Am I losing the battle with depression? (+5 tips)


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Page last updated: 10/11/2022

This article will discuss why some people might feel like they are losing the battle with depression. For that, the article will explain what depression is, its types, and how it may affect a person’s life. 

Aside from that, the article discussed what can be done to cope, when battling with depression, and what types of treatment can help deal with severe depression.

What is depression?

Depression is a mental illness that affects 5% of the world’s population. It is a condition that causes the person to experience an intense sense of sadness, with the loss of purpose in their lives, lack of energy, lower self-esteem, and a decreased sense of self-worth.

Everyone can go through depression, but some things can increase the chance of a person becoming depressed. A person, who has gone through a depressive episode before, tends to have a greater chance to experience another one, as well as having a family history of depressive episodes.

Not only that, a person going through a traumatic experience, like the loss of a loved one, or a divorce, can have a higher chance of getting depressed, as well as a person with a chemical imbalance in their brain.

A person is considered depressed when they show their symptoms persistently and intensely for longer than two weeks. And although not every person will feel it the same way, neither will they go through the same symptoms, the most common symptoms of depression are:

  • Change in eating pattern
  • Change in sleeping pattern
  • Lack of ability to focus
  • Loss of energy
  • Loss of hope
  • Lack of interest even in activities the person used to love
  • Excessive crying or inability to cry even when they feel like it
  • Guilt
  • Irritability
  • Isolation
  • Self-harm
  • Thought of death or suicidal thoughts.

Depression can present itself in different intensities and its duration may vary depending on the type of depression. Let’s understand what types of depression there are.

What are the types of depression?

Depressive disorder can be of 3 types. It can be a mild, moderate, or major depressive episode. Each of them is different in the intensity of its symptoms and how long they can last.

Let’s understand each of them.

Am I losing the battle with depression? (+5 tips)

Mild depression 

Mild depression is more than just temporary blues. It can last for more than a couple of days, and it is enough to notice its impact on a person’s life. Its symptoms are the common symptoms of depression, and although a person notices they are depressed, because of the intensity of its symptoms, it might be hard to diagnose.

But it is, usually, one the easiest ones to treat, and sometimes just even some change in a person’s daily life, like exercising, eating better, and adjusting your sleep schedule can help. Aside from that, therapy and antidepressants can also be used to treat it.

Moderate depression

Regarding the intensity of the symptoms, moderate depression is one step up from mild depression. And this type can have a greater impact on the person’s self-esteem and self-worth, and it will also impact the person’s productivity more intensely.

It can also have a greater impact on your social life. But it might also be easier to diagnose, and therapy and antidepressants can be used as treatment as well.

Major depression 

If a person has major depression, all the symptoms of mild and moderate depression are present but they are even more intense and noticeable even to people close. They also usually last longer than mild and moderate depression, and it goes on for 6 months and sometimes even longer.

In major depression, the person can also have delusional events, hallucinations, and might even suicidal thoughts or planning. This type of depression needs constant therapy and medication treatment.

Persistent depression

The persistent depression can last for two years or longer. The intensity of its symptoms can vary. Sometimes it might show itself as major depression and in others as moderate depression, because of that, it is also recommended, to treat it, that a person goes to therapy, and even have medication.

What can I do if I think I’m losing my battle with depression? 

When a person feels like they are losing the battle against depression it might mean that they are dealing with a moderate, major, or persistent depressive episode. Since those types tend to have more intense symptoms and usually last longer, they can cause the person to feel like this is a battle they won’t be able to win.

People that deal with depression usually tell that, even though they were already depressed, at some point, they felt like their symptoms started to feel more and more intense, and even though they were in treatment, it seemed like it would never get better.

This feeling might cause a person to think of giving up on trying, and sometimes even in life. At this point, people might start considering suicide, and it is important for people close to them to be aware, try to keep an open and honest line of communication. 

And if, until this point, the person still hasn’t started treatment, suggesting them to look for it, and sometimes even helping on the search, can be a lot.

Having a supportive network and a therapist you can talk to, and not feel so alone, will help you understand what is going on, and also legitimate why sometimes even getting out of bed seems impossible, and what are ways to cope with this.

When dealing with this persistent sadness depression brings, it is important to not trust all your thoughts. When depressed, they tend to be overly negative, so if you can put your thoughts in question, just a little, might be a way out of this.

Another thing to remember is that going through this doesn’t define who you will be for the rest of your life. This is a moment, a difficult one, but the same way you weren’t born with this, it will not be with you forever. Thinking about this can put things in another perspective.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ): What can I do if I feel I’m losing my battle with depression?

Am I weak if I get depressed?

It is important to not blame yourself for getting depressed. It is something that can happen to anyone, no one would choose to feel like that. People of all ages and different backgrounds can all get depressed. The important thing is to deal with what is going on with you. 

Look for help as fast as you can, surround yourself with a good support network, and try to find strategies to cope with it. It can be by working out, doing some breathing exercises, or meditating, but it is important to try and find ways to take care of yourself when depressed.

What can happen if I’m depressed and don’t look for treatment?

If a person is depressed and doesn’t look for treatment, it can be that their condition gets worse with time. Your symptoms might become more intense, and a small change in sleeping pattern can turn into big insomnia or someone sleeping all day.

It can go to a point that intensely impairs your life. Causing you to not be as productive at your job or studies, causing unemployment. It will also make you isolate yourself from friends and family. It can lead to suicidal thoughts, possible suicidal attempts, maybe substance abuse, and poor quality of life.

Does depression have a cure?

It is impossible to say that depression has a cure. Depression, along with other mental illnesses, is most treatable. People get on remission from depression, meaning they get better, the symptoms might even not be present anymore, but it is impossible to say a person will never experience depression again.

How can I help someone that doesn’t want help?

When a person is dealing with depression, sometimes it might be hard for them to look for help. This can happen because the person feels that the suffering they are going through is more known than what they feel might come out of treatment.

But for a family member or friend it can be somewhat frustrating to notice they are not open to treatment, it might even feel like they are not open to getting better. When that is the case, try to understand that they are doing the best they can. Validate their emotions, let them know you are not judging them.

Asking them questions will also let them know you are genuinely interested, and it can also help you understand better what is behind them not wanting treatment. In this conversation, it is important to hold your urges and not try to fix everything, wanting to look for treatment is something that needs to come from them.

But be open to giving them possibilities. Inform yourself, and find treatments that may help them. By bringing this to them you will value their autonomy, as well as showing you care and how open you are to go through this with them.

While helping someone that is dealing with depression it is also extremely important to look for your support network. This process is frustrating and intense, so permit yourself to take some time off once in a while, and if it gets too hard, look for your treatment.

How can I know if my friend has given up fighting depression?

When your friend has given up fighting depression they might show you how tired of this process they are. Along with that, they may start to show signs that they are considering giving up on everything, including life.

You can notice that if they start to show curiosity about death, pay too much attention to news about it, as well as violent events. They can start to show curiosity about suicide, and what happens to people after death.

They might start giving their things away, this will show you that they don’t plan to be alive for long. Along with that, their sleeping and eating patterns, which had already changed since they got depressed, will become even more different.

They may also seem more agitated and irritable. If you notice any of those signs, it might be time to get in touch with the professional that is taking care of them and to not leave them alone at home.


This article explained what depression is, its types and how each of them can impact the person’s life, and what kind of impairment it can bring.

It also discussed why people can, sometimes, feel like they are losing the battle with depression, what are ways to cope with it and what treatments a person can search to help them through it.

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