Affirmations for toxic parents (35+)

Affirmations for toxic parents

• All human beings make mistakes. What matters is that I learn from mine.
• Any guilt I feel regarding my toxic mother was planted, watered and tended by my mother.
• Any mother who could be cruel to a child is not going to apologize to that child when they’ve grown up.
• Asking for help is a sign of strength.
• Family secrets instill guilt and shame. Are you being paid to keep family secrets? It’s not my job to keep family secrets.
• Feelings are never right or wrong. They just are.
• Honor thy mother and father? I can choose to honor them by respecting myself first.
• I am a likable and lovable person.
• I am a valid human being with feelings and needs.
• I am angry at my parents for a reason. They failed me in a very important way.
• I am open to considering that my toxic mother may have been treated even more badly as a child than I was.
• I am proud to be a deeply feeling person.
• I am the only person responsible for getting my own needs met.
• I am worth getting to know.
• I can laugh or I can cry. I will laugh. It’ll annoy the hell out of my toxic mother.
• I can spend time with my emotionally neglectful parents. My boundaries will protect me.
• I can tell my toxic mother that as I’ve grown into a woman (or man) I’ve developed a better understanding of the choices she made.
• I deserve to be cared for.
• I did not choose to grow up emotionally neglected.
• I dont have to be validated by my parents. I validate myself.
• I know that a toxic mother is an unnatural disaster.
• I know there is no dishonor in retreat. I know that refusing to join in battle is a small victory when it comes to toxic mothers.
• I will amuse myself to avoid getting sucked into her games. I will keep an egg timer, a pad, and paper by the phone. I will tally the lies, the guilt trips and the demands she can make in 3 minutes. Then I will hang up.
• I will give my toxic mother the one gift she never gave me: the truth.
• I will never fight crazy with crazy. Crazy is my toxic mother’s “hood.
• I will never hand my toxic “mom bomb” the match.
• I will not let my toxic mother rob me of rich friendships with women who on the surface remind me of her.
• I will participate in mother-daughter time only if it’s positive.
• I will stare down my toxic mom fears until they fear me more.
• I will take everything negative about my mother and flip it in my life: I will create a welcoming and warm home life; I will express love and encourage others daily; I will extend myself to those in need and I will remember: a life well-lived is the best revenge.
• If I hear my mother’s voice in my head belittling me, I will tell her out loud that she’s wrong. It’s okay.
• If my parents are not able to see me, I will see myself.
• If my toxic mother were a co-worker or neighbor and I moved away, I’d never visit her again.
• It is not selfish, but responsible, to put my own needs first.
• Its my responsibility to give myself what my parents couldnt give me. And I will.
• Keeping my children away from my toxic mother is a no-brainer. I choose to introduce them to kind, responsible elders instead.
• My feelings are important messages from my body.
• My feelings matter.
• My parents are not capable of seeing or knowing the real me.
• My parents could not give me what they did not have.
• My toxic mother can only intimidate me if I let her. While she’s busy trying to bully the child me, the adult me can reject her, ignore her, correct her, or report her to authorities.
• My toxic mother does not live in my head. She lives in her head.
• My toxic mother won’t kill me. If she could, she would have already.
• My wants and needs are just as important as anyone elses.
• No, don’t count on my being there.
• No, I choose not to accept the stress.
• No, I have more positive things to do.
• No, I won’t be doing that.
• No, I’m done subjecting myself to your drama.
• On Mother’s Day and other family holidays, I will focus on the positive women (and men) in my life. I will thank them for their caring, kindness and encouragement.
• Remember what my dad said: nobody can resist a joyous woman. I chose to remain joyous in spite of my mother.
• That which is most personal is most universal. I know people will understand if I simply say, “My mother is not a nice person, but I am.”
• The cruel rule of RSVP is that the one person you hope will decline always comes. I promise to never actually extend an invitation to an event at which I’d hate to see my toxic mother.
• When relatives and friends say they can’t understand how I can treat my mother the way I do, I’ll consider telling them the truth.
• Whose little girl am I? I can be my own little girl. I can care for and nurture her myself.