9 Signs You Have a Crush on Someone
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Have you ever felt intensely attracted to someone you know? Maybe they’re someone who you’re not sure if you should pursue. So, in order to maintain boundaries, you don’t openly let them know you like them. In situations like these, the attraction can become a brief but intense infatuation for that person.
Crushes generally happen on unattainable figures like people from a different age group, celebrities, authority figures etc. But not necessarily. You can have a crush on absolutely anyone, like your next door neighbour or someone you meet at the grocery store.
If you’re new to all of this, it’s likely that you’re not sure of what’s happening. When we develop a crush, it tends to consume all other parts of our life. Everything feels different and your priorities change. It can be a confusing time if you’re not fully aware of the crush existing.
In this video, we’re going to talk about nine signs you have a crush on someone. Recognising it can help you understand things better so you can manage your feelings as they keep changing.
We want our viewers to know that it’s okay to have a crush on someone. Nevertheless, we should try not to let our feelings get out of hand where we end up hurting others.
Now, let’s begin.
One
You keep thinking about them.
Do you often catch yourself thinking about this person, about what they said or did? When you have a crush on someone, you’ll find that your mind brings them up in the most random conversations. It can also get to the point where you can’t get your mind off them.
Two
You hope to see them.
Has it ever happened that you saw someone who looks similar to the person you like, and you mistook them for your crush? If so, you probably know what it’s like to long for them. A crush makes you want to see them more often than anyone else. You like having them around and try to make it happen.
Three
You blush when someone is talking about them.
If your hearthrob becomes the topic of conversation, you might feel a little flushed. The speaker could be sitting across the room but it’s almost like your ears prop up out of interest. You immediately become curious to know what they’re saying and if someone notices it, your cheeks might just turn red.
Four
You get butterflies when they’re near you.
Do you feel a little nervous or overwhelmed when you’re standing in front of them? Perhaps because you’re worried about getting them to like you. It’s not uncommon for someone to want to be around their crush and yet not know how to.
The excitement tends to make you act differently from your relaxed self. For example, you might go totally quiet, blabber, or do something embarrassing.
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Five
You frequently visit their online profiles.
It’s typical to spend a large portion of your free time on social media platforms trying to learn more about your crush. In the digital age, it’s pretty common to “cyber stalk”.
The anonymity of the internet makes watching someone’s activity online less creepy. But only a little. No one really likes being watched by any one person that often unless they’ve mutually established relevant boundaries.
Six
You find excuses to talk to them.
Having a crush is like being drawn to someone. If you like someone like that, you’ll come up with all sorts of reasons to show up near them. The intention is to get another chance to see them and maybe even talk to them.
Seven
You can’t help but smile if they’re on your mind.
Smiling and giggling while thinking about your crush is usual so you don’t be surprised if you’re doing it. The thought of them brings joy to you and sometimes, amusement too. It’s rare to feel that way about someone unless you really like them.
Eight
You fantasise about spending time with them.
When they’re not anywhere to be seen, you start daydreaming about being with them. The movies makes this look dramatic and romantic but it could also be something quite basic. You might simply be imagining that you’re close enough to see them smile, talk, or concentrate.
Nine
You go out of your way to be nice to them.
Do you try to do special favours for this person? Favours that you wouldn’t normally do for someone else? If you’re putting in that much effort to make someone smile or feel better, you obviously care about them. It’s definitely a crush if you outdo yourself trying to get them to appreciate you.
Were you able to relate to the situations we described? Do you think you might have a crush on someone? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.
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