are having relationship issues or maybe you are in an abusive relationship then relationship counselling could be your first point of call. Relationship counselling could be undertaken by just you, it does not require more than one person.

LGBTQ issues

If you are dealing with LGBTQ issues then LGBTQ counselling may be a great option for you. Maybe you are confused as to your role and identity or simply need someone to speak to. LGBTQ counsellors are specially trained to assist you in this regard.

Citations

Lifehack. 10 Signs You’re Actually Very Selfish Though You Haven’t Noticed It.

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