15 Psychological Tricks to Find Love

Hey Optimist Minds!

Finding love seems to be one of the big goals in life for most people. If Freddy Mercury were to sing “Can anybody find me somebody to love?” to a psychologist, he might have gotten some helpful tips.

There are several theories and phenomena provided by social psychologists that explain how attraction, love, and dating work. In this video, we’re going to describe fifteen such psychological tricks to find love.

You can try these out to improve the likelihood of someone falling in love with you. However, we must inform you beforehand that these tricks don’t guarantee love; they simply improve your chances.

Now, let’s begin.


Get a good first impression.

Studies show that it takes only about four minutes after meeting someone for us to decide if we like them or not. You can set a good first impression through open body language and confidence.


Maintain eye contact.

When you look into your partner’s eyes for long, your nervous systems start synchronising. Try maintaining eye contact while keeping your body and muscles relaxed. This helps the other person relax too and feel more connected to you.


Have common social circles.

The chances of attraction and falling in love increase when you have mutual friends with the person you’re interested in. This allows your date to see you more frequently, in various settings, and being liked by others.


If you’re a man, get a fitter belly.

This may seem a bit obvious but research shows that a large amount of abdominal fat is seen as an indicator of low testosterone, and thus a low sex drive and poor fertility. 

This may seem a bit like body shaming, but it has more to do with evolutionary factors of interpersonal attraction. You’re more attracted to men who you think can father your children.


Make a mistake in front of your romantic interest.

According to social psychology, making an embarrassing mistake can actually make you seem more attractive. The Pratfall Effect states that people who are considered highly competent are found to be more likeable when they perform an everyday blunder than those who don’t. 

Based on this effect, if you surprise your date by making an error they didn’t think you were capable of, they might like you more. It’ll make you seem more human and relatable.


Look for someone who matches your level of attractiveness.

The matching hypothesis is a psychological phenomenon that argues that people are more likely to form and succeed in a committed relationship with someone who is equally socially desirable in terms of appearance.



Also known as the chameleon effect, mirroring is the behavior in which one person unconsciously imitates the gesture, speech pattern, or attitude of another. If you imitate your date’s postures, mannerisms, facial expressions, it increases the chances of them liking you.


Find someone who looks like your opposite sex parent.

‘Sexual imprinting’ is a psychological concept that asserts that mate preferences are affected by learning at a very young age, usually using a parent as the model. So, you’re more likely to fall for someone if they resemble your mom or dad.


Look for adventure.

Try to do something adventurous for your date like riding roller coasters or going river rafting. According to research, we look most attractive when we’re having an adrenaline rush. It’s also more likely for two people to fall in love if they meet in a dangerous situation.


The mere exposure effect.

This is a psychological phenomenon by which people tend to develop a preference for things merely because they are familiar with them. If you spend more time with someone and increase familiarity, you’re more likely to love each other.


Develop a sense of humour.

People are attracted to those who have a great sense of humour as it is associated with intelligence and honesty. So if you’re able to make your dates laugh, it improves your chances of something more serious.


Express gratitude.

Tell your partner what you appreciate about them and express thanks as often as you can. There is a lot of research that confirms practicing gratitude makes you happier. This spike in happiness can also assist the process of love.


Look at each other’s pictures.

Frequently looking at a photograph of the person you like improves your mood. Experimental studies have revealed that doing so can even reduce pain. Send each other pictures of yourselves to promote love.


Hold your date’s hand.

Did you know that when you hold someone’s hand in a loving manner, you help decrease their levels of stress, fear, and physical pain. It’s also a great way to emotionally connect with someone you want to love.


Cuddle after sex.

Hugging and cuddling whenever you get a chance goes a long way in making us fall in love. Embracing another human body releases oxytocin, a hormone known to relieve pain and stimulate the feeling of being in love.

Have you tried any of these tricks before? Do you know any other psychological tricks that can help one find love?

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Thanks for visiting optimist minds, take care. Until next time.


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