7 Habits That Make People Hate You
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Hey Optimist Minds!
Have you given some thought to which of your behaviours make people dislike you?
While you can’t please everyone all the time, it’s still possible to reflect on why people are displeased. Sometimes, the reason has less to do with you and more with the person biased against you. Nevertheless, it’s important to recognise when your own personality is causing the antagonism.
Moreover, thinking about how to improve your interactions with other people is healthy and good for growth. In this video, we’re going to describe seven habits that most people do not like to see in others.
These behaviours tend to cause conflict, promote negativity, and make it hard for people to be around you.
However, we want our viewers to know that usually, these habits are formed due to adverse life experiences. So, it may not be that easy to change them. In such cases, consulting a psychologist may be of some help.
Now, here are seven habits that make people hate you.
One
Arrogance.
Some people display an attitude of superiority and self-centredness. They tend to make everything about themselves. For example, if you’re arrogant, you might have trouble understanding other people’s emotional reactions. Instead, you might think that they’re overreacting and that you’re better than them.
Two
Being two-faced.
Have you ever pretended to be nice in front of someone, only to mistreat them later? Perhaps you were only nice because someone made you do it or you had an audience. Either way, you won’t be hated for the bad behaviour as much as you will be for faking it.
Three
Dishonesty.
Most people hate being lied to. They feel angry, cheated, and silly for not knowing better. If you have a habit of fibbing, others around you will have a hard time trusting you.
Without their trust, you’ll probably sense some kind of hostility. You’ll notice they have their guard up and they keep doubting your intentions. They might even hold a grudge against you for breaking their trust.
Four
Complaining.
It’s never pleasant to have to hear someone constantly rant about what’s wrong. That kind of continuous negativity can feel draining and unnecessary. Notice if you spend a lot of time complaining and ask your friends if they get bothered by it.
It could be that their daily experiences get coloured by your frequent criticism, making them less inclined to hang out with you.
Five
Bad personal hygiene.
When a person is clean and well-groomed, they seem more attractive than usual. However, if you typically skip activities like taking a bath, brushing your teeth, or reducing body odour, people will find it difficult to stay near you. They’ll probably start resenting having to spend time with you.
Sometimes, the poor hygiene is caused by situations out of your control like poverty or disability. In such cases, it’s mean and insensitive for people to hate you, and it’s sad that they don’t care to find out why you’re not presentable.
Six
Deflecting accountability.
No one likes people who don’t take responsibility for their actions. But sadly, a lot of individuals struggle to admit their mistakes and make amends for it. If you too are in the habit of avoiding accountability, it’s likely that you have some haters.
Possibly these are people who were negatively impacted by the consequences of your actions and they got more frustrated when you didn’t own up.
Seven
Manipulation.
Have you ever tried to control someone using deception or emotional blackmail? Manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the behavior or perception of others through indirect, deceptive, or underhanded tactics.
As a habit, it feels like a need to get your way in all situations, by hook or crook. The more scheming you are, the more people will hate you as no one wants to be tricked.
Do any of these habits seem relatable to you? Do you think people might be hating you for these tendencies? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section. We’d love to hear from you.
A link for further reading and the studies & references used in the making of this video are mentioned in the description below.
Thanks for visiting optimist minds, take care. Until next time.
References
- https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2004-22194-005
- https://interpersona.psychopen.eu/index.php/interpersona/article/view/3163
