Am I Annoying? (Quiz)

Am I annoying is a question that most people have questioned throughout their lives since they are concerned if they have bothered people along the way. The truth of this matter is that no matter how we think we are good people, we still have our ways of bothering people with or without us noticing.

We might have bothered people even if we think we have done these actions through good intentions. Most people won’t call us out if we have done something to bother them which is important that we’ll be the only ones finding out about this. 

You can find out if you have been a bother to someone by checking some of the following points if it applies to you and maybe even get more validation by checking out the test below.

After giving the test below, you can also try the Am i being used quiz.

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Friends have stopped calling, emailing, or texting you back as you always found typical among them.



There is the occasional phone call which might not worry you in the first. There might be that unresponded email which can occur once or twice. 

But knowing that you haven’t had any form of personal communication with friends that may have stopped after a month and has been happening for a few months from now is a worrying situation for you.



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They’re preventing your personal space more than typical.


Of course, we don’t like a lot of people near us all the time. However, the person who you would consider someone as close is trying to avoid being near you at all costs.

The more you get closer to them, the more likely they will leave which is their indirect method of saying to you to back off.


Nobody argues with you. Ever. Even if you try to get them going


You should remember that you only fight with people you are truly close to. You need to know that people argue with since they have something that you care about and they care about you too.

If someone won’t even bother arguing with you, it means that they are done with you.


They sigh. Almost all the time.

A sigh can indicate that the person near you is bored with you. This would indicate who you are as a person and it is considered annoying if you keep hearing this person sigh all the time.


You’re never in any group photo on social media by your loved ones or acquaintances.

Of course, you already know that being in social media is just a facade made to look better. It is still considered a bad sign if you are not seen in various pictures with your friends in social media.


They don’t “hear” you even if you were loud enough.

Some people are just not listeners and this can piss you off, especially if you have always been the listener to them. This might be a sign that they don’t like what they are hearing from you.

You should just ignore them if they try to talk to you again.


You go in for the hug, they go for the handshake in a social interaction.

You might be familiar with the fact that human contact can arouse oxytocin which is an affectionate hormone. The lack of contact can confuse and frustrate other people which is why it’s annoying that some people are not accepting the hug and substituting it with a handshake.


You hear about parties after the fact in the midst of the week.

You might find it surprising that you might be facing situations where you only hear a party after it happened. You might have been responded by the host that you were invited but it seems like this excuse has been going on for a week after the party which means there must have been something that you have done.



They avoid eye contact in front of people.

Eye contact is very crucial in a social interaction since it is a body language that can indicate that you are listening to another person. However, it is very annoying when the person we are talking doesn’t keep eye contact which can indicate his or her attention is somewhere else instead of our important conversation.


They cross their arms whenever you’re talking in a social interaction.

Crossing one’s arms might indicate that the person is hiding something which can elicit defensiveness in the conversation. This can be annoying when you want to open up with the person but they won’t return the favour back.


They reanswer a phone call while you’re in the middle of a sentence in your conversation.

You will naturally get annoyed when the person is more focused on talking to the phone than your important conversation.


You don’t get any of the inside jokes in a conversation.

Friends are always fond of making inside jokes in the midst of a conversation. However, you might be that one person who doesn’t get the conversation which can indicate you are not wanted in the conversation.


They don’t ask you personal questions in a conversation.

Most people are fond of talking about themselves all the time. However, it will be a huge bother to you if you were never given the chance to do this line in the conversation which can frustrate you a lot.


They have emotionless responses in a conversation.

You won’t have a proper conversation if you find out that the person you are talking to is only giving robotic responses which makes you wonder if you are really talking to a real human being.


They look at other people when you’re talking in the midst of a conversation.

This point is the same as the point made by the lack of eye contact and will make you think that the other person is more interested in talking to the person he or she is staring at than you are which can bother you a lot.


They talk over you in a conversation.

You will get effortlessly bothered when someone is trying to share some gossip about you and they share this with their loud voice which is enough to make you feel stupid for this behaviour


They smile at you like they’re waiting to get medical test results in a conversation.

This smile can indicate that the other person would rather go to another place than this conversation that you are trying to get on with the person.

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Am I Annoying? Test

You might feel that you are incredibly bothersome to other people and you might not notice it that your annoying characteristic is getting to their nerves. You might feel that you are annoying to people who you consider as your loved ones. 

You might feel the need to change your behaviour if you find yourself that you are annoying. The following are questions that can tell if you really are annoying to other people:

Do you engage in showing embarrassing body sounds such as farting and coughing in the presence of other people?

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Do you almost always interrupt other people’s conversations such as with your friends?

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Do your friends mind if you were talking too much to them?

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Have you ever been thrown out from a public place such as a theatre because you were talking too much while watching a movie?

  • Yes – 1 
  • No – 0

Do you try to control your volume of voice when you are talking to friends to not bother them too much?

  • Yes – 0
  • No – 1

Do you gossip in a loud volume that you can observe other people nearby casting glares at you?

  • Yes – 1 
  • No – 0

Do you have people who try to avoid you at all times when you were trying to talk to them? 

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Are you the type of person who doesn’t start a loud and unnecessary argument with anyone in public (e.g. disagreeing about a rumour that someone shared online about another person that you know about)?

  • Yes – 0
  • No – 1

Did you ever experience being punched by someone without any awareness that you might have done something to the person?

  • Yes – 1 
  • No – 0

Do you believe that you shouldn’t practice manners and rules in public because they’re a burden to you?

  • Yes – 1
  • No – 0

Total Score:

6 – 10 points – annoying

4 – 5 points –  sometimes annoying

0 – 3 points – not annoying

Citations

BestLife. 17 Silent Signs You Rub People the Wrong Way and Don’t Know It.

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Daniela Paez is a Clinical Psychologist with an MSc. In Clinical Neuropsychology from Bangor University. She has vast experience in working with children with disabilities, adolescents and their families, in extreme conditions of poverty and vulnerability. Additionally, she owns a private practice where she provides neuropsychological evaluation for children and adults, and treatment for mood disorders, anxiety, couple therapy, among other conditions.