5 Hidden Signs You are in a Narcissistic Relationship

Hey Optimist Minds!

Are you struggling in your relationship with a particular person? Do they seem to be mad at you ever so often that you feel stressed out? It could be your partner, parent, guardian, sibling, child, boss, teacher, or anyone you have to spend time with on a daily basis.

Narcissism is a set of behaviour patterns that heavily impacts interpersonal relationships. When you’re on the receiving end of it, your relationship with this person feels strained, stressful, and almost fear-inducing. If you’ve done everything you could imagine to improve this relationship, but in vain, you might be dealing with a narcissist.

Since narcissism works insidiously, most people are blind to it. Sometimes we spend years in a narcissistic relationship without realising its true nature. In this video, we will talk about five hidden signs that can help you identify narcissism.

If you discover that these signs describe any of your relationships, we recommend that you consult a mental health professional immediately. Doing so will help you better understand how to cope and recover.

Now, let’s begin.

Number One

You’re always walking on eggshells.

Are you persistently worried about how to behave around this person? Do you carefully select your words or choose silence to avoid an ugly conflict?

Narcissists tend to have this effect on the people in their lives. Since narcissistic individuals are oversensitive to any actual or perceived form of criticism, you must constantly be on alert to avoid their rage.

They may read too much into a casual comment you made or misunderstand a joke. You probably didn’t mean to offend them, but they accuse you of it nonetheless. Consequently, you feel like anything you do might tick off the bomb.

Number Two

You ruminate about how to fix the relationship.

Do you spend hours thinking about what you can do to win this person over? Are you frequently backtracking your steps to see what you should have done differently?

Narcissistic abuse has a way of making us highly anxious. Generally, what you do, does not have a direct impact on the consequences you face. Even if you’re incredibly compliant and you follow through on all of the narcissist’s demands, they may still mistreat you.

That’s because the mistreatment comes from intense shame inside them, which gets projected on others. It has nothing to do with your actions.

Because of this inconsistency, the abuse survivor develops dysfunctional thinking patterns. You keep thinking that if you can just get it right, they’ll be nice to you. So, you incessantly think about how to do that.

Number Three

Your self-worth goes down the drain.

Is your self talk excessively negative? Do you keep telling yourself that you’re no good? Maybe you even feel like you’re a burden to others.

If your self worth fell as the relationship continued, that’s a red flag. The narcissist will try to maintain the delusion that you are the problem. They let you keep thinking it’s your responsibility to fix the relationship. In reality, one person alone cannot take this onus. It’s always a two-way street.

Until that delusion breaks, you’ll feel personally accountable for every conflict. Not being able to make it better despite your efforts leaves you feeling helpless. Pervasive self-doubt, confusion, and low self-worth are the aftermath of this.

Number Four

You’ve stopped taking care of yourself.

Have you been neglecting your nutritional needs? Do you end up skipping meds or appointments because you’re too upset? 

Poor self-care is another hidden sign of a narcissistic relationship. It starts with a feeling of lethargy like you don’t have the energy or the willpower to do it. Next thing you know, you’ve stopped brushing your teeth, taking showers, exercising, or grooming as much as you used to.

Devaluating the self is an eventual consequence of narcissistic abuse. It makes you think so little of yourself that you forget about taking care of your needs. This can also indicate that you might be experiencing depression.

Number Five

Your body is facing chronic stress.

Being around narcissists is understandably quite stressful. With so much anxiety and fear on your mind about the narcissist’s reactions, it’s natural for the body to go into stress mode. When this happens, our muscles become tense or tight, breathing becomes irregular, and our heart beats faster than average. 

The body is also creating a lot of energy, so you feel restless and fidgety. Chronic stress takes a toll on our immune system as well, so you fall sick more often. Other symptoms of this state include skin rashes, constipation, reduced interest in sex, and disturbed sleep. 

So, are these hidden signs things that you can relate to? Did the scenarios described here sound familiar? If yes, then we suggest you seek professional help regardless of whether or not your relationship is narcissistic. Let us know in the comments if this video helped you understand why your relationship isn’t working.

A link for further reading and the studies & references used in the making of this video are mentioned in the description below. 

Thanks for visiting optimist minds, take care. Until next time.

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