Am I Asexual? (quiz)
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The following are some facts that you should consider if you want to answer the question of you being asexual:
Fact #1: There are different types of asexuality.
This sexual orientation is more of a general term to various types of other sexual orientations. Some people with this sexual orientation would not have sexual drives.
Other people are prone to sexual urges but they would rather act on these by themselves. Some would engage in sexual relationships when they have engaged in romantic bonds with the romantic partner.
Fact #2: Asexuality is not the same as celibacy as most people would think.
Celibacy is more of a behaviour than a sexual orientation which is the asexuality. Some people who identify with this sexual orientation can choose to engage in celibacy or act on their sexual urges.
Fact #3: Being asexual doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings unlike contrary belief.
Most people would describe asexual people to not have any interest in sex. These people are just more likely to engage in sex when they are romantically involved.
After all, these people are more diverse than most people with other sexual orientations.
Fact #4: Asexuality isn’t triggered by trauma.
There aren’t studies that have proven that this sexual orientation was triggered by trauma. Studies have shown that there isn’t any causal link since some people with other sexual orientations can have traumatic experiences like these people with this sexual orientation.
Fact #5: Asexuality isn’t a medical disorder.
There is this assumption since having no sexual desire can be an effect from a medical disorder. Although most people with this sexual orientation don’t have medical disorders that have been reported to minimize sexual urges and some of these people are not always having the loss of sexual urges.
Fact #6: Asexual people might still choose to have sex when they need to.
A person with this sexual orientation can still choose not to have sex. This doesn’t mean that they are already abnormal in their book since most of these people can still be intimate with their partners.
Fact #7: You’re the only one who gets to choose if you want to identify as asexual as a sexual orientation for you.
You might feel like the descriptions above describe and it is alright for you to identify as this sexual orientation. You can also decide to not label yourself if you choose that route to minimize the confusion and prejudice associated with labelling.
Am I Asexual? Test
This test will be answering the question if you have the sexual preference of not being with another person or other kinds of people for that matter. You might find yourself that you don’t feel sexually attracted to anyone regardless of sexuality.
You should also try the Am I transgender quiz? or Am i bisexual quiz if you doubt you are one.
The following are questions that can give you an insight if you have this sexual preference in life:
Don’t you have any crushes in life?
- Yes – 0
- No – 1
Have people ever commented some reassurance to you that you need to have sex such as “Maybe you’ll like it once you’ve tried it”?
- Yes – 1
- No – 0
Do you avoid watching sexualized content?
- Yes – 1
- No – 0
Do you find yourself free from sexual fantasies?
- Yes – 1
- No – 0
Do you find sexual situations in different kinds of media such as books or TV exciting?
- Yes – 0
- No – 1
Have you engaged in masturbation whether once or more?
- Yes – 0
- No – 1
Do you get excited when exposed with sexual situations whether you are fantasizing about it or being flirted by the preferred sex?
- Yes – 0
- No – 1
Do you believe that you should engage in friendship first before a relationship almost all the time?
- Yes – 1
- No – 0
Do you feel attracted to people who are considered attractive?
- Yes – 0
- No – 1
Would you consider celibacy or absence or less sex?
- Yes – 1
- No – 0
Total score criteria:
6-10 points – asexual
4-5 points – sometimes asexual, sometimes other sexual orientation
0-3 points – not asexual
Citations
Bustle. Am I Asexual? 7 Facts You Should Know About This Commonly Misunderstood Orientation.