11 Body Language Signs That Scream “Attraction”

Hey Optimist Minds!

Do you get a little confused about the rules of flirting?  Are you unsure of how to communicate to someone that you like them? Or, perhaps, you need some help recognising when others are hitting on you.

Attraction can be communicated without saying a single word. There are various body language signs that can convey the message for you. In this video, we are going to cover eleven such behaviours.

We want our viewers to know that for each of these signs, context matters as well. Not every time you see someone act out these behaviours will they be flirting with you. Sometimes, the best way to know for sure is direct communication.

Having said that, here are eleven body language signs that scream, “attraction”.


Prolonged eye contact.

If someone who likes you is in front of you, they might look deep into your eyes, trying to connect with you. Many research studies have found that looking ito someone’s eyes is an effective strategy in any kind of communication, especially if romantic.



It’s pretty common to gaze at objects of desire. Gazing is to look steadily and intently, especially in admiration. One can be sure that they have someone’s attention if there’s enough gazing involved.



Most pieces of scientific literature on human courting behaviours include smiling as a non-verbal signal of attraction. Think about it, when someone genuinely smiles at you, it makes you feel seen and appreciated.



In some cultures, winking is a popular signal of affection or greeting, mostly used in contexts of sexual attraction. People can also wink if they’re attracted to each other but shouldn’t be to refer to their little secret.


Playing with hair.

When you have long hair, it’s natural to stroke, tussle, or pull them downward with your fingers. But these actions become a lot more frequent when you’re talking to someone you’re attracted to. A 2015 research paper classified this as playful flirting, one of five different flirting styles.


Biting lower lip.

One can also convey sexual attraction to a person by slowly biting their lower lip. This is a delicate move that must be done is a sensual motion because biting lips is also a sign of nervousness.


Licking lips.

Another action involving the lips is to lick them. Again, this must be done in a specific way to count as flirting because licking lips can also be a signal of hunger or anxiety. A slow, circular motion is seen as flirtatious.



To sashaw is to walk in a showy yet casual manner, typically with exaggerated movements of the hips and shoulders. This motion can be done for many situations where you’re trying to impress, including in attraction.


Leaning in.

While talking to someone, if you lean in, you give the impression that you’re interested in them or what they have to say. If you add plenty of eye contact and occasional smiles with the leaning in, you seem to be attracted to the other person.


Accidental brushes.

Nothing screams attraction like multiple accidental brushes within one social gathering. When the attraction is mutual, a light touch can feel electrifying. In crowded places, it’s common for two people attracted to each other to casually brush against each other to subtly feel the other person.



If you’ve watched the Legally Blonde movies, you’re probably familiar with the bend and snap. It’s when you slowly bend down in front of the person you’re attracted to and then, snap back up into a cute standing position. 

Some people like to get back up slowly as well to accentuate all their curves and muscles. In general, bending and displaying the shape of your bottom is another way to show your sexual interest in someone.

Have you tried any of these signs to express your attraction? Do you know of any other methods for the same? Let us know your thoughts and suggestions in the comments. The Optimist Minds community would benefit to hear from you!

A link for further reading and the studies & references used in the making of this video are mentioned in the description below.

Thanks for visiting optimist minds, take care. Until next time.


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