9w1 anger (why it happens)
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In this blog post, we talk about the 9w1 anger issues, about the 9w1 coping with stress and what is their childhood behavioural model and how this affects their adult life.
The source of the 9w1 anger and pain
The 9w1 anger has many reasons, not all very obvious.
Subconsciously, they are angry because they do not have enough “space” to live a life of their own.
They are so busy adapting to those around them and maintaining harmony in their relationships that they gradually accumulate far too much resentment.
They are also angry because, from their point of view, others always upset them with something, pulling them to act when they want to be left alone, or reminding them of problems and difficulties when they try so hard. much to avoid them.
Another reason for their anger is that they feel trampled on, they feel that others have taken advantage of them and they could not do anything about it.
At a lower, pathological level, they tend to become “mats” and passively bear everything thrown around them.
They get stuck, freeze in situations where their instinctive self-defence responses are needed.
They feel that they are not able to protect themselves properly, to support their point of view or to act in time to advance their own interests.
This feeling of powerlessness is the most significant cause of repressed anger.
We always perceive anger as something negative. But it also has a positive side, a much less understood side: its ability to remove the inner blockages that hold us captive in our own minds and souls; the ability to put one’s foot in the door, to draw boundaries and to defend our point of view.
Much of the recovery work for 9w1s means being aware of the low level of energy and bringing anger to the surface.
9w1 anger integration
You have to accept the idea that anger is not a bad thing and start seeing it as a force to which you have every right.
Spiritually, anger gives us the strength to say “no” – to protect ourselves from something we don’t want to be a part of.
Therefore, it would be very helpful to start saying no to the things you don’t want. If you feel guilty or fearful after doing this, just notice these reactions and stay calm and focused.
Be careful, however, to say “no” only in situations where this is the case. If you make a mistake, it’s better to make a “too many NO” mistake, at least for a while, until you get used to it.
9w1 stress reaction
The 9w1 subtype chooses to cope with stress by minimizing his own desires and choices and retreating to the inner sanctuary.
When these methods are no longer enough to solve anxieties, type Nine takes on strong influences from type Six, investing energy and effort in activities or relationships that they believe would bring them more peace and stability in life.
When worries and anxieties come to the surface, the 9w1 person focuses on work, projects and any other activities.
At the same time, they become increasingly refractory in their relationships with others, increasingly passive-aggressive and defensive.
Cracks appear in their positive philosophies of life and the doubts and pessimism with which they defend themselves fiercely begin to be seen.
Like type Six, in a state of stress, they bring to the surface complaints and grievances that have long been hidden and set aside about others and their lives in general.
Although these discharges temporarily relieve their stress, the benefits are very short-lived, because they still avoid recognizing the roots of their unhappiness. In situations of extreme stress, a siege mentality can develop.
Paranoid suspicions can quickly degenerate into blaming others for their own problems and defiant reactions.
The uncontrolled outbursts of anger can be as surprising to those of the Nine type as they are to those who observe them from the outside.
9w1 behavioral model learner in childhood
The model of childhood that is described here does not determine the typology. Instead, it describes the trends observable in early childhood, which have a strong impact on adult relationships.
As a child, the young 9w1 learned to cope by dissociating themselves from threatening or traumatic events around them, taking on the role of Peacemaker or Mediator in family conflicts.
They learned that the best way to maintain harmony in the family is to “disappear” and not bother anyone.
They have learned that if they don’t ask for anything and don’t have too many expectations – in short, if they are easy-going children – they can protect themselves, thus calming both moms and dads (In a dysfunctional family system, the term that applies to this case is “lost child”).
Their feeling is that “If they show up and tell me their opinion, I will create even more problems, so if I go unnoticed and don’t bother anyone, the family will stay together.”
More about 9w1 – The dreamer
Examples of personalities: Abraham Lincoln, Queen Elizabeth II, Cari Jung, George Lucas, Audrey Hepburn, Lady Margot Fonteyn, Rose Kennedy, Walt Disney, Garrison Keillor, Noonan Rockwell.
Healthy subtype: People in this subtype are imaginative and creative, often able to synthesize multiple schools of thought or multiple points of view into a single vision of an ideal world.
They are very good at nonverbal forms of communication (art, musical instruments, dance, sports, working with animals or nature) and can thrive in large companies and institutions.
They are typically friendly and reconciling, but with a very keen sense of purpose, especially when it comes to their own ideas. Good as therapists.
counsellors or priests, balance their traits of good listeners, free from prejudice, with the desire to help others.
Medium subtype: They want to order outside, so they can have order inside. They tend to get involved in non-essential, unimportant activities and businesses.
They can be energetic, but in a detached and uninvolved way, which interferes with their ability to pursue long-term goals or to co-opt others in achieving them.
They are more reserved and less adventurous than those in the Nine-Wing Eight subtype and express their anger with great restraint and indignation.
They are also concerned about their respectability and image in society and, in many cases, feel morally superior to other classes, cultures or lifestyles.
It happens to have a puritanical side, as well as a perfectionist, orderly and typical side.
9w1 and the instinct of self-preservation
The comfort seeker. Among the middle-class people, this variant includes pleasant, calm ones, who do not ask much from life.
He prefers simple pleasures, which are always at hand – meals at the nearest fast food restaurant, watching replays of your favourite TV shows or relaxing in a comfortable chair.
They are usually not ambitious, although they may be very talented.
They face anxiety, hide in work – routines and activities just to do something – and prefer to do minor activities, not get involved in big projects.
They become more and more attracted to small rewards, as compensation for not being able to have real ideals – but they always keep background anxiety, that of not actually satisfying their real needs.
The inertia of the Nine types is most clearly seen in this instinctual variant.
Apathy and indifference to oneself can lead to difficulties in mobilizing to get what they really want or to fulfil their real needs for self-preservation.
They increasingly use food and drink to suppress their feelings of anger and anxiety and are often foodies with a predisposition to addiction.
They do not want their pleasant states to be disturbed by others and often resist through passivity, remain silent, stubborn.
At the lower, unhealthy level, they fall into a deep apathy about their lives and can become sluggish, erased and unproductive.
They end up being “chronic couch vegetables”, emotionally closed and slowly wasting their health, relationships and possibilities. Addictions are common.
Conclusions
In this blog post, we talked about the 9w1 anger issues, about the 9w1 coping with stress and what is their childhood behavioural model and how this affects their adult life.
9w1s have to accept the idea that anger is not a bad thing and start seeing it as a force to which they have every right.
Spiritually, anger gives us the strength to say “no” – to protect ourselves from something we don’t want to be a part of.
If you’ve enjoyed the ”9w1 anger” mentioned above, I would recommend you to take a look at ”The 9w1 ENFJ” too.
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Further reading
The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth, by Christopher L. Heuertz
References
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types, by Don Richard Riso
Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery, by Don Richard Riso, Russ Hudson
Understanding the Enneagram: The Practical Guide to Personality Types, by Don Richard Riso, Russ Hudson
Enneagrampaths.com